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Subject: Pageant Empty Nester


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Date Posted: 19:06:02 02/26/07 Mon

I'm having a pageant crisis!! Here's my situation... My dd is 17 going on 18 and I don't get to see her do anything anymore. She use to do be a competitive dancer, a pageant girl and a competitive cheerleader. Now, she is doing academic decathalon (which is 6 hours of testing on one subject), which I can't help her with or go see her do. She has a job. She is only taking two jazz technique classes and a hip-hop class this year so that she'll be ready to try out for the dance squad in college. She won't be in a recital this year. Although she wants to try out for So You Think You Can Dance, I'm pretty sure they don't let mom's watch the auditions.
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm VERY VERY PROUD of everything my dd is doing, I use to LIVE to watch her perform and participate in her activities. Now, not only do I not see her "do" anything, I hardly see her at all!! Most nights she doesn't come home until 9-10 o'clock because she is busy with work, busy with school, busy with her boyfriend.
Even though she is going to minor in dance when she goes to college-major in business management-I still won't be able to see her perform because the college she wants to go to is 5 1/2 hours away!!
I think this would all be much easier to deal with, if I hadn't been such a fan of dance and pageants my entire life.
I mean, before my dd was born, and I'm talking WAY before I watched a 20/20 report about the Cinderella pageant. My baby cousin did a pageant back in the early 80's, my sister is a former ballet dancer and actress, my older cousin went to Barbizon back when that meant something. My dd and my neice both did Sunburst in like 92.
All I'm use to is watching people act, dance and do pageants. It's all I know and what I enjoy. I'm STILL mad at ABC for dropping Miss America. I DEVOUR every report, newshow or special that has to do with dancing, acting and pageants--at the age of 43, I turn to MTV every Monday night to watch "Dancelife".
Help me out, guys, I need a support group.

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My heart goes out to you! My dd is "all grown up" and now married. She decided that she wanted to put the life of pageantry away a few years back but I was HOOKED! So, I got involved with directing and judging pageants. Use the knowledge you have gained to get involved with a HS dance team, or some sort of pageantry. I know its not the same, but I am surviving by finding a life OUTSIDE of my children now. I miss my daughter each and every day,I miss our evening talks after she would come home from "her life." But we are actually closer now than were were a few years back. Good Luck "MOM"- you have friends and support here. ~Sugar Cookie (NT)Anonymous19:12:10 02/26/07 Mon

Why not check into directing preliminaries? Does your town host a Little Miss/Miss (insert town name)? Volunteer to help with it. Also you might could work somehow with a dance studio in an office, or even as a "mom away from home" and travel with their company teams as an assistant mom. My dd has danced 10 years now, competitively and non and I ended up as the studio manager LOL. I was always there and the owner liked both my daughter and myself so she offered me the job and I took it. (NT)Anonymous09:13:42 02/27/07 Tue


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