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Date Posted: 16:14:06 07/12/07 Thu
Author: Theresa
Subject: RE: Texasbrats quote from Pamela. It makes me wonder why in the world people in the military have families if they can't put them first. If that's the choice you make for your life, then not having a family would logically be the sacrifice if you're not around for them anyway. Or don't start the family until you're out. It makes no sense to me.
In reply to: Theresa 's message, "A few questions on Frank" on 12:43:21 07/12/07 Thu


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[> [> I think there are loads more people out there that consciously or subconsciously *not* put their family first but still have them. Loads of husbands and/or wives invest heavily (time and energy-wise) into their careers and their work. Granted, they are not physically away as long as would be in the military, but still they'd be seeing very little of their family and not really be involved in the upbringing of their children either. Not that it's always deliberately done, as the workplace is a gready place... Uhm, I had a point... I'm not sure I actually made it though. Just wanted to add this perspective to the whole 'put family first' ideal. If that were a requirement, I believe there'd be very few families left, unfortunately. -- Colie... too much research is demoralizing, 16:32:17 07/12/07 Thu [1]


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[> [> [> And a lot less over crowding and crime. I think it would be awesome if only people who put family first would have them. A lot fewer screwed up kids and unhappy spouses. -- Theresa, 16:56:59 07/12/07 Thu [1]


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[> [> [> [> I totally agree with both of your comments Theresa. That befuddles me as well. :o) -- KH, 19:15:07 07/12/07 Thu [1]


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[> [> [> ITA Colie (but then, we have yet to disagree, lol!). It is very difficult nowadays to put one’s family first always (even if I’m not saying one shouldn’t, it would be nice indeed if possible). Nevertheless, people could try to balance work and family, as one can’t take care of both at the same time with the same dedication. Thus situations like Sherwoods’ could be avoided. After all, I do believe it’s the quality time which is more important than the quantity. Of course, I may be wrong. -- jo, 06:34:13 07/13/07 Fri [1]


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[> [> Let's head inside for this one........ -- Texasbrat, 05:22:40 07/13/07 Fri [1]

Army, Unit, Family is really not any different than the way most companies have been for years. Remember your history about the industrial revolution, when people would work 18 hour days for just pennies a day, & would lose their job if they got hurt or didn't show up one day. And I also remember all the TV shows & movies about people making a decision about whether they wanted to continue climbing the corporate ladder, or get to know their family. At one time there was a real atmosphere in many companies that was company first, you know the "company man" idea. That was a time when it very unpopular for people to take off just to go see their kid's soccer game. That type of climate has changed during the last 20 or so years, but you can still find some companies or bosses with that type of mentality. My hubby worked for one, and he left after two years cuz he didn't want that type of life.

Army, Unit, Family, along with Duty, Honor, Country, are big deals to the military. But it doesn't mean they are down on families. It has to do with their training, from boot camp onward, they are training to defend our country at all costs. They are trained to do a job within their unit, for the job given the Army, so that they can ensure their family continues to enjoy the freedoms we have in this country. Family is what keeps them grounded, brings them home & the family has always, always fought the battle on the homefront, by living life one day at a time.

And another thing to remember, this show is focusing on women and men whose spouses have been deployed on a tour that is unaccompanied & in harm's way. The military has lots of jobs to do, and not all of the require the soldier to leave the base. Many of the soldiers go to work and come home to their family every night, just like civilians.

Okay, I'll shut up for now.

TB


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