VoyForums
[ Show ]
Support VoyForums
[ Shrink ]
VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, [9], 10 ]

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 16:13:24 07/19/07 Thu
Author: Jubellant
Subject: Should read positive side in being a military Dad?
In reply to: Jubellant 's message, "Here we have two families, the Sherwoods where Denise up to this point has done what Frank wanted and the Holden's where Frank says he has listened to and respected his wife for18 years. Denise has been straight laced and Claudia Joy more the experimenter. The Holden household appeared to have a more relaxed atmosphere than the Sherwoods but the outcome is the same. Two teenagers who hate the military life and seem to resent their respective fathers. Is there a positive side to being in a military Dad? Does the discipline it takes to be in the army automatically spill over into your home life?" on 16:07:17 07/19/07 Thu


[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:

[> [> [> I'm not sure there really is a positive side to being a military dad. Being a good dad yes, but a military one, not really. There's no other profession where any man would be seen as honorable making babies knowing he very likely won't be around for long months or maybe years of their kids lives, and can't really be involved in raising them. Especially in this day and age where fathers are expected to participate as much as mothers are. Inside... -- Theresa, 17:21:41 07/19/07 Thu [1]

With these two families, you have men who were most likely away from home quite alot when their children were small and in their bonding years, and then come home and expect to be equally respected and have their orders followed. When their kids don't feel bonded to them. How can any child understand that daddy has to put his career before them? How can any child not feel abandoned in their younger years by someone who chooses to be an absent father on purpose? How can any child believe that their father is deserving of respect when he didn't really raise them?

Michael is good with CJ, but all I've seen him do is order around his kids. He's not like Trevor who is a hands on dad. The only time I've ever seen Michael or Frank hug their children was when CJ was a hostage and when Frank returned home, and even then Jeremy waited for a cue to come and hug his father. CJ understands her kids and has a friendship with them. Michael just barks orders at them unless it's serious crisis like the hostage situation.


[ Edit | View ]

[> [> [> [> I agree wholeheartedly Theresa. :o) -- KH, 18:02:22 07/19/07 Thu [1]


[ Edit | View ]

[ Contact Forum Admin ]

Forum timezone: GMT-8
VF Version: 3.00b, ConfDB:
Before posting please read our privacy policy.
VoyForums(tm) is a Free Service from Voyager Info-Systems.
Copyright © 1998-2019 Voyager Info-Systems. All Rights Reserved.