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Date Posted: 07:25:00 07/30/07 Mon
Author: Texasbrat
Subject: Truth be known, for me, it has more to do with Amanda's 2-year-old "go 'way, me do it" attitude. She was very flippant, & had a bit of an "I dare you to do something" attitude when she pronounced to dad she wasn't going. More in the how she said what she said, than the fact she didn't want to go. I'm from the Deep South in the US, most kids (whether they were 2, 10, or 20) would never have finished the sentance b/c they were too busy picking themselves up off the floor, b/c you just don't speak to adults, especially your parents like she did. If she had asked not to go, or said she didn't want to go camping, it would have been different, but that wouldn't have made for good drama, now would it.
In reply to: Kim 's message, "A little late to the chat" on 11:35:25 07/29/07 Sun


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[> [> That's the problem IMHO with today's kids (teenagers included)....there is no respect, there are no manners, they are just incredibly rude & flippant. I'm not that old, but was taught to say Please & Thank You...to say Yes Sir or Ma'am or call my elders by Mr. or Mrs....nowadays kids call adults by their first names, & have no sense of respect. Amanda still lives under her parents roof, & like I was told, until I can pay my own way I abide by the rules that are set, & that includes family vacations. Amanda is a selfish br*t, & its too bad she doesn't show her parents (especially Michael) respect. -- Jennifer, 08:59:58 07/30/07 Mon [1]


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[> [> [> She should be more respectful to her parents, that's true. But I think it's unfair to "today's kids" to say that there is no respect. I have 20 nieces and nephews, literally. Many of them teens. And though they call adults by their first names and they don't have that wall of seperation where they say "Yes Sir or Ma'am", they are respectful. They says please and thank you, and are grateful for what they have. I couldn't live in a culture where adults pull rank simply because they were born in an earlier year. The respect you give should be the respect you get. Inside... -- Theresa, 09:20:45 07/30/07 Mon [1]

That creates such a separation that kids can't open up and tell them what's going on with their lives. It's difficult to be friends with someone you have to call "Sir" or "Ma'am". Yes parents should be parents first, but they should also have a friendship connection with their kids or they're never going to know what's going on in their lives. Parent/child should not be an adversarial relationship. Yes Amanda should speak more respectfully and kindly, but I saw nothing in her behavior that called for her having to "pick herself up off the floor." Weren't they trying to save her from abuse? Why would they dish it out themselves?


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[> [> [> [> My younger sister was all for telling her older sister that she was 18 and could do what she wanted. I was more the type to think if you want to be treated like an adult, act like one. Lay out a good argument on why you should or shouldn't have to do soomething and most parents are reasonable to have a change of heart to a well thought out dialogue. I know, not all teenagers have that maturity but one thing that gets my goat is disrepectfulness or rudeness. I know it's just a name and have adjusted to this first name stuff LOL, but I truly believe it makes a difference in attitude. A high school teacher of mine I've kept in touch with tells me all the time to call her by her first name it still feels strange decades later! -- Jubellant, 08:50:49 07/31/07 Tue [1]


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[> [> [> [> [> That's exactly how I was as a kid. I wasn't combative, I just laid my case out to my parents if I felt the need. So they wouldn't have to worry about me and what I was doing. That's probably why I got to do whatever I wanted. I don't like rudeness or disrespect. I think Amanda needed to check her tone, even if she didn't change her words. And I personally like the first name thing, and the other things that have developed that bring teens closer to the adults that are educating or parenting them. So many teens believe that no one understands or is on their side, if they feel a comraderie with someone who is older and wiser they'll feel safer and will most likely be more receptive to guidance. -- Theresa, 10:17:31 07/31/07 Tue [1]


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[> [> [> [> [> [> We probably won't agree on the name thing but in reality I think it has nothing to do with the name but is more about how that person relates to you. As Roxy said to her Mom I have friends. Speaking about names we used to have to address each other at work by Miss, Mr. or Mrs over the PA system and would to do it with a tongue in cheek sort of attitude. A co-worker would alway refer to our boss as the Madam which would get under her skin as she thought it made her sound like the head of a brothel, LOL! -- Jubellant, 10:40:31 07/31/07 Tue [1]


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