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Subject: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Jenny [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 03:14:24 07/01/22 Fri Hey I'm Jenny 17 years old. I get spanked by my parents with paddle and belt and want to talk to other girls about it for so long so I found this forum... Yesterdy I got the worst spanking of my life from my mother for drinking alcohol. She paddled me so hard and my ass is bruised it is so painful So I thought about aftercare with lotion. Have you girls used lotion before and can recommend it? Which lotion do you use? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Try cold objects and with care, ice Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:08:46 07/01/22 Fri If you want something that won't show, try cold water or a cold wet rag. The sooner, the better. It works wonders with cooking burns! Your parents are right to make soothing a bit forbidden. Spanking's benefits come mainly from its after-effects. Those reminder twinges that come from plopping down carelessly on a hard bench are really "how it works." [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Try cold objects and with care, ice Author: Jenny [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:07:49 07/01/22 Fri Dont you think this long term pain when sitting down is kinda brutal? I am sure when I had kids I would not paddle them that hard. She really did a number on me... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Try cold objects and with care, ice Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:36:11 07/01/22 Fri Drinking spooks parents, especially if you used alcohol that your parents purchased. Was there some chance that you might have gone for a drive while under the influence? All spankings hurt and the social workers know this so they have an objective criterion for a spanking to be abusive: did it leave marks that could be photographed 24 hours later? If it did, then it was too hard. I personally think that spanking involves an agreement of sorts between parent and son or daughter. The agreement is usually tacit and not written down. This is a long story. You Jenny might try making a deal with your mother. You promise to improve your behavior when spanked MODERATELY. She promises to only spank MODERATELY. It is fair but may not interest either party. And it only works if both parties resolve to make it work. If you do give it a try, post here about it. I would find even one case very helpful. For now all I can say is I would have liked the deal. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Lea [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:09:23 08/27/22 Sat When my parents spank me with hand, is hurts a lot, but I mustn't put anything on my ass after the proper spanking. But after a proper belting my ass burns as Hell and I really must put come creme on it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Rainy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:55:13 09/25/22 Sun Do not put lotion. A spanking is for a purpose partly to suffer pain after the punishment. Rainy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Lea [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:23:17 09/26/22 Mon But how to endure that pain? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:32:00 09/29/22 Thu After my husband gives me a corrective punishment, which is usually his leather belt, sometimes a paddle or cane, I have to go stand in the corner for at least 30 minutes facing the wall to reflect on my punishment and what I can do to be better. Not saying to stand in a corner but after your punishment if you are laying in bed try to relax breathe and reflect on why you were punished and how you can do better to avoid future punishments. Unfortunately I am not allowed to put any lotion or cream on my bottom after. I did that once and my husband took me back down to his study and repeated the punishment but doubled the number of swats and licks. As I had trouble sitting all that week I took note to never apply anything to my punished button again. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Rina [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:23:01 09/30/22 Fri Girls are not allowed to put the lotion or something else on their bottoms after spanking. They also mustn't wear panties for 12 hours at least. So, young lady, lay and sleep on your tummy. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:39:32 10/03/22 Mon Believe I always sleep on my stomach after a corrective punishment from my husband. After he’s done I’m to satay naked from the waist down so he can admire his handiwork and for it to be more painful to sit for me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: ... aftercare? Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:39:49 10/04/22 Tue You, Ashley-91, qualify or describe some of your spankings as corrective punishments. I can see why your guy wants you to keep feeling them for a while. How do you regard them? Do they really improve you as a person? That is, do you welcome and appreciate the behavior modifications that the spankings are intended to produce? If so, then maybe he has a point; the longer you feel the tingle and smart, the more helpful it will be to you. The problem with the above theory is that we are hard-wired to do our best to avoid pain! So, any soothing activities such as rubbing or cooling or adding Pond's cream are very tempting! Not reaching around to rub is fantastically hard to manage. Many of us earned a second round! Perhaps the rational knowledge that the discomfort is genuinely educational and beneficial can help a bit. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: ... aftercare? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:06:33 10/05/22 Wed Hi Alfred, I regard them as needed and consensual corrective punishments. I was disciplined by parents until I was 18 so it wasn’t foreign to me. They have really improved me as a person, I’ve matured a lot in our marriage and I think the lapse in discipline in college years attributed to the wild streak that started and was there when we were first married. I welcome his punishment and agree it’s supposed to have a lasting effect so that is why I don’t seek aftercare and instead focus on what I need to do better in the future and that helps relieve the soreness in my bottom, just a little, lol. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:05:06 10/11/22 Tue Greetings Ms. A-91: Does your maturing mean that now you don't need corrective punishments? If so, are the fun-ishments or non-corrective "punishments a good enough substitute? Or do you still need the real thing? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:01:20 10/11/22 Tue Hi Alfred, Even though I am maturing I still need a corrective punishment once in a while. I also receive weekly maintenance which I’ll admit blurs the line a bit between fun-ishment and non-corrective punishment. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:23:13 10/11/22 Tue Hello Ashley-91! Weekly Maintenance is a lot! But it is good to have reminders scheduled. That way you have no temptation to deliberately engage in brat conduct just to get spanked. And no awkward sessions with hubby having to say Please spank my bare bottom! How intense are those maintenance sessions? What does your husband use on you? Are you bb over his lap? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:36:34 10/12/22 Wed Hi Alfred, yes weekly maintenance was a game changer for us. My husband administers it in our bedroom instead of his study where corrective punishments occur. It consists of a firm otk spanking on the bare, followed by a few each of his belt, paddle, and cane as reminders. Corner time and lecture before and after then ending in a warm bath and fun in bed. This really clears my mind and starts my week of well. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:26:02 10/13/22 Thu Great idea. Use a different room for the "corrective" ones. That allows you to keep them totally separate. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:35:44 10/14/22 Fri Yes it is very effective, zero intimacy associated with corrective punishments down in his study, he’s all business. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Alfred22 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:36:10 10/15/22 Sat Got to love the phrase "the business end of the paddle" since it refers to the part that lands on a naughty bottom. As Ashley-91 notes, when her husband is providing "corrective" punishment, he is "all business!" My emphasis with the exclamation point. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:47:23 10/03/22 Mon Here's a tip, girls: A loving sister comes in handy if you need cold creme rubbed into your bottom. If it is allowed. Personally, I never give cold cream after, nor does the young lady get any. But I dont have anything against the use of it. Mostly up to the parents, I think. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Bruises and aftercare? Author: Kelsey [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:06:08 10/31/22 Mon I used to sit on an ice pack. Sometimes though my dad would not allow me to do that and I had to stay in the living room and feel my butt hurt. It really depended on how angry he was. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]