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Subject: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Louise Vancisic
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Date Posted: 08:45:51 10/19/25 Sun

What is your opinion of the following?




Behavior prior to start of corporal punishment

1. The girl should stand before her parent, hands folded in front, folded in back or holding up her skirt above her waist
2. The girl may be required to explain why she is to be punished or otherwise respond to her parent’s lecture
3. She may apologize and promise to be a good girl as much as she wishes but she may not asked to have her punishment lessened
4. Instructions for clothing to be removed or adjusted by the girl herself must be obeyed promptly.
5. She is allowed to make one request to keep her panties on
6. She may request permission to lower her panties herself but may not object if her request is declined.
7. She is to stand submissively as her parent reaches under her skirt. She may, of course, moan and cry and even say words such as “please Daddy” but she may not directly object to such preparation no matter how long it takes or what parts of her are touched
8. If others are present she is allowed to make one request to be spanked in private
9. The girl being disciplined always fetches the implement (if instructed to) from her room where they hang on a rail behind the door.



Behavior during corporal punishment

1. Absolute compliance is expected to all instructions throughout
2. Whilst crying is allowed and indeed unavoidable (neither girl has ever successfully got through a punishment without crying copiously despite attempts to be stoic) attempting to interfere with a punishment by putting hands in the way or excessive moving out of position is not, and leads to one warning and then increased penalties.
3. I do allow a certain amount of pleading and begging for leniency as think it helps them express their mental state of contrition but I do not allow it to go overboard and do not allow any screaming or bad language even during the severest of thrashings. Crying is sufficient release for emotions



4. If visitors who approve of parental corporal discipline are present in the home, punishments are carried out regardless and no concessions made.

Behavior After spanking

1. No rubbing or touching of the body part that's been punished until permission given.
2. Corner time is with hands behind head or folded behind back as specified in clothing or lack of clothing as decided by me but will invariably be at least bare bottom.
3. Nose must remain as close to corner as possible but without touching. Girls must remain silent except for crying allowed for the duration. No concession given if visitors arrive unless I decide, she is to remain in position.

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[> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Louise Vancisic
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Date Posted: 15:02:01 10/19/25 Sun

Doesn't anyone have something to say? This were the rules of one of my correspondents. I did not agree with them all.
[> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Kelli
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Date Posted: 19:55:40 10/19/25 Sun


Louise, thanks for sharing and which of those steps do you disagree with?
I also wondered why a single request for privacy or panties is allowed, indicating sometimes they will be granted.

Personally, I didn’t mind when my daughter pleaded to keep her panties up or even more desperately not to be spanked in front of witnesses. I’d already decided how bare and who would see but it was satisfying to hear her panic and shame expressed in girlish begging.
It also demonstrated to any witnesses that their presence was adding greatly to my girls spanking.

Helen, who did you spank? Were witnesses strictly family or others also?
PS my worst spankings growing up were the one-piece-suit or leotards off for sure.
[> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Louise Vancisic
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Date Posted: 07:39:07 10/23/25 Thu

Hi Kelli. I will answer your question about the steps shortly. The one request is to show the girl that her parents are open to some to an appeal. Not about whether she will be spanked but only about how. It shows the girl that her parents respect her as a person. They are going to spank her for what she did (or didn't do) but she should know that they still love and respect her.

Did you sometimes agree to your daughter's plea?
[> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Helen
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Date Posted: 18:17:51 10/19/25 Sun

The thing I would personally add is shirt is allowed but if I gotta spank you and you're wearing a one piece it's still coming off.

I would also add a quick sentence to allow for frontal cornertime in very major serious offenses, which would require turning around to face the room for a brief period time at the very end.

Also I personally reward full cooperation and submission with foregoing the use of an implement and keeping it a hand spanking. I've always liked the intimacy of open hand on bare bottom spanking, and anyway since the punishment is naturally and extremely shameful there's no need to overdue it when it comes to pain, as the embarrassment is sufficiently effective and honestly longer lasting.

Depending on the severity of the offense no I don't care who's watching. I don't really get allowing them to ask for modesty and then privacy, but I would reverse the order and have them ask for privacy then modesty. Not that it really matters, that's just how I personally have experienced those pleas being made. I'm curious what specific scenarios the girl would be allowed to keep her panties or be taken to a private room? Or is the point that she will be told no and there's nothing she can do about it.
[> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Louise
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Date Posted: 15:24:58 10/24/25 Fri

Hi Helen. Thanks for your thoughtful response. Here is my response to you. Do you have personal experience on this matter that you would like to share?


Helen:
The thing I would personally add is shirt is allowed but if I gotta spank you and you're wearing a one piece it's still coming off.

Louise: I can agree with that.

Helen: I would also add a quick sentence to allow for frontal cornertime in very major serious offenses, which would require turning around to face the room for a brief period time at the very end.

Louise; I can agree with that also. What sort of offenses would merit such a special shaming?

Helen: Also I personally reward full cooperation and submission with foregoing the use of an implement and keeping it a hand spanking. I've always liked the intimacy of open hand on bare bottom spanking, and anyway since the punishment is naturally and extremely shameful there's no need to overdue it when it comes to pain, as the embarrassment is sufficiently effective and honestly longer lasting.

Louise: I largely agree with you, but I would keep the option of an implement. My mother introduced me to the hairbrush when I was about 11. But she used it only for serious offenses.

Helen: Depending on the severity of the offense no I don't care who's watching. I don't really get allowing them to ask for modesty and then privacy, but I would reverse the order and have them ask for privacy then modesty. Not that it really matters, that's just how I personally have experienced those pleas being made. I'm curious what specific scenarios the girl would be allowed to keep her panties or be taken to a private room? Or is the point that she will be told no and there's nothing she can do about it.

Louise: I would agree that privacy would be a first priority if both are an issue. Most spankings however are administered privately so the girl is more concerned with modesty. I can see the parent compromising if the girl offers something in return. Such as offering to take a second spanking to be spared the humiliation of being spanked in front of witnesses. Generally such indulgence will not be granted if that is the prescribed sentence.
[> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Natalie
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Date Posted: 19:43:57 10/19/25 Sun

I think it's easiest to respond piece by piece. My overall opinion is this seems overly strict and structured, especially for a young girl which is what is sounds to be tailored for.

Behavior prior to start of corporal punishment

1. The girl should stand before her parent, hands folded in front, folded in back or holding up her skirt above her waist

-- When I'm in front of my parents for a pre-spanking lecture or scolding, I'm expected to stand up straight and keep my arms at my sides. According to my dad crossed arms means closed ears. So I can understand this rule to an extent and I think the purpose should be about fostering listening to the parent's concerns or the lesson they are trying to teach. I can't see any point beyond deliberate embarrassment for having to hold my skirt up during a lecture. Thankfully, that's not a rule my parents have.

2. The girl may be required to explain why she is to be punished or otherwise respond to her parent’s lecture

-- My parents explain to me why they think a spanking is necessary. I am allowed to respond with my own thoughts, but it's usually pointless to tell them I don't need a spanking. My parents lectures are always interactive and "I don't know" is always the worst possible thing for me to say. I'm always given the opportunity to tell my side of the story and defend my actions or behavior. Sometime I get lucky and my parents will see things my way. I'm glad my parents don't think it's my responsibility to explain to them why I'm being punished. That just sounds backwards to me. I think engaging with the lecture is beneficial to everyone.

3. She may apologize and promise to be a good girl as much as she wishes but she may not asked to have her punishment lessened

-- When I'm in the wrong and know it, I will apologize. It's the right thing to do. If I thought a punishment was too harsh or severe I would tell them. I've tried to negotiate shorter periods of being grounded with mixed results. My parents allow it as long as I don't get annoying with it. If I get annoying, like asking too many times, they'll give a warning for consequences if I annoy them about it again. Apologies and promises for better behavior are normal and should be seen as a sign of positive adjustment. I don't think discussions over the punishment should be banned, but I can understand parents putting a limit on those discussions and sticking to their original decision.

4. Instructions for clothing to be removed or adjusted by the girl herself must be obeyed promptly.

-- When the lecture is done and it's time for the spanking, I'm expected to remove my own clothing as directed and in a prompt manner. Discussion time is over and trying to drag things out at that point is viewed by my parents as disobedience requiring extra punishment. My parents are definitely in alignment with this rule and I understand it, but it's not always easy to follow.

5. She is allowed to make one request to keep her panties on

-- Yeah, that never happens. It's pointless with my parents. I guess I like the idea of being able to make the request, but only if there is a real chance it would be granted. Otherwise it just sounds mean.

6. She may request permission to lower her panties herself but may not object if her request is declined.

-- I always get to do that myself so I don't have to ask. Like it's a privilege? I guess it's supposed to be more humiliating if the parent does it? This entire rule just comes off as weird and a little creepy because of the whole no objecting thing. If you can't talk about it and explain it, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

7. She is to stand submissively as her parent reaches under her skirt. She may, of course, moan and cry and even say words such as “please Daddy” but she may not directly object to such preparation no matter how long it takes or what parts of her are touched

-- This sounds like "Daddy" is doing something far, far worse than preparing to give a spanking. Maybe this is why he doesn't allow any objections? I know that's probably not what's going on, but it sounds bad. There is a waistband and no real need to touch anywhere else to pull the panties down.

8. If others are present she is allowed to make one request to be spanked in private

-- My parents think spankings are more effective when they are witnessed. Most of the time it's just one or both of my brothers watching. Embarrassing, but I'm also used to it. This rule on it's own is something I would like if it was a real possibility, but with my parents spankings aren't private.

9. The girl being disciplined always fetches the implement (if instructed to) from her room where they hang on a rail behind the door.

-- I always have to get the implement and bring it to my parents. The paddle is in the garage hanging next to my dad's workbench. The short strap is in the top drawer of a little table by the front door. I hate doing it, but it's not unreasonable. I used to really take my time getting the implement so now I'm timed. 3 minutes to get the paddle and 2 for the strap. Extra spanks if I don't make it in time.



Behavior during corporal punishment

1. Absolute compliance is expected to all instructions throughout

-- Acceptance and cooperation is what my parents expect. "Absolute compliance" has a tone of unreasonable expectations. Spankings hurt and reactions to it can be involuntary and difficult to control.

2. Whilst crying is allowed and indeed unavoidable (neither girl has ever successfully got through a punishment without crying copiously despite attempts to be stoic) attempting to interfere with a punishment by putting hands in the way or excessive moving out of position is not, and leads to one warning and then increased penalties.

-- Crying is normal. Why does it need to be specifically allowed? Strange. Involuntary reactions happen as I've already stated so reasonable expectations are needed when it comes to moving around and reaching back and moving out of position. If the reactions go beyond what is reasonable and become more of a resistance to the spanking, I can understand there being penalties.

3. I do allow a certain amount of pleading and begging for leniency as think it helps them express their mental state of contrition but I do not allow it to go overboard and do not allow any screaming or bad language even during the severest of thrashings. Crying is sufficient release for emotions

-- No screaming or cursing sounds reasonable to me. Pleading and begging for leniency is kind of a normal reaction when you feel like you can't take anymore. I don't know what would qualify as going overboard with it.

4. If visitors who approve of parental corporal discipline are present in the home, punishments are carried out regardless and no concessions made.

-- Yeah, that happens sometimes. I've been spanked in front of relatives, family friends, neighbors, and a few others. I don't like this rule at all, but I have to admit I am usually on my best behavior whenever there are guests around. In that respect I guess it's effective.

Behavior After spanking

1. No rubbing or touching of the body part that's been punished until permission given.

-- No rubbing until I'm released from standing in time out. More or less the same rule. It can be a struggle, but I guess it's a normal rule. A spanked butt is supposed to hurt or something like that.

2. Corner time is with hands behind head or folded behind back as specified in clothing or lack of clothing as decided by me but will invariably be at least bare bottom.

-- We call it time out. Hands on head, elbows as far back as they go, back straight, legs straight, chin up, eyes open. There is no covering up or hiding. I'm expected to stand still and think about my behavior and the lesson I'm supposed to learn. Another rule I'm not fond of, but punishments aren't supposed to be pleasant. Or so I hear.

3. Nose must remain as close to corner as possible but without touching. Girls must remain silent except for crying allowed for the duration. No concession given if visitors arrive unless I decide, she is to remain in position.

-- The few times I've stood in an actual corner I was told to keep my elbows touching the adjacent walls. Usually I'm directed someplace that is both easily visible and out of the way. Most often that mean beneath a hanging lamp in the entry way facing the front door with the stairs behind me, the living room directly to my right and the kitchen to my left. Basically, grand central for our house. I'm not allowed to talk during time out unless directed otherwise by my parents. Crying is still normal and no rule is needed for that. Guests are irrelevant to time out. My parents think the time out period is just as important as the spanking. I'm not thrilled about it and the position gets very tiring, but it makes sense and has purpose.
[> [> Subject: this is lunacy


Author:
Emily Travers (beyond words)
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Date Posted: 00:23:57 10/20/25 Mon

Uh, you are seriously being abused . And since this forum seems to be about flouting the law, let me recommend you do the same with your deadbeat parents....
[> [> [> Subject: Re: this is lunacy


Author:
Natalie
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Date Posted: 15:15:40 10/20/25 Mon

I'm sorry if you were abused and something I wrote was triggering for you. Your concern for me is appreciated, but unnecessary.

My parents can be frustrating, overbearing, over protective and overly strict at times, but I think it's completely unfair to call them abusive. They have never caused me any real harm and I do not live in fear. I can't imagine what gave you the idea my parents were deadbeats. They are not. My parents work hard and they always take care of their responsibilities and obligations.
[> [> [> Subject: my apologies


Author:
Emily Travers
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Date Posted: 15:30:05 10/20/25 Mon

I'll have to eat crow on this and fall back on what I said in another thread. It's beyond me why anyone would put up with such parents but it just reminds me how lucky I myself have been, and I am relieved that you are not fearful of them. Our personalities must be very different. My apologies to you. See my last note in the 'mountie' thread.
[> [> [> [> Subject: the background landscape


Author:
Emily Travers
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Date Posted: 15:57:35 10/20/25 Mon

And that personality difference might be symptomatic, or even near the root, of the state of my country these days. Truly 'a house divided'. I should add that my partner and I used to run a VOY called 'The Anti-Spanking Space'. There was some support out there but generally little action. It took too much time to maintain so we dumped it over two years ago now.

But case in point: our position was that cp should be universally banned for all from age 8 and up, which is when the human brain, according to our neuroscientists, develops the pathways to fully understand rational argument and make ethical decisions without threat of behavioristic reward or punishment. Well, immediately there was someone on there torching us for being 'hypocrites', and not standing up for younger children. So you can't win.

We learned that no matter how neocon or hippyesque you might be, there's always someone out there further down each road.

I also want to reassure you that I have never been abused, even by my wider definition. I have led rather a charmed life, and though I have a boring job (who doesn't?) I have no business complaining. And if you read my partner's memoir, you'll see that the two of us have had enough excitement to last a lifetime already, most of it due to our own recklessness and I dare say vanity as well.
[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: my apologies


Author:
Natalie
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Date Posted: 18:12:25 10/20/25 Mon

I've decided to take your initial comment as voicing concern for my well being and there is no need to apologize for that, but all the same I accept and appreciate your apology.

I put up with my parents because they're my parents. We have our struggles and I definitely wish they'd stop spanking, but overall they're not that bad. Some of my friends have a much harder time with their parents. I've witnessed some blowups over practically nothing and it's made me appreciate how decent my parents actually are.

It's an interesting idea to ban spanking for older kids. As I guess you discovered on your forum, I just can't imagine you finding much support for it where I live. I know there are a lot of different perspectives, but a consistent theme is parents should decide what's right for their kids and the government should stay out of it. I got into a debate about this with one of my teachers last year because I felt compelled to point out that without the government's involvement there is no way to protect children from actual abuse. I have a bad habit of playing devil's advocate with my teachers. For some reason they don't all appreciate it.

I am pleased to hear you weren't abused. We definitely have different personalities. I don't think anyone I know would call me reckless. Maybe a little vain sometimes, but definitely not reckless.
[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: my apologies


Author:
Emily Travers
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Date Posted: 19:28:08 10/20/25 Mon

Well, all that's years behind me in any case. I'm no huge fan of government myself but, I agree with you, at the same time some people can't be trusted to live civilly and as well, there is a wide difference of sense regarding what is healthy so we do need the law in general. And yes, I live on the West Coast so it is likely more 'liberal' out here.

And my original comment was simple dismay and disbelief. Good for you for taking on authority figures in general though.

And of course, none of us can choose our parents!
[> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Brenda
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Date Posted: 20:35:54 10/21/25 Tue


Natalie, I was also bare bottom spanked well into my teens. My brother, 2-yrs-younger, was also spanked.
Your spankings sound difficult to take and I admire how you handle it. I assume your brothers are also spanked?

I see your point about it not being a “privilege “ to bare yourself as it won’t change the bare bottom experience. But I did find it more embarrassing when my panties were taken down and all I could do was stand there blushing.
When I was allowed I could get it over quickly instead of mom making a big deal out of lowering my panties.

I’m curious about you having to fetch the implement. Both sound wicked bad but do you bring them for your lecture or go get them after you bare yourself? We usually didn’t have to do that but a few times mom would hand spank me in the kitchen then decide to add some spoon so I had to get off her lap and get her the spoon while sobbing “no more.”

We were only spanked when deserved and raised with love so I share your attitude that spankings are effective and just part of growing up.
However, my parents also believed in witnessed spankings and I do have some resentment over getting spanked - bare bottom! - in front of so many people!
Seems like you also have a variety of folks who may see you (and your brothers?) get spanked.
And I get that relatives were present for my panties coming down etc but it really bothered me others like you mentioned like parents’ friends, babysitters and neighbors got to see me kicking and bawling.

How did your neighbors see? And any other kids/teens?

Mom’s lady friend from across the street saw me spanked many times and worse a few times when her young daughter was also watching. Being bare bottom spanked at 14 is bad enough without having to face the same neighbors later who had recently watched me in all my shame.
And being 13 marched next door to be spanked (for a prank gone wrong)in front of Mr J an old guy who was all to pleased when I had to take my jeans off and then the whole panties-pulled-down spanking show.
Or at 15 when dad yanked down my bikini pants for a poolside spanking in front of my brother AND his friend!

So I feel for you and hope you outgrow spankings soon!
[> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Brenda
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Date Posted: 20:45:55 10/23/25 Thu



Natalie, thanks for sharing!

I see your point about feeling like you are fully agreeing to your spanking by baring yourself to be spanked. Especially if you don’t fully agree? And I suppose if you then had to walk bare bottom to fetch the implement how you got bared was the least of your worries!
I’m sorry to say my mom sometimes did make a “big deal” out of getting my panties down. Her fingers looped under the waistband, she’d ask, “What did I say would happen for missing curfew again?”
“A…a spanking” I’d stammer face red weeping.
“I promised to pull down your panties, put you over my lap, and roast your bare rump didn’t I ?”
“Yes ma’m”
“Then let’s get these panties OFF” while SLOWLY tugging down down down..

Once I made it worse myself, at 13 about to be spanked in front of the lady across the street. I felt too old for her to see me with no panties so I begged mom to let me keep them up.

WhY?”
“Because it’s too embarrassing! I’m 13! Don’t let HER see!”

“You should be embarrassed and if you think you are too old for a bare bottom spanking let’s show our guest that’s too bad for you!”
She slipped my panties down to my ankles, asking, “There young lady so you still feel too big to have your panties pulled down to be spanked?”

So yes, extremely humiliating baring sessions. But oh my about as humiliating as it must be to be naked below your waist and have to invite your brothers to see you strapped or paddled. Do. you usually have the implement already?
What’s the procedure when your brothers are spanked?

So you know how humbling it is as.teen girl spanked in front of so many people including younger kids. Anyone you particularly hate seeing?
And your after spanking exposure sounds wicked bad! Right out in the open!
We never really had exposure after spankings but my worse. humiliation was doing a wild spanking dance All eyes on me grabbing my burning red buns prancing around flashing my front fur to my audience.
[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


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Erin17 to Brenda
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Date Posted: 07:58:40 10/24/25 Fri

How long ago was this? You mentioned "front fur" and at 17 I have mine and so does one of my friends.
[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Louise Vancisic
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Date Posted: 15:32:13 10/25/25 Sat

Natalie - How did your cousin set you up and what happened? How did she handle watching you get punished?
[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Natalie
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Date Posted: 19:04:44 10/27/25 Mon

Heather isn't my cousin. She's the daughter of a friend of my dad's. The most recent incident where she succeeded in getting me spanked happened over Labor Day weekend.

On the car ride out to the lake I got into a rather dumb argument with my mom. My mom was nagging me about putting on sunscreen and instead of placating her, I got annoyed. I'm a natural redhead and have a very fair complexion with too many freckles. I sunburn easily and when I was 11 I got a really bad sunburn because I completely ignored putting on sunscreen even though I had promised my mom I would take care of it. I learned my lesson because it took about two weeks before everything didn't hurt or itch and around a month before my skin finally stopped peeling. It was over four years ago, but the way my mom talks about it you'd think it happened last month.

When we got to the lake, my dad pulled me aside and told me I needed to apologize to my mom and fix my attitude before it got me into real trouble. It was not a great start for the weekend or our multi-family outing, but I bit my tongue and apologized to my mom.

After we got our things into the cabin, I decided to sit out by the lake and get some of my school reading done. I don't know if Heather overheard something or just observed the tension between me and my parents, but not long after I started reading she came over to me and started probing into what was going between me and my parents. I tried to ignore her, but she snatched my book away. It turned into an argument and I raised my voice which caught my dad's attention. Heather then told my dad that I was ignoring her and she only took my book to get me to get me to be polite and greet her. My dad pulled me a few steps away and I tried to explain I was ignoring her because she asking rude questions that were none of her business. He took Heather's side and told me if he had to talk to me again about my attitude I'd be getting a spanking. Heather definitely heard the threat, but she acted all polite and gracious while I apologized to her in front of my dad.

A little while later, she set up a chair next to me and started playing music on her phone. I asked her turn it off or go sit someplace else and she refused. So I decided to move, but within five minutes it was the exact same thing in my new location. I raised my voice at her and told her to leave me alone. Heather then launched into this apology and claimed she was just trying to cheer me up. I called her deranged and demanded she stay away from me only to realize my dad was within earshot and paying attention. Heather had put on the whole little show to get my dad to see me being "mean" to her.

Obviously, my dad saw exactly what Heather wanted him to see and he followed through on his threat to spank me. I have no doubt Heather enjoyed the show. Afterward when I was in time out, she added her own lecture for everyone to hear about how I needed to stop trying to ruin everyone else's day just because I was in a bad mood. I know she said some other stuff too, but I was so upset I wasn't really listening.

After the time out, my parents decided it was best if they kept a closer eye on me and kept me busy for the rest of the day. I was glad to be busy and away from Heather, but embarrassed and a little angry about the spanking. My mom told me I need to learn to be polite and get along with people I don't like. As if it's that easy when someone is trying to provoke a situation to get you in trouble.
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Louise
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Date Posted: 17:32:25 10/30/25 Thu

Thankfully I never encountered someone like that. I knew of a girl who's younger step-sister was favored and could provoke her and get her in trouble. And the stepsister would get to watch as the older girl had her skirt turned up and stepmom's hand robustly applied to her bottom till she was sobbing.

Were you spanked bare in front of Heather? Did you have other incidents with her?
[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking Protocol


Author:
Natalie
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Date Posted: 17:49:58 10/24/25 Fri

I honestly can’t imagine either of my parents ever being like that. It just sounds so unnecessarily demeaning. It’s bad enough getting the lecture and having to bare myself for the spanking. The one part does that does sound a little like my parents is they will sometimes make a point of the fact that they had warned me before I forced them into following through or if I had been punished before for the same thing and recently enough that I should still remember. Their tone is more disappointed or frustrated rather than mean or taunting.

I am supposed to find and inform my brothers before I go get the implement for a spanking. Often when I arrive with the paddle my parents will be in the middle of explaining why I’m getting a spanking to my brothers. For Noah’s benefit it’s usually a simplified version of the circumstances and sometimes Nathan will get a more detailed explanation after my spanking while I’m in time out.

The spanking process is the same for Nathan as it is for me. Noah is at the age where he sometimes get a more formalized spanking like Nathan and I just without the implement. However, most of the time his spankings are more immediate for behavior that needs to be corrected immediately. In those cases mom or dad will scold him, quickly bare his bottom and put him over their knee for a quick spanking. The whole thing is done and over with in about a minute. He’ll usually get a 5 or 10 minute time out sitting on a little stool right after, but that’s it.

A few times a year we will get together with some other families, friends and relatives, for a day, a weekend or a long weekend. One of those is the family of a friend of my dad’s from work. My dad’s friend and his wife are nice enough, but their daughter, Heather, is the one person I would banish from those gatherings if I could. She’s a year older than me and never lets me or anyone else forget it. The worst thing about her is she’s a complete fake. All the adults think she is this sweet and enormously responsible girl while in reality she’s constantly scheming to get one of us younger kids in trouble. She doesn’t always succeed, but it never blows up in her face the way it should. I absolutely hate for her see me get a spanking. Thankfully, it doesn’t happen to me very often at these gatherings, but when it has, she’s usually at least partially responsible.

When it comes to that wild after spanking dance, I think most of us do one. It’s instinctual to try to shake out the stinging and burning. I don’t think it really works, but my parents don’t allow me to indulge in it for more than about a minute and, if I grab my butt, it ends even faster as well as earning me extra swats.
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Date Posted: 16:53:27 10/22/25 Wed

My brothers are spanked too. Noah, he’s 9, is the most likely to get a spanking. He only gets spanked by hand. Nathan is almost 13 and when he gets spanked it’s the paddle or short strap, just like me.

I think the undressing part for a spanking is probably about as embarrassing either way it happens. I don’t recall ever seeing a parent make a show of it or dragging it out, but I feel like that would be awfully humiliating. When I’ve seen a parent do the baring, it’s usually a little kid and the parent is quick about it and getting to the spanking. I often feel like I’m making a tacit admission of guilt by obediently doing it myself regardless of what I might actually think and feel in the moment. I just also know I’ll only make things worse for myself if I don’t do it or even if I take too long doing it. It’s best to just get it over with and suffer through the embarrassment.

My parents don’t have me fetch the implement until after the lecture and I’ve gotten undressed. Unless my brothers are already present, I have to inform them I’m getting a spanking and their presence is expected as well as going to get the implement. It’s always awkward and embarrassing and my brothers usually have a smirk on their face as soon as they see me. If I’m getting the paddle I have 3 minutes and that doesn’t leave much time to spare because it’s a little longer walk to the garage. I only get 2 minutes for the short strap because it is kept really close to the living room and dining room where most of my spanking take place so the time is almost entirely for informing my brothers.

I’ve heard a wooden cooking spoon can be worse than the paddle, but thankfully I’ve never had the displeasure. One of my friends used to get that from her mom. As far as I know she stopped getting spanked when we started high school.

I definitely wish my parents would keep spankings more private and I have very little doubt my brothers agree because yes, they also get spanked in front of others. I wouldn’t say I resent my parents over it. I know they don’t go out of their way to make it happen. They just don’t go out of their way to make it not happen. When I get a spanking it’s always because I messed up in someway and my parents feel a spanking is the appropriate consequence. I don’t always agree, but I do understand it’s their decision and responsibility, not mine. The best thing I can do is try to stay out of trouble in the first place.

My parents are friends with a few of our neighbors and friendly with the rest. I have a couple friends that live nearby and both my brothers have several friends nearby as well. So it’s not uncommon, especially on the weekends, for people to stop by and visit with my parents for a while. The ones with young kids bring them along. Also Noah in particular will have friends over and their parents will come too. Sometimes it’s just to drop off and pickup later, but sometimes they’ll stay and hang out with my parents and help keep watch. If I happen to be in for a spanking or manage to earn one while they’re at the house, then those neighbors, friends, guests, kids get to see it. The bad part is my parents will often sit on an issue they intend to spank us for, except for Noah, until Saturday when they have more time to deal with it. They do like to get it over with early in the day so that reduces the odds of someone already being at the house, but it still happens on occasion. A little more often, people will arrive while I’m still in time out after the spanking and that’s not really any less embarrassing.

I know that feeling all too well of being too embarrassed and ashamed to face people after they’ve seen me get spanked or standing in time out after. At the same time I know if I’m not polite and friendly with them, they’ll very likely be seeing me get another spanking. It usually takes a good month before I can see them and not immediately remember the spanking. It sounds like we’ve had a few similar experiences, Brenda so I can empathize with those very embarrassing situations. I definitely won’t be kicking anymore soccer balls over the fence no matter how annoying the boys get with it.
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Date Posted: 19:11:16 10/22/25 Wed

Natalie, unless I am blind I cant' seem to see. where stated your age?
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Date Posted: 19:30:18 10/22/25 Wed

I thought I had said, but I guess not. I'll be 16 in just over two weeks.
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Date Posted: 07:37:40 10/23/25 Thu

I'm not that much older than you but you are way more articulate than I am that's for sure. Glad you found this forum and I hope you stick around and contribute when you can.
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Date Posted: 15:50:14 10/24/25 Fri

Hi Natalie. Thank you for thoughtful and detailed response. I shall break this up into comments before, during and after the administration of corporal punishment. I will start with the behavior before the spanking begins.

Natalie: I think it's easiest to respond piece by piece. My overall opinion is this seems overly strict and structured, especially for a young girl which is what is sounds to be tailored for.

Behavior prior to start of corporal punishment

1. The girl should stand before her parent, hands folded in front, folded in back or holding up her skirt above her waist

Natalie: When I'm in front of my parents for a pre-spanking lecture or scolding, I'm expected to stand up straight and keep my arms at my sides. According to my dad crossed arms means closed ears. So I can understand this rule to an extent and I think the purpose should be about fostering listening to the parent's concerns or the lesson they are trying to teach. I can't see any point beyond deliberate embarrassment for having to hold my skirt up during a lecture. Thankfully, that's not a rule my parents have.

Louise: I understand your point Natalie. The point is to add to the embarrassment which is a key part of the punishment. What are you wearing during the pre-spanking lecture? So, you can be grateful to your parents for that consideration.

2. The girl may be required to explain why she is to be punished or otherwise respond to her parent’s lecture

Natalie: My parents explain to me why they think a spanking is necessary. I am allowed to respond with my own thoughts, but it's usually pointless to tell them I don't need a spanking. My parents’ lectures are always interactive and "I don't know" is always the worst possible thing for me to say. I'm always given the opportunity to tell my side of the story and defend my actions or behavior. Sometimes I get lucky and my parents will see things my way. I'm glad my parents don't think it's my responsibility to explain to them why I'm being punished. That just sounds backwards to me. I think engaging with the lecture is beneficial to everyone.

Louise: I like the approach of you and your parents. However, requiring a verbal confession ensures that the girl knows exactly why she is going to be spanked.

3. She may apologize and promise to be a good girl as much as she wishes but she may not asked to have her punishment lessened

Natalie: When I'm in the wrong and know it, I will apologize. It's the right thing to do. If I thought a punishment was too harsh or severe I would tell them. I've tried to negotiate shorter periods of being grounded with mixed results. My parents allow it as long as I don't get annoying with it. If I get annoying, like asking too many times, they'll give a warning for consequences if I annoy them about it again. Apologies and promises for better behavior are normal and should be seen as a sign of positive adjustment. I don't think discussions over the punishment should be banned, but I can understand parents putting a limit on those discussions and sticking to their original decision.

Louise: Again I commend your parents. They demonstrate the optimal mix of love and discipline. My friend says that he does not permit negotiating on the extend of the spanking but will listen to one appeal on allowing panties to remain up. Did you ever go beyond the limit of being annoying? Do they allow you to negotiate on a spanking>

4. Instructions for clothing to be removed or adjusted by the girl herself must be obeyed promptly.

Natalie: When the lecture is done and it's time for the spanking, I'm expected to remove my own clothing as directed and in a prompt manner. Discussion time is over and trying to drag things out at that point is viewed by my parents as disobedience requiring extra punishment. My parents are definitely in alignment with this rule and I understand it, but it's not always easy to follow.

Louise: How much clothing are you required to remove? I actually preferred to take my own panties rather than have my mother do it.

5. She is allowed to make one request to keep her panties on

Helen: Yeah, that never happens. It's pointless with my parents. I guess I like the idea of being able to make the request, but only if there is a real chance it would be granted. Otherwise it just sounds mean.

Louise: Both my mother and my correspondent did occasionally allow panties to remain up.

6. She may request permission to lower her panties herself but may not object if her request is declined.

Natalie: I always get to do that myself so I don't have to ask. Like it's a privilege? I guess it's supposed to be more humiliating if the parent does it? This entire rule just comes off as weird and a little creepy because of the whole no objecting thing. If you can't talk about it and explain it, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Louise: My mother saw it as a privilege. It was more humiliating when she did it. Most times I was granted that privilege and I was grateful for it.

7. She is to stand submissively as her parent reaches under her skirt. She may, of course, moan and cry and even say words such as “please Daddy” but she may not directly object to such preparation no matter how long it takes or what parts of her are touched

Natalie: This sounds like "Daddy" is doing something far, far worse than preparing to give a spanking. Maybe this is why he doesn't allow any objections? I know that's probably not what's going on, but it sounds bad. There is a waistband and no real need to touch anywhere else to pull the panties down.

Louise: Daddy is augmenting the humiliation to emphasize his authority. His daughter understands that she is completely at the mercy of his will. The man assured me that there is nothing sexual in such a preparation.

8. If others are present she is allowed to make one request to be spanked in private

Natalie: My parents think spankings are more effective when they are witnessed. Most of the time it's just one or both of my brothers watching. Embarrassing, but I'm also used to it. This rule on it's own is something I would like if it was a real possibility, but with my parents spankings aren't private.

Louise: Are all or most of your spankings done in front of your brothers? Does it work the other way? How often are you spanked?

9. The girl being disciplined always fetches the implement (if instructed to) from her room where they hang on a rail behind the door.

Natalie: -- I always have to get the implement and bring it to my parents. The paddle is in the garage hanging next to my dad's workbench. The short strap is in the top drawer of a little table by the front door. I hate doing it, but it's not unreasonable. I used to really take my time getting the implement so now I'm timed. 3 minutes to get the paddle and 2 for the strap. Extra spanks if I don't make it in time.

Louise: Do you also get spanked by hand?
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Date Posted: 20:31:21 10/24/25 Fri

1. Louise: I understand your point Natalie. The point is to add to the embarrassment which is a key part of the punishment. What are you wearing during the pre-spanking lecture? So, you can be grateful to your parents for that consideration.

Most often I’m either wearing my school uniform because it’s a school day or wearing my nightgown because it’s Saturday morning and I just got up. Outside of those times, it’s whatever I’m wearing when I get into trouble.

2. Louise: I like the approach of you and your parents. However, requiring a verbal confession ensures that the girl knows exactly why she is going to be spanked.

I think this isn’t really necessary between my parents and I because by the time they’re done with the lecture any lingering disagreement isn’t over what I did or didn’t do or said or didn’t say. It’s mostly over whether or not a spanking is needed to correct it or whether or not my choice was justifiable. I’ve come to the conclusion that sometimes I’m never going to see some circumstances the way my parents do and other times my perspective will be adjusted with a little more private thought.

A spanking I got just before the start of the school year is a good example. I had just received my reading list from the school and I printed out a copy for my mom and put it on her desk so she’d see it when she got home. The email was sent to her too, but this is what my mom expects me to do when I get an email from school. A little while after I heard my mom get home from work, I went down to her office to ask if I could use her credit card to order the books. My mom wasn’t there. I found out later she had stepped out to talk with one of our neighbors. Her credit card was sitting on top of the email I’d printed out on her desk. I saw it and assumed that meant my mom wanted me to order the books. I grabbed her credit card went up to my room and ordered my books. When I came back downstairs my mom was frantically searching for her credit card. At first she was relieved seeing it in my hand, but then when she asked where I’d found it and I told her I’d taken it off her desk and ordered my books, she was dismayed.

I got quite the lecture from my mom and my dad, who arrived home less than five minutes into it. My parents were very upset I had just picked up the card and used it to buy stuff without getting their permission first. The fact that I thought I had permission because of how I found the card wasn’t good enough for them and in their eyes it was a betrayal of trust on top of stealing. We didn’t have any disagreement about what I did or even that I shouldn’t have done it. I understood I had made an error in judgment. Where I disagreed with my parents was that a spanking was necessary.

Their mind was made up and I accepted their decision because they’d heard me out. They even acknowledged having an understanding of my perspective, but they insisted that my perspective was completely wrong. My misunderstanding simply wasn’t a good enough excuse for them.

When I arrived in the living room with the paddle, my dad was explaining why I was getting a spanking to my brothers. I was just in time to hear the very simplified version, “Natalie took mom’s credit card without permission and used it. The credit card is a way to access the money mom earns for all the hard work she does every week. Taking something that doesn’t belong to you without permission from the owner is theft. Spending someone else’s money without their permission is theft. Natalie stole from mom and that is very bad behavior. Stealing is never OK.”

After hearing that simplified version it finally clicked in my head why my parents were so insistent on spanking me. The justification I’d thrown up for why I did it had been preventing me from really seeing what I’d done. Just saying the words that I’d stolen from my mom wouldn’t have ever made me understand what my dad’s simplified explanation did. I deserved that spanking, but confessing isn’t what helped me to understand.


3. Louise: Again I commend your parents. They demonstrate the optimal mix of love and discipline. My friend says that he does not permit negotiating on the extend of the spanking but will listen to one appeal on allowing panties to remain up. Did you ever go beyond the limit of being annoying? Do they allow you to negotiate on a spanking?

When I was 12 and desperately wanted to attend a school dance, I pushed beyond the limit. My grounding was through the night of the dance and all I wanted was to get off one day early. My parents felt missing the dance was an important part of the lesson I needed to learn and had no intention of allowing me to go. I pushed my luck even after two warnings, one from each of my parents and when I asked my dad one more time on the morning of the dance he decided I had another lesson to learn. I got a spanking and was grounded for two more weeks. Now if I ask and they say no, I don’t ask again. If they say we’ll talk about it in a few days I wait for them to bring it up and if they don’t, neither do I.

The negotiation on a spanking is purely over whether or not I get one. The implement, location, length of the spanking are all non-negotiable. My parents will give the spanking they consider appropriate and that’s all there is to it. I can try to convince them a spanking isn’t necessary, but with very rare exception, it’s a lost cause.

4. Louise: How much clothing are you required to remove? I actually preferred to take my own panties rather than have my mother do it.

I usually have to remove all clothing below my waist or that falls below my waist. I am sometimes permitted to roll or tuck a top up rather than taking it off if it’s just a little too long.

5. Louise: Both my mother and my correspondent did occasionally allow panties to remain up.

My parents believe a bare bottom is an essential component of an effective spanking.

6. Louise: My mother saw it as a privilege. It was more humiliating when she did it. Most times I was granted that privilege and I was grateful for it.

My parents did it when I was little, but since around the time I turned 11 it has become my responsibility. I think my parents consider the required exposure sufficiently embarrassing.

7. Louise: Daddy is augmenting the humiliation to emphasize his authority. His daughter understands that she is completely at the mercy of his will. The man assured me that there is nothing sexual in such a preparation.

Honestly, the phrase “no matter how long it takes or what parts of her are touched” sends a chill down my spine. Neither of my parents need to emphasize their authority because they have my trust and respect. I listen to my parents, try to follow their rules and accept their punishments because I have confidence they are looking out for my best interest and well being.

8. Louise: Are all or most of your spankings done in front of your brothers? Does it work the other way? How often are you spanked?

Yes, both of them are usually present and at least one of them always is. The determining factor is if one of them is at another location when I’m getting a spanking. It’s exactly the same for Nathan. Noah, being younger, is a little different because a lot of the spankings he gets are more immediate without a real lecture. He’ll get caught do something he isn’t supposed to do and mom or dad will give him a spanking because he should no better or it’s dangerous or whatever the case maybe. If I’m there or Nathan is there or one of Noah’s friends, he gets spanked right in front of them. If not he gets a little more privacy that time. That will change when he gets a little older and the majority of his spanking are more formalized.

I’m spanked as often as my parents decide I need to be. Going back to January, I’ve been spanked 11 times so far this year.

9. Louise: Do you also get spanked by hand?

No, I haven’t been spanked by hand in several years now. I get the paddle most often.
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Date Posted: 12:46:42 10/25/25 Sat

Wow there is so much I want to talk about in this post. Natalie, I admire your understanding of your parents' love for you. I"m 16 and we are part of a strong church community. A lot of the ways you are spanked happen here too. It's so embarrassing to talk about, I respect your honesty here.
Mt parents have never felt that we needed any modesty in fornt of them when it comes to spankings.We do get it in fornt of each other and mom or daddy pulls our underpants down almost every time. I'm the oldest so I think I'm the most embarrassed by it if one of them is here.
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Date Posted: 15:27:15 10/25/25 Sat

Hi Emily. I'm so glad that we are having this exchange. I too admire Natalie. Do you sometimes get spanked over your panties? Are you often spanked in the presence of your younger siblings? How do they seem to react?

Do you get spanked more because you are the oldest? Do you ever get spanked for not properly supervising them?
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Date Posted: 16:16:07 10/25/25 Sat

Hello, maam
I've gotten it over my panties in the parking lot, but at home or at my uncle's, etc., it's always panties down.And yes my sister and cousins and little brother have seen me get spanked, and that makes it so much worse! Mom says if they're family it doesn't matter cause they love me. But even friends of theirs and parents from church have been here when it happens.
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Date Posted: 13:34:33 10/26/25 Sun


Emily, I know the feeling! It’s one thing to be spanked in front of relatives. My brother and our cousins were all spanked in front of each other so at least it was fair but I did think it was worse for me as a teen bared and spanked in front of younger boys.
But spankings with “outsiders” watching was humiliating! We are also in the church and everyone knows the boys/girls who get spankings and our Pastor and elders sometimes witnessed our spankings.

Like when I was 14 and cut a class at school. My parents had me in a prayer session with the.Pastor about it and they decided I would get my spanking at the Pastor’s house after church!
I was super scared and shamed and was crying and begging when we got to his house. His wife was also there to see me take off my skirt for a lecture. I could hardly stand it when dad took my panty hose and panties to my knees with them staring at me!
You know that feeling when your private parts are suddenly VERY public!? Aagg!

A hand spanking had me sobbing but then mom took over with a wooden spoon the Pastor’s wife gave to her. She made me step out of my hose and panties so I was completely naked down there.
The spoon sting made me beg her to STOP but then bawl like a baby and I forgot about them watching me until I did my spanking dance and saw them staring at me!

Your church spankings like that?
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Date Posted: 08:26:10 10/28/25 Tue

Hi Bethany. That's awful. Why didn't your parents just spank you at home?
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Date Posted: 11:30:23 10/29/25 Wed


Cutting class was considered committing a purposeful sin.
Hence the meeting with the Pastor and the decision to spank me at his house, along with prayers for my soul.
There were times I was spanked at home with the Pastor and others present also.

You ever spanked outside of your house?
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Date Posted: 17:22:44 10/30/25 Thu

I was rarely spanked outside my home except when I was at my aunt's house. Besides her, the only others who watched me getting spanked were my father and my brother.
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Date Posted: 17:50:57 10/30/25 Thu

Yes, I've been spanked outside home. At my cousins' house, in church, at camp, and at the doctor's. Pastor James has seen me and my sister get a spanking 2 or 3 times, but here in the house. It was awful.
Who else was there when you were spanked at the pastor's? Did they say anything to you after your panties were down? I've had that from mt aunt. UGH.
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Date Posted: 11:30:30 11/01/25 Sat



Emily, I know the feeling. The Pastor’s wife watched my spanking. No one said anything when I got bared but they were smiling like they knew I deserved such shame and the pain to come.
After my spanking the wife did comment, “I bet you'll remember this lesson everytime you sit down today, right?”
And I had to answer, “Yes ma’m.”

What sort of things did your aunt say? I’ve had others make humiliating comments, insult to injury.
When you and your sister are spanked in front of the pastor who gets spanked first?Watching and waiting with my panties already down was torture!
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Date Posted: 17:25:06 11/19/25 Wed

Bethany, sometimes my dad decides that everything has to come off, or I get a spanking from my uncle at his pool for roughhousing etc., and my whole suit comes off. If my Aunt Judy is there, she never misses a chance to say stuff like"this little bottom looks ready for her spanking now!"
And she's real interested in my chest, so she says like" are you still an A cup, emmie?" and that makes me blush top to bottom! I mean, I know I'm still small on top but she doenst have to talk about it.
If we are spanked together for something we did together, it's going to be all clothes off, no pleading allowed. and arms at our sides for the lecture no matter who is there (family, church parents, pastor). Sara doens't have much hair yet, and I shave what I have for the gymnastics uniform, so nothing is hidden. Pastor James has seen both of us this way maybe 4 times and each time is awful. He always makes each of us come over to his chair before the spanking but after we're bare and he holds us by the hips and we pray. Dad is right next to him and I have to go over his lap after that. And he is sitting right there.
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Date Posted: 12:39:51 10/26/25 Sun

You are a well disciplined and respectful young lad Emily C. As the oldest are you spanked more than your siblings? How do your siblings and cousins seem to react when you are spanked in their presence? Do you try not to cry in front of them? Do you ever succeed?
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Date Posted: 12:01:08 10/28/25 Tue

Natalie - I will respond to your last message. But it's getting very long and I wonder if it wouldn't be better to do it via e-mail. Or at least open a separate thread called Pre spanking Protocol.

Your thoughts?

`Louise: I understand your point Natalie. The point is to add to the embarrassment which is a key part of the punishment. What are you wearing during the pre-spanking lecture? So, you can be grateful to your parents for that consideration.

Natalie: Most often I’m either wearing my school uniform because it’s a school day or wearing my nightgown because it’s Saturday morning and I just got up. Outside of those times, it’s whatever I’m wearing when I get into trouble.

Louise: Do they require you lift your dress or nightgown as a measure of submission?

1. Louise: I like the approach of you and your parents. However, requiring a verbal confession ensures that the girl knows exactly why she is going to be spanked.

Natalie: I think this isn’t really necessary between my parents and I because by the time they’re done with the lecture any lingering disagreement isn’t over what I did or didn’t do or said or didn’t say. It’s mostly over whether or not a spanking is needed to correct it or whether or not my choice was justifiable. I’ve come to the conclusion that sometimes I’m never going to see some circumstances the way my parents do and other times my perspective will be adjusted with a little more private thought.

A spanking I got just before the start of the school year is a good example. I had just received my reading list from the school and I printed out a copy for my mom and put it on her desk so she’d see it when she got home. The email was sent to her too, but this is what my mom expects me to do when I get an email from school. A little while after I heard my mom get home from work, I went down to her office to ask if I could use her credit card to order the books. My mom wasn’t there. I found out later she had stepped out to talk with one of our neighbors.

Her credit card was sitting on top of the email I’d printed out on her desk. I saw it and assumed that my mom wanted me to order the books. I grabbed her credit card, went up to my room and ordered my books. When I came back downstairs my mom was frantically searching for her credit card. At first, she was relieved seeing it in my hand, but then when she asked where I’d found it and I told her I’d taken it off her desk and ordered my books, she was dismayed.

I got quite the lecture from my mom and my dad, who arrived home less than five minutes into it. My parents were very upset I had just picked up the card and used it to buy stuff without getting their permission first. The fact that I thought I had permission because of how I found the card wasn’t good enough for them and in their eyes it was a betrayal of trust on top of stealing. We didn’t have any disagreement about what I did or even that I shouldn’t have done it. I understood I had made an error in judgment. Where I disagreed with my parents was that a spanking was necessary.

Their minds were made up and I accepted their decision because they’d heard me out. They even acknowledged having an understanding of my perspective, but they insisted that my perspective was completely wrong. My misunderstanding simply wasn’t a good enough excuse for them.

When I arrived in the living room with the paddle, my dad was explaining why I was getting a spanking to my brothers. I was just in time to hear the very simplified version, “Natalie took mom’s credit card without permission and used it. The credit card is a way to access the money mom earns for all the hard work she does every week. Taking something that doesn’t belong to you without permission from the owner is theft. Spending someone else’s money without their permission is theft. Natalie stole from mom and that is very bad behavior. Stealing is never OK.”

After hearing that simplified version it finally clicked in my head why my parents were so insistent on spanking me. The justification I’d thrown up for why I did it had been preventing me from really seeing what I’d done. Just saying the words that I’d stolen from my mom wouldn’t have ever made me understand what my dad’s simplified explanation did. I deserved that spanking, but confessing isn’t what helped me to understand.

Louise: You did an excellent job of presenting both your view and that of your parents. I think that your father’s explanation to your brother’s presented a much harsher picture of what happened. If I was one of them, I’d feel no sympathy for you. However, knowing all the details, my heart goes out to you. I admire your sensitivity totheir point of view but I disagree that you needed to be punished and certainly not in front of your brothers.

If you don’t mind, would you be willing to describe how you were spanked on that occasion? How did your brothers seem to react?

2. Louise: Again I commend your parents. They demonstrate the optimal mix of love and discipline. My friend says that he does not permit negotiating on the extend of the spanking but will listen to one appeal on allowing panties to remain up. Did you ever go beyond the limit of being annoying? Do they allow you to negotiate on a spanking?

Natalie; When I was 12 and desperately wanted to attend a school dance, I pushed beyond the limit. My grounding was through the night of the dance and all I wanted was to get off one day early. My parents felt missing the dance was an important part of the lesson I needed to learn and had no intention of allowing me to go. I pushed my luck even after two warnings, one from each of my parents and when I asked my dad one more time on the morning of the dance, he decided I had another lesson to learn. I got a spanking and was grounded for two more weeks. Now if I ask and they say no, I don’t ask again. If they say we’ll talk about it in a few days I wait for them to bring it up and if they don’t, neither do I.

The negotiation on a spanking is purely over whether or not I get one. The implement, location, length of the spanking are all non-negotiable. My parents will give the spanking they consider appropriate and that’s all there is to it. I can try to convince them a spanking isn’t necessary, but with very rare exception, it’s a lost cause.

Louise: I could negotiate on the how but not when I was already in trouble. I’d have to wait a few days before approaching my mother. I had two successful negotiations. One was establishing a standard for a panties down spanking and the other was for the “privilege” of lowering them by myself.

4. Louise: How much clothing are you required to remove? I actually preferred to take my own panties rather than have my mother do it.

Natalie; I usually have to remove all clothing below my waist or that falls below my waist. I am sometimes permitted to roll or tuck a top up rather than taking it off if it’s just a little too long.

Louise: I have to raise my dress or skirth but I don’t have to remove it. However, if it slips down and interferes with the spanking then I will be penalized with more spanks.

5. Louise: Both my mother and my correspondent did occasionally allow panties to remain up.

Natalie: My parents believe a bare bottom is an essential component of an effective spanking.

6. Louise: My mother saw it as a privilege. It was more humiliating when she did it. Most times I was granted that privilege and I was grateful for it.

Natalie: My parents did it when I was little, but since around the time I turned 11 it has become my responsibility. I think my parents consider the required exposure sufficiently embarrassing.

Louise: They sound like real softies.

7. Louise: Daddy is augmenting the humiliation to emphasize his authority. His daughter understands that she is completely at the mercy of his will. The man assured me that there is nothing sexual in such a preparation.

Honestly, the phrase “no matter how long it takes or what parts of her are touched” sends a chill down my spine. Neither of my parents need to emphasize their authority because they have my trust and respect. I listen to my parents, try to follow their rules and accept their punishments because I have confidence they are looking out for my best interest and well being.

Louise: I imagine that they’re very proud of you for that. I’m guessing that most of your spankings, like mine at your age, were for issues of responsibility rather than over bad behavior. Is that correct?

8. Louise: Are all or most of your spankings done in front of your brothers? Does it work the other way? How often are you spanked?

Natalie: Yes, both of them are usually present and at least one of them always is. The determining factor is if one of them is at another location when I’m getting a spanking. It’s exactly the same for Nathan. Noah, being younger, is a little different because a lot of the spankings he gets are more immediate without a real lecture. He’ll get caught do something he isn’t supposed to do and mom or dad will give him a spanking because he should no better or it’s dangerous or whatever the case maybe. If I’m there or Nathan is there or one of Noah’s friends, he gets spanked right in front of them. If not he gets a little more privacy that time. That will change when he gets a little older and the majority of his spanking are more formalized.

I’m spanked as often as my parents decide I need to be. Going back to January, I’ve been spanked 11 times so far this year.

9. Louise: Do you also get spanked by hand?

Natalie: No, I haven’t been spanked by hand in several years now. I get the paddle most often.

Louise: I averaged at least one a week when I was 14, much less when I was 15.
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Lousie, My worst spanking year was also at 14. I was sure I was “too big” for bare bottom spankings and my hormones had me in a constant snippy mood so two or three spankings a month for sure.
Since you were mostly spanked for “responsibility” issues and you were spanked weekly it seems your parents “looked” for reasons to take you over the lap?
You must have felt like there was nothing you could do to avoid being spanked?
For me it was attitude and sassing. I was spanked for muttering “whatever” under my breath and many times I was expressing my opinion and it suddenly became, “Don’t use that tone of voice with me young lady. Take your skirt off now!”
One horrible spanking I got was when I “rolled my eyes” at my aunt and mom spanked me in front of my aunt!

True, no requests or bargaining were effective right before a spanking (like please not in front of her!) but being spanked at that age was so embarrassing I really didn’t want to talk about it at all otherwise.
One "compromise" I got by asking if I could at least get a warning if I was being too sassy was that mom would make me lift my skirt and she’d give me a few smacks to the seat of my panties as a LAST warning.

Were there “responsibility” spankings you don’t think you deserved?
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Date Posted: 17:18:21 10/30/25 Thu

Ho Paula. Thanks for your thoughtful response.

I sometimes wondered if they did look for reasons to spank me. But, in the end, I accepted their reasoning that it was to motivate me to stop daydreaming and focus on my family and personal obligations. I was a daydreamer and so I could not argue with them about that.

Though I was never openly disrespectful, they often considered gestures like an eye roll or a grimace to be an act of disrespect. One time I got spanked by my mother for stamping my foot when she refused to let me go out with my friends after school. Then when my father came home, he spanked me for being disrespectful to Mom.

Was your Mom's warning smacks effective? Did you feel grateful for it? How painful were those warning smacks?

Were you spanked bare, over your panties or it depended? How about the time you were spanked in front of your aunt?

There were responsibility spanking I felt were undeserved. Here is one that I felt was egregiously unfair.

One time when I was twelve, Mama had to go out and left me in charge. I was specifically told to supervise my younger brother doing his homework. George was not a serious student and wanted to go play. He lied to me and told me that he had less to do than he really had. I didn’t check his assignment sheet and after looking at what he had done, I let him go outside. The next day the teacher sent him home with a note for not doing his math homework.

Now he was scared and asked me what he should do. I told him that he had to show it to our mother right away. I wasn’t too sympathetic either since I thought I would be in trouble too. He gave the note to our mother. She called me in and sternly demanded to know what had happened. George volunteered that he had forgotten to do the assignment. Mama turned to me and asked if I’d checked his assignment book. Nervously, I admitted that I had not.

She looked sharply at my brother. “Your father will deal with you when he gets home.” He swallowed hard and nodded.

Mama turned back toward me. She lectured me too. I didn’t need to hear all of it; the key terms “young lady”, “irresponsible” and “not what I expect from a mature young lady’ conveyed it all. She was going to spank me.

I, of course, apologized profusely and promised it would never happen again. Mama’s response was a “well we’re going to make sure of that” followed by a crisp instruction to fetch a kitchen chair. It was then that I realized she might spank me in front of my brother. It had happened before but only when I had done something to him. In this case he had done something to me so I was perplexed. If anything, shouldn’t I be watching his punishment?

“I..is he going to watch?” I asked, biting my lower lip.

Mama saw my upset and her expression softened.

“Yes, sweetie. Your brother needs to understand that his actions not only affected him but you as well. I want him to understand all the consequences of his behavior. He needs to see that his actions hurt you too. And, it will benefit you too. Knowing how much you hate getting spanked in front of him, will, I know, motivate you to not forget to check his assignment book. It will help you to be the mature young lady that, we both know, you are fully capable of being, and I might add, usually are.”

I swallowed hard. I certainly didn’t like what I was hearing but it made sense. It made me feel a bit better to know that she had thought it out so carefully. And, while I certainly felt her disappointment and disapproval, I also felt, every bit as strongly, her love and dedication to my well being and development. I decided right then and there that I would not make any fuss. I would take my spanking like the big girl that I was. I brought over the chair.

As Mama took her place, I looked over at my brother. His eyes were filled with remorse over what he was causing me and perhaps, fear, over what I might do to him later. But Mama’s soothing explanation had calmed me down and hearing his heartfelt apologies to me, neutralized any thoughts of retribution. After all, it wasn’t like he was getting away with it scot-free. He’d get it from Daddy. I accepted his apology and told him that I wasn’t angry anymore.

“Just don’t do it again”, was my parting remark to him.

I looked back to my mother.


“I’m sorry I let you down, Mama. I’m ready for my spanking.”

Mama’s face broke into a warm smile. It wasn’t just my words; it was my spontaneity and sincerity that moved her. She pulled me toward her and gave me a hug and told me how proud I had just made her. I wasn’t naïve enough to think I would escape the spanking but I almost didn’t care. Winning back Mama’s confidence and trust was what was really important.

Moving to her right side, I placed my hands on her far knee and eased myself over her lap. A few wriggles and I was in position. I hoped that my sudden display of maturity would earn me the privilege of receiving the spanking over my skirt. I couldn’t remember the last time I’d gotten it over anything besides panties or bare skin. Still, with my brother watching, just maybe, this time she’d spare me that embarrassment. Looking back at her over my shoulder, her eyes told me that she was, indeed, giving it serious consideration.

Finally, she gave a slow troubled head shake.

“I’m sorry to have to do this”, she said, “but I feel it’s necessary for both you and your brother to appreciate just how seriously I take doing homework and supervising homework.”

My eyes went wet with profound disappointment, but I brought myself to nod my understanding and acceptance. I turned away and felt her lift my skirt and carefully pile it on my back. Clad in ankle socks I could picture the two columns of flesh that I presented. I blushed hotly and uttered a low moan. A coolness played along the length of my legs and the surface of my panties: a sensation that would surely not last for long. The color and heat was all in my face. Remorseful though he might be, my brother’s eyes would certainly be drawn to the sight of my pale under-cheeks, quivering lightly under their thin covering.

With one hand I grasped Mama’s left leg; the other touched the floor. I felt my long dark hair sweeping just above the surface of the floor. My brother’s sympathy notwithstanding, I could not escape the humiliation of being so postured before him. That, and with the painful act drawing ever nearer, the tears clouding my eyes rolled freely down my cheeks. Still, intent on showing Mama that I was a big girl, I limited my lips to expressions of acknowledgment, apology and assurances of future improvement.

“See what a good and brave sister, you have” she proudly told my brother. “She makes mistakes, but she owns up to them and accepts the consequences. You would do well to follow her example.”

Amidst my feelings of fear and embarrassment, her words actually inspired a touch of pride.

Then Mama asked me, sadness evident in her tone, if I was ready for my spanking. My response was a quiet but unhesitating, “yes, Mama.” Her hand touched lightly atop my right buttock, Mindful of the requirement to keep my bottom soft and relaxed, I forced all nervous tension to my toes, ankles and calves. Seconds passed. The hand lifted; my eyes squeezed shut. Then, a stinging slap landed on the very site of the gentle caress. More tense seconds passed and then fell another. The pattern was set for a rhythmic, measured spanking, like the sound of ocean waves crashing a rock wall, punctuated by little “oh’s” and ”ah’s” and as the heat built, longer “oooh’s.”

The intervals between smacks allowed me time to gather my wits and remind myself to maintain my reactions in “big girl” mode. They were not moments of relaxation or even of much relief. With my buttocks now continuously throbbing, the sting produced by each successive slap lasted progressively longer.

As my punishment progressed, Mama sternly scolded both of us. She seemed to have a full repertoire of ways to express my need to be more responsible and my brothers need to do his schoolwork and tell the truth. ”This isn’t the first time this has happened. I warned you and you see, Louise, I always keep my word. You’re a good girl but you need to be responsible for more than just yourself. We rely upon you to help your younger brother and sometimes that means checking out what he tells you.” Mama went on to point out my failure to check my brother’s work was inexcusable and that she wasn’t going to let me get away with it. “It’s for our own good, you know”. She paused, then continued with “your father and I spank you only because we love you and to help you be a responsible young lady.”

Perhaps since I was the one getting spanked, Mama’s lecture to George was considerably harsher, her tone severe and threatening; coldly reminding him that well after she was done with me, he would have a session with his father’s strap.

Despite my fervent intention to take my spanking without a fuss, I felt myself losing control and sensing my gasps, moans and sniffles achieving a steadily higher decibel level. And with each fresh smack my distress was being expressed ever more audibly. In time, my pride and courage crumbled, and I was weeping openly. ;

“Oooooooohhooooooooo” I sobbed as the anguish in my bottom reaching ever higher levels.

“Nooooo … Ooooohhhh … ooohhhhhh ... ppllleeeaassse … Mama … PLEASE!!!”

I begged, hips jerking hard against my mother’s lap; trim legs wiggling frantically; body arching against the left arm pressing across her back.

But the spanking continued, the blows falling in a slow, deliberate rhythm, first on one side of my twisting turning panty covered hillocks, then crossing to address the other. The torturous cadence went on and on, my bottom feeling like a hot, swollen ball of molten lead. I pictured the fearsome darkened stain under my panties and the bright pink at the edges. I was crying steadily and continuously. Still, each fresh slap, a heightened sting and a spike in my mournful ululations,, often punctuated with an “Ohhhh ..Mama” or an “Oh…please … Mama ..I’ll be good.”

Once Mama paused for an extended period of time to carefully examine my shivering, tensing behind, noting where the marks were the darkest and the nervous reaction seemed to be the strongest. Information she would use to determine how much more to spank and where it would be most effective. It was also intended as an opportunity for me to reflect on what I should have done that would have avoided this unfortunate situation. Even better I articulated those thoughts in the form of regrets and promises not to repeat my errant behavior.

Meanwhile, taking advantage of the respite, I squirmed a little, trying to readjust myself, to find a more comfortable position over Mama’s lap. When yet another minute passed, I turned my face back over my shoulder to look at her. There was compassion in her eyes.

“You’ve been a really good girl for your spanking”, she began, “and I truly commend you for that.” She drew a deep breath. “But this wasn’t the first time and so we need to make sure this lesson really sticks with the both of you. So, I’m going to give you a few more. I hope you understand.”

It wasn’t okay but hearing the words “a few more” gave me the strength to murmur a “y…es Mama..I understand.” But, at the sight of her rising hand, and her tightened grip against my waist, I unleashed a despairing sob, swiftly turned my face back to the floor, closed my eyes and waited for the resumption of the chastisement. This last set would be the hardest but at least the end seemed in sight.
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Date Posted: 11:24:01 11/01/25 Sat


Louise, Thanks for a heartwarming embarrassing detail of your responsibility spanking.
Your mother’s measured but strict discipline reminds me of my spankings. Complete with the scolding and ritual of having to get the chair out and being told you would be spanked in front of your brother BECAUSE she knew how much you hated him seeing your panties smacked.
Sometimes when mom was taking my panties down (spanked bare except for a few occasions) she would tell me, “I know how much you hate this part. But it’s not a real spanking unless it’s bare bottom, right?”
And I’d have to “yes ma’m” her, much like you so cutely admitted to wrong doing and accepted being spanked in front of your brother like a big girl - until the horrid sting turned you into a sobbing mess.

i understand in your house with those rules your spanking was appropriate but it seems unfair that you never saw your brother’s spankings while he was allowed to watch you get it.
I guess he did have to wait for his dad’s strap which is awful but the embarrassment you faced was singular.

My aunt did get to see me spanked bare bottom for “rolling my eyes” at her and mom let her decide my punishment. So my aunt suggested a stand-up hand spanking, then the hairbrush!
Like the “warning” smacks I got (which weren’t very hard and only about ten - but shameful and scary) I had to hold up my skirt, mom slipped my panties to my knees and then slapped my bare bottom with steady sting as I moaned and wiggled, scolding me, with my aunt walking around to see me front and back.
Sobbing quietly in shame I was made to remove my skirt and panties and go fetch the hairbrush. Humiliated, crying, begging “please not the brush! You already SPANKED me! Take me to my room please mom! Don’t let her watch!”
Aunty smirked, “You roll your eyes at me then you can just deal with my eyes on you."

LIke you, I did NOT want to be a bawling begging baby but a bare bottom hairbrushing always did exactly that!
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Date Posted: 07:44:41 11/04/25 Tue

I appreciate your empathy Paula. And I certainly empathize with your ordeal. How old were you the last time your aunt watched you get spanked? When you got hand spanked, were you crying more for the shame or the pain?

When you got the hairbrush, were you still standing or were you over your mother's lap? Did your aunt ever spank you?

How often did you get spanked and till what age?
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Louise
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Date Posted: 16:10:15 11/01/25 Sat

I appreciate your empathy Paula. And I certainly empathize with your ordeal. How old were you the last time your aunt watched you get spanked? When you got hand spanked, were you crying more for the shame or the pain?

When you got the hairbrush, were you still standing or were you over your mother's lap? Did your aunt ever spank you?

How often did you get spanked and till what age?
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Alan
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Date Posted: 18:16:45 10/30/25 Thu

Such a beautiful, loving story, Louise.
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Louise
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Date Posted: 04:35:06 11/01/25 Sat

Thank you Alan, I enjoyed sharing it.
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Date Posted: 07:36:03 11/05/25 Wed

Hi Louise,
I presume you are implying that only girls should/could be spanked?

If this blog is only for girls then I will not post any more.

I am a young male, still home and going on 20 next year.

Please let me know and I will abide by the rules of this blog.
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Louise Vancisic Vancisic
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Date Posted: 19:17:44 11/06/25 Thu

Hi Bobby. I don't make the rules on this site. As a lesbian, girls/women are my interest.
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Date Posted: 19:36:30 11/08/25 Sat



Louise, I enjoyed your post about what it feels like to be spanked on your panties. I remember being paddled on my panties and how the heat built up hotter and hotter underneath and the inevitable red marks below my panties.
I share similar interests with you. You ever email ?
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Louise Vancisic Vancisic
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Date Posted: 06:58:57 11/10/25 Mon

Hi Michelle. My e-mail is lvancisic1@yahoo.com
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Louise Vancisic Vancisic
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Date Posted: 19:56:00 11/08/25 Sat

Yes! I'd love to hear from you.


lvancisic1@yahoo.com
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Date Posted: 18:28:43 11/14/25 Fri

Louise, I can’t get your address to work. Is it the number one or the letter “L”?
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Louise Vancisic
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Date Posted: 13:28:36 11/15/25 Sat

Michelle.

The letter l. Loser case.

lvancisic1@yahoo.com

Keep trying. Or send me yours.

Louise
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M
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Date Posted: 19:23:35 11/15/25 Sat

Is there a space between the C and the last “L?"
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Louise Vancisic
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Date Posted: 08:02:35 11/16/25 Sun

After the c is a 1 (one).
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Date Posted: 13:55:13 11/20/25 Thu

No luck. :(
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Louise Vancisic Vancisic
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Date Posted: 14:08:38 11/20/25 Thu

I don't understand that.

Send me your e-mail address and I'll reply to you.


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