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Date Posted: 10:33:19 08/16/25 Sat
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>Hi Lucia, I'm Italian too!!! I know well that nudism
>in Italy is very little practiced, in fact my parents
>prefer to go on holiday abroad. We will leave for
>Croatia on Monday. In July I was with my
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>grandparents on the French Riviera. However, we are
>lucky because just over an hour's drive away we have
>one of the few nudist beaches in Italy and we go there
>for day trips. Unfortunately we also happen to go to
>normal beaches: there I am almost always the only
>naked kid. My parents don't give me the choice: my
>swimsuit always stays at home or in the hotel.
>Even my dad says I'm lucky to be able to be naked on
>all the beaches and that next year that might not be
>the case anymore. It would be nice to meet your
>children at the beach. Being the only naked person on
>the beach (small children don't count) makes me feel
>embarrassed. If my 8 and 11 year old cousins are there
>I feel better. I'll ask you some questions: - When at
>the beginning of the day at the beach you take off
>only your younger child's swimsuit, is he ashamed of
>being the only one naked? - Have your children ever
>met their friends on the beach?
Hi Matteo,
I assumed from your name that you were Italian. I was going to ask you, but then I forgot to mention it in the other post. It's nice to chat with an Italian! I'm happy to hear that other Italian parents feel the same way as my husband and I do. Every country has its own culture; what's "normal" here might be strange in another country, and vice versa.
I love Croatia! It's beautiful! We've been there twice, last year and in 2023. The first year we went to the island of Krk, and last summer we went to Valalta. My kids were very happy because there are many more naked kids on the beach there (even kids my kids' age, not just the very young ones), and they're all much more relaxed about nudity.
I hope you have a relaxing holiday and feel more and more comfortable with nudity on the beach. I know it can be embarrassing in front of classmates or boys/girls your age (sometimes), but trust me, you're lucky (as are my two kids). If I were your parents, I'd still bring your swimsuit to the beach with us (just in case, you never know), even tough I wouldn't make you wear it, like they do. Until they're "obviously" puberty, it's fine for children to be naked on the beach, regardless of age.
I agree with your parents and what your dad said. Try to enjoy this last summer as much as you can. It could be your last naked summer, and while you might be less embarrassed in your swimsuit, you might also regret it. I can imagine the presence of your two cousins makes you feel better. Great!
Wow! You're lucky to live so close to a nude beach! What a dream! You can't tell me the name of the beach, can you?
I've never been to the French Riviera; it must be beautiful. When I was a girl, it was said that the French were very relaxed about nudity on the beach. I don't know now.
I think it would be nice if you and my two sons could spend a day at the beach together. Seeing a boy, Italian like them, a little older than my eldest, naked like them would make them feel even more at ease than they do now. They certainly wouldn't make comments or make fun of you for your developmental delay. You'd just think about playing and having fun. That would be great!
To answer your two questions:
Tommaso (my youngest son) is very comfortable with nudity (for now, who knows when he's older he will be ashamed, but now he's happy and as soon as we have finished setting up the beach umbrella, he undresses right away, without me having to do it), so he's not ashamed. The first few times, however, he asked me why he was naked while Francesco (my eldest son) kept his swimsuit on. We explained the reason to him, and since almost always, a few minutes later, Francesco is naked too, it doesn't cause him much of a problem. Maybe when he's 12 or 13 and his brother has a swimsuit he'll be ashamed of being the only one naked, but for now he's comfortable with it.
We don't usually go to very crowded beaches (Rimini, Milano Marittima, Sestri Levante, Forte dei Marmi, Lignano Sabbiadoro, Cinque Terre, Lido di Ostia, etc...). We look for small, isolated, wild beaches, so it's very unlikely we'll run into any of their friends. But it's happened.
We once met a soccer buddy of Tommaso's. He was with his little brother who was naked, while Tommaso's friend was wearing a swimsuit. He was surprised that Tommaso was naked and asked him if he wasn't ashamed. My son shrugged and said no, though I thought he looked less comfortable than usual. And he was even more surprised that Francesco was naked too. However, after a couple of other comments, they started playing together and got along well. His mother tried to convince him to take off his swimsuit like his brother and friends, but he refused, and his mother didn't push him any further.
The episode that happened to Francesco was more embarrassing. Yesterday, "Ferragosto," we went to eat at my best friend's house. She has a house on the hill, with a large plot of land surrounded by a hedge that provides a certain peace and privacy. We had a barbecue, and then the kids played water fights war ("gavettoni"). She has two boys, like me, only younger (9 and 11). Her children and mine were naked all day (it was also very hot). It was all very fun and relaxing until, in the early afternoon, after lunch, during the water fights war, a friend of my friend arrived with her husband and daughter. They weren't expected to arrive; my friend hadn't told me anything, and she also seemed surprised by their arrival. Knowing that in addition to their house in the city, they have this house on the hill and that if they're not at the beach, they spend "Ferragosto" there, they stopped. They weren't sure if anyone was home, so they just tried, since they had to take that route to get home from lunch outside anyway. After the greetings and good wishes, my friend told her friend's daughter to go behind the house where the boys were playing "gavettoni" and have fun with them. Only since it was normal for them to be naked, she didn't think to warn the girl who ran behind the house. I can't tell you whether the girl's surprise or the boys' embarrassment was greater. We heard screams and calls for mommy... OMG... She's a classmate of Francesco's! The boys asked if they could get dressed, but since they were very wet and the girl had already seen everything, there wasn't much point in doing so, so we told them no. At first, they were all very embarrassed, but the more time they spent playing naked, the more comfortable they became. Only Francesco continued to play, keeping one hand covering his penis. He came to me a couple of times to beg to at least let him wear his underwear, but I told him that she had seen everything by now, that he was wet and to stop holding his hand down there. Eventually he gave in and took his hand away and played like the others. His classmate smiled and continued to stare at his penis, which caused her to lose many water fights because she was "distracted." When she got home, she told us it had been the best day of her life, that she never thought she'd be playing with four naked boys, including a middle school classmate. That it had been like a beautiful dream.
I assure you, Francesco was very, very embarrassed at first; he was almost in tears when I forbade him to wear underwear. But eventually he got used to it—a little, not much, but he got caught up in the game and "forgot" he was naked in front of his classmate (though it was clear he wasn't completely at ease like he was when there were just four of them). I'm sure if we did it again tomorrow, his embarrassment would be less, and within a few sessions, he'd be completely at ease. You prepubescent children should be naked at home and on the beach. It's good for you.
I wish you a great holiday in Croatia and look forward to hearing from you when you return (I don't think you'll be able to post from there...)
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