| Subject: What is your DD/BDSM/spanking fluency? |
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Anna
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Date Posted: 06:09:23 01/08/26 Thu
I curious if you are fluent or read a lot about spanking practices in DD relationships, or if you and your partners identify more as BDSM.
My husband and I definitely identify mostly as a Male Lead Spanking relationship, and perhaps then also DD, but not BDSM but it is hard for me to list why. When I was first into spanking before I met my future husband, I relied on the "Taken in Hand" web site Bodack shared. Taken in Hand relationships seemed to be very trusting, and even encouraged the guy to be openly caring, polite, and spoil his woman. As long as her behavior was good she was his center of affection, but if not, Taken in Hand advocated for strong discipline, usually spankings! After that site went away (which was a few years after I was married) I discovered other places that helped give definitions to the ways unique to the lifestyle my husband and I have.
In particular, for the past ten years maybe, I see more use of the term "Consentual Non-Consent" or CNC that best describes how we approach spanking in our relationship. For us, there is no discipline contract or safe words that many couples have. If my behavior slips, which is more uncommon as our relationship matures, I simply trust him to spank me the way he determines best, though I understand other couples feel they need to build in more safety.
Finally maybe we could have a thread to share favorite DD/spanking websites, or podcasts?
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