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Domestic Discipline Chat
DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE CHAT

Welcome to Domestic Discipline Chat! The purpose of this forum is to discuss domestic discipline (including CDD) used by loving couples. Please note the following:
1. The focus of discussion is discipline used by married couples or equivalent (domestic partners, long term relationships, etc.), whether M/F, F/M or F/F.
2. The discipline must be consensual. Consent is not required every time discipline is administered so long as both parties have consented (explicitly or implicitly) to the discipline regime. Abusive relationships are beyond the scope of this forum.
3. Ideally only real life experiences should be discussed, but no one should be surprised if some fantasies get posted. But come on folks, please at least keep your fantasies within reason!
4. The focus of this forum is discipline of ADULTS by ADULTS. However, incidental discussion of discipline involving children will be permitted so long as the focus remains on adult discipline. And while discussion of sexual aspects involving adults is fine, such matters involving children must be avoided.
5. PLEASE POST AN INTRODUCTION!!!
Subject: Spanked Husband Here


Author:
Matthew
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Date Posted: 06:59:45 01/03/26 Sat
Hello everyone. Kim and I have been married for 26 years and I wouldn't want to even try to guess how many spankings I've received in that time. The frequency declined after several years, but even now I can expect to go over her knee 3 or 4 timed in a typical year.

I will admit that the original idea was mine and that it followed up on conversations about my mom's method of discipline. Accordingly, my punishment has a definite maternal vibe.

These are real punishment spankings, administered with a hairbrush. Sex isn't allowed after a session and to be sure that element is removed, Kim frequently has me masturbate before my spanking begins.

I'm happy to say that our grown children do not know about this. Kim has one sister who is aware, but there is no indication that she has told anyone.

I look forward to more discussions on this site.

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Subject: Missing the Super Bowl


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Julia
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Date Posted: 11:29:03 02/10/26 Tue
I assume most of you have read my husbands original post about our rather unusual life living with my Mom. He was spanked this weekend and I thought I'd share.

Bryan and I both have chores we do on Saturday's to help Mom out. I do some deep cleaning, he helps and also does yard work and trash. I learned in my younger years that shirking those responsibilities can lead to some painful consequences but Bryan still hasn't completely understood that yet. He left early Saturday morning to biking with some friends and missed a few of his chores. He tried to hurriedly do them Sunday before the Super Bowl started when he realized he'd forgotten but my Mom figured out what he'd done.

I was in the living room watching tv when she came in and called for him. He had finished everything except cleaning off the back deck like she'd specifically asked him too and I knew he was toast, figuratively and literally. She started questioning him and he tried to act as those he'd forgotten that one thing but she's smarter than that and called him out on it. She started in on one of her infamous lectures that I've been on the receiving end of, and aren't fun, and he just stood there knowing he was caught.

When she finished, she told him he could go clean off the deck like he'd been told, then he could go shower. Once he was done with that, she told him that she and I would be watching a movie in the living room since he would no long be watching the football game tonight. She said that he could bring her the paddle and that she was going to give him a good reason to remember to do as he's told. I'll admit, I was a little excited about that. I, too, got my fair share of whoopin's for missing chores growing up.

We started our movie while he went out and cleaned the deck. When he walked back through to go take his shower, she told him to hurry up and that she was waiting. When he was done, he walked through to get the paddle and Mom paused the movie and turned the lights on. She has a straight back chair in the living room and she pulled it out and sat down. He came back and handed her the paddle and she told him he knew the drill and to lose his shirt and shorts. He stripped down to his underwear and she took him across her lap. After another short lecture, she paddled him. He's obviously stronger than I am and he can hold it out for a while. He'll start out by kind of groaning and grunting but eventually it all becomes too much for him and he'll start crying. He doesn't really sob but it's obvious he's crying and tears are present.

He almost always kicks his underwear off too and when she's done, he's laying there naked. She talked a little bit longer and then made him get up. She sent him to the corner for a bit to think about things and then released him. He wasn't allowed to watch the game and, instead, watched the rest of our movie with us.

I think it's safe to say he won't be missing any chores any time soon.

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Subject: Spanking marriage for me


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Alyssa
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Date Posted: 04:45:54 01/05/26 Mon
Hi everyone. I’m 30 years old and a mother to 3. I’ve been married for 10 years and my husband whips my behind just as my father did when I was a kid. He uses a belt and my bare behind is whipped when I show him disrespect. My kids are too young to understand and they don’t see it but it can be heard throughout the house.

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Subject: How did spanking come up between you and your significant other?


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Anna
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Date Posted: 06:13:54 01/04/26 Sun
Hello, one topic I am very interested in is how did the topic of discipline and spanking get discussed the first time between you and your husband, wife, or significant other?

For me, I knew having a kind, but no-nonsense/somewhat dominant guy, who sometimes gave me good spankings if I was bitchy or nagged would be the only kind of marriage that would succeed. Guys my own age were just never mature enough to trust with telling this. When I met husband, who is almost ten years older than me, he was much more mature, and self confident than "boys" my own age. He was old fashioned l, polite, and liked to hold doors for me and pay for dates. When we argued, if it needed to end, he would lower his voice and give me "the look," so I knew he was able to use some dominance, but in a caring way.

However, when it was clear he soon may propose to be married, I still needed to tell him about my need for spankings. When I finally was brave enough to tell him, he was polite, but not eager to think about causing me pain. We continued to talk a lot about it. I sent him videos of spankings that looked very realistic, and also web sites about domestic discipline. Eventually the first spanking happened. While it was not the best one, it did sting me good, and he continued to learn. I now think my husband is an expert, so much that when I get spanking ls now, I am on my best behavior for months. When we first started out with domestic discipline, spankings happened maybe six times per year, now it is just two or three.

The rest could be many topics for later, but I would love to hear how others had these first very intimate discussions about spanking.

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Subject: Photo


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Kev
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Date Posted: 23:21:40 02/25/26 Wed
Re the photo, Lucky girl! As long as he is loving, and non-abusive, you can bet she won't let him go!
Some men are afraid that they will "hurt" thier lover.
This can be a very serious problem in a relationship/marriage. But not for them!

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Subject: Corner Time


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Eric H
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Date Posted: 13:43:24 01/08/26 Thu
When my wife needs a spanking, I usually send her to stand in the corner naked for 30-45 minutes to think about her misbehavior. This puts her in a submissive mode to submit to her spanking. After the spanking, I hold her, kiss her, and then let her get dressed.

How do the rest of you use corner time with a spanking?

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Subject: Introduction


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Rhea
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Date Posted: 12:17:05 01/05/26 Mon
This site is a great idea. My husband Jack and I are in our late 50s and kids already out of the house, two in college, one to be married this Spring.

Years ago, I caught Jack looking at spanking videos. He was scared to death when I confronted him, but I poured a whiskey for both of us and reminded him of always agreeing to discuss issues and for him to tell me about his desires. It took a few minutes but he opened up and talked about his fantasies of being spanked by mother figures, specifically citing a couple of actresses. I asked if he wanted me to spank him and after turning beet red in the face nodded affirmatively.


And so our adventures of me spanking him began. Nothing brutal, just firm bare bottom hairbrush spankings. We do a lot of roleplay such as me being a teacher or nurse.

I was not shocked. I felt for some time he was holding something inside. He is a dedicated husband and father with a stressful job and the spankings bring release to him

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Subject: To the spanked wifes: Would that be a punishment?


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Elena
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Date Posted: 05:31:39 01/22/26 Thu
Hi! How would you react if your husband sent you to bed early as punishment? Would that be a punishment for you?

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Subject: Spanked Daughters-in-Law


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Diana
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Date Posted: 09:02:22 01/20/26 Tue
There have been several mentions of wives being spanked by or in front of their mothers-in-law. One was posted by Mabel where she talks about how gratifying it was to see her haughty daughter-in-law bared and spanked. To quote part of her message: 'Slowly approaching her husband, Ruby was objecting, “Don’t! Don’t do this to me!” while staring daggers at me. I admit seeing my DIL’s anguished embarrassment is pleasing as she often thinks highly of herself so being bare bottom spanked in front of me really brings her down a peg.
“Why? Why is SHE here? why why?” she moaned as her panties came down and even though she suffered the brush from the start she resisted crying as. long as she could - no doubt not wanting me the satisfaction of hearing her cry like her daughter.' Her entire message can be found at at https://www.voy.com/251358/166.html

I'm sure Ruby is not the only young wife to endure the ultra-embarrassment of being spanked in front of her own mother-in-law. I certainly have, more times than I can count, and in my case even BY my mother-in-law. The MIL/DIL relationship is usually a tense one, with the DIL seeking to assert her independence and the MIL wanting some control. I'm sure there are many more explanations as to what leads to these tensions.

What have been your experiences???

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Subject: Welcome! Diana's Introduction


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Diana
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Date Posted: 14:11:58 01/02/26 Fri
Hello and welcome. I'm Diana and I started this forum to discuss domestic discipline. There are a number of Voy forums relating to discipline and its various forms, but to my knowledge this is the only active Voy forum focusing on domestic discipline. Please post an introduction so that we can all get to know you a bit better.

Not surprisingly, I'm in a DD marriage myself. My parents were strict disciplinarians and I earned my fair share of spankings, even as a teenager and young woman. I dreaded my spankings but eventually I realized that they were something I needed if I was going to do my best. And my parents are in a DD marriage, so I was no stranger to all this.

The topic of my discipline was something that my husband and I discussed even before we became engaged, and it wasn't long before I was going over his knee for my smart mouth or procrastination. We've been married now for 14 years and have two young daughters, and I still earn myself at least one punishment spanking a month as well as weekly maintenance spankings. His strict discipline of me helps me be the best woman, wife and mother that I can be.

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Subject: Got caught trying to Cover for my daughters


Author:
Cathy
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Date Posted: 08:32:32 01/28/26 Wed
This past weekend my daughters ages 18 and 16 went to the movies with friends. My husband told them to be home by 11pm. I told them that their dad will be in bed by 10 so they can actually stay out until midnight. The girls got home around 11:45pm and I told them if dad asks what time just say 10:45pm. Sure, enough the next morning they girls were asks what time they got home last night. They both said around 10:45pm. I thought the girls had got away with it. After breakfast the girls were watching TV when my husband walked in, turned the TV off and said, girls I am going to give you another chance before I blister your bottoms. What time did you get home last night. They looked at each other and said10:45pm mom was still up when we got home. I was called into the den and asks what time did the girls get home last night. Covering for then I said it is before 11pm.

He slammed his hand down to the table and said all three of you are lying. All three you are going to get a good bare bottom spanking. I want all three of you to get your pants and underwear off and stand next to each other. I tried talking my husband out of spanking all three of us and it went nowhere. My 18-yr old was first, to go over my husband knee, followed by my youngest daughter and then me. We each got 25 hard swats of the paddled on our bare bottoms. All three of us were sobbing at the end of our spanking. We went to our rooms and crying. I guess covering for my daughters will never happen again.

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Subject: I want to try


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Lacey
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Date Posted: 08:23:35 01/20/26 Tue
Hi, my name is Lacey. I’m 23 and am newly married. I was not spanked growing up and was the only child. I guess you could say I was spoiled. My husband, Jake, was raised with two other siblings by a single mom and they most certainly weren’t spoiled. Their mom, Phyllis, is a nice lady but stern and doesn’t play. She didn’t hesitate to spank them as long as they lived at home. Honestly, I’m still not sure she wouldn’t do it if pushed.

Anyways, my husband recently got offered a 1 year contract overseas with his company that is worth a ton of money. I’m currently in school and not working so after a lot of long talks, we decided he should do it. The money is worth a year of being apart. His mom offered to let me live with her while he’s gone so that we can save most of our money.

I was all in when she offered but my hubs wasn’t so sure. He warned me that I’m a bit immature and that he could see that being a problem. I joked and asked what his mom would do and he said I didn’t want to know. Eventually, I talked him into it. I’ve been living here about two months now.

I’m getting a better idea of what my husband was talking about. His mom is great but she definitely doesn’t play. She and I keep different schedules and I guess she isn’t too happy with mine, especially my laundry and cleaning schedule. Things have been getting more tense since I moved in. Then a few days, she found my bathroom in not the best shape and got upset. She told me off and when she was done, she said that if I were daughter, I would’ve been cleaning it with a red bottom. I don’t know why but it triggered something inside of me.

I’ve always been a little curious about spanking, especially since getting with my husband, but that’s the first time I’ve ever been threatened. I told the hubs and he thought it was hilarious. I asked if she was serious and he assured me she wasn’t scared to do it. Now it’s all i can think about it. I kept asking him about it and he told me if I was so curious, just give her a reason. Or I could wait until he comes home and he’d show me.

I won’t lie, there’s a part of me that wants to see if she’d do it, and to experience it. Any advice?

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Subject: A different perspective


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Bryan
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Date Posted: 08:53:38 01/30/26 Fri
Hi, my name is Bryan and I guess I come from a different perspective than most. I live with wife and mother in-law and am spanked technically by both, but mainly my MIL. I know it seems a bit weird but it works for us. I’m currently 26 and have a good job where I’m a regional manager. My wife and I had moved in with my MIL originally to save money for a house but things have just kind of worked out and we’ve stayed. So for the foreseeable future, this arrangement will continue.

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Subject: Grandparents


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Belle
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Date Posted: 15:54:36 01/22/26 Thu
Did your grandparents ever spank you?

My grandparents (my mom’s parents) were allowed to spank. Grandma was pretty strong with the paddle while grandpa used a leather strap.

Spankings were always naked with at least one chore to do with a red bottom after.

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Subject: How it started for me


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SpankedCassy
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Date Posted: 05:23:18 02/01/26 Sun
As a lot of people, I was spanked in my youth by my parents. At this time I just disliked it a lot, but there was no way around it either.
Now in my early thirties, I rediscover domestic discipline again. It actually started in a very erotic way, talking about discipline while having sex with my husband. There the idea was born of him actually spanking generally punishing me for all kinds of wrongdoings or just for his pleasure in our daily lifes. I was immediately intrigued by the intimate submission and power dynamic asociated with that lifestyle.
And now I don't regret it one bit.
Now what I would like to know of more experienced people: Do your friends and family know about the nature of your relationships? Is something like that safe to share with close friends?

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Subject: Introduction of Kev


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Kev
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Date Posted: 15:53:24 02/25/26 Wed
Hi all. Luv this group! I am not in a DD relationship at this time. However, I have lots of experience. I mentor select women from time to time. I also had a DD relationship with a woman for two years.
A very wonderful experience for both of us.
Plus I have had good friends in DD relationships.
I would like to have another long term DD relationship.
My email is here if any woman has questions about DD, or is thinking about having a loving DD relationship.
Loving DD relationships are very awesome.
For example, in female ruled homes, thier husband's absolutely adore them! And thier "mommies" tend to be very strict with them! Very sweet.
If you have never had a loving DD relationship, I hope that you find one. These are really nice relationships.

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Subject: DD and the “Trad” Lifestyle


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James
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Date Posted: 06:52:02 01/27/26 Tue
The “trad” movement has certainly gained popularity in recent years.

Outside of DD, do you agree with or participate in the idea of traditional marriage?

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Subject: Clothing inspection?


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Elena
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Date Posted: 06:54:13 02/04/26 Wed
Do your husbands check the cleanliness and appropriateness of your clothing? How would you react if they wanted to do so?

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Subject: Forum Picture


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James
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Date Posted: 10:50:25 01/26/26 Mon
Out of curiosity, what is the source of the forum picture?

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Subject: Intro


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Eric H
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Date Posted: 08:17:22 01/03/26 Sat
Hello,
I'm glad to see a forum specifically for domestic discipline. We have been married for 31 years. My wife was not spanked as a child, but I decided soon after we were married that I needed to correct some of her misbehavior and started spanking her. She hates being spanked but has learned how important it is in keeping our marriage strong. Her favorite part is that after she has been spanked, I am no longer upset with her.

I see that there is another Eric here, so I will use Eric H.

She has learned to behave and her spankings have decreased. Now she only gets 2-3 spankings a year.

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Subject: Intro


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Ross
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Date Posted: 21:55:28 01/06/26 Tue
50/M here, raised in a conservative household and received parental spankings until I was betweeen 10 and 12, not after. Always had a curiousity about historical discipline in my teens.

I had a first marriage to a "90s girl," total equality, cook 3.5 dinners per week each, that ended before I finished college. Really hard to run a marriage as a democracy when every vote ends in a 1-1 tie.

But I learned from my mistakes. Every serious partner I've had from age 23 to the present has gone over my knee when needed for attitude adjustments. One required it very hard and often, the others rarely and usually only handspanked. Never really been a believer in maintenance spankings for their own sake, though have been asked for them more as a fetish than for behavior.

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Subject: A resource for every one


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bodack
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Date Posted: 19:10:06 01/05/26 Mon
Years ago there was a website called "Taken in hand" about DD. This is link to it on the internet archive site. Lots of very interesting articles.

https://archive.org/details/takeninhand20032013vol.ii/TAKEN%20IN%20HAND%202003-2013%2C%20Vol.%20II/

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Subject: Introduction


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Richard
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Date Posted: 01:17:10 01/06/26 Tue
Hi there

45 year old gay man here.

Stumbled across this forum and it looks to be an interesting one, but not something I've really discussed with anyone before. I'm not and have never been in a pure DD relationship but do have experience with the concept. My mother was very dominant and spanked me regularly into my teens, whilst my father was quite a passive personality. As a young man I found out that my parents were in a DD relationship, which was both a shock to me but at the same time made sense of the dynamics. They had always been discrete about it but after that, whilst never overly blatant, it wasn't kept a secret from me.

After that point I did in fact get punished again in their household, usually just on occasion, although more regularly for one period of time. I realise how that may sound, but need to get it out there as it's not the kind of thing I can usually say. Both my parents are in ill health now, so my dad is no longer spanked, but the concept still fascinates me even though its not been a part of my own relationships to date.

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Subject: My Intro!


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Layla
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Date Posted: 08:53:03 01/05/26 Mon
Hi, I’m Layla! I’m in my early 20’s and in a DD marriage. We are still navigating it and now my parents are in the know, which is its ow story.

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Subject: Introduction Post


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James
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Date Posted: 05:27:39 01/05/26 Mon
Hello everyone,

I am happy that there is now a forum dedicated to Domestic Discipline!

My fiancé Katie and I have been together a little over two years, and have been practicing DD for one. To us, it’s more of an expression of kink than true discipline, but I do give her real punishments for real things.

A punishment is often a spanking, but I do have other punishments as well.

I am looking forward to joining the discussion!

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Subject: Intro


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bodack
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Date Posted: 13:34:14 01/04/26 Sun
I am a 70 year old bachelor. My interest in spanking started when I was a little kid, but my interest in understanding domestic discipline started in my late teens. The 60s and early 70s were the beginning of men being demonized for being men. Men who stood up for themselves were labeled as male chauvinist pigs. For some reason the meme I remember is that they were trying to push the issues that no means no and women don't like to get beat up. I didn’t truly understand either one of those at the time. I had read the odd letter to the editor in men's magazines about domestic discipline, but I wrote it off as just a fantasy in a men's magazine. After working with a lot of women for over 40 years in industry, I've come to conclusion all of those letters were real.

I found the comment in the description that you're talking about consensual spanking relationships. Having followed these forums for many years, I have found the discussion of consensual non-consent to be a hot topic. I also knew a therapist in Dallas that said her biggest problem with women who thought that if men truly love their wives they would know what the wives wanted without being told.The first woman I met who told me she wanted to be spanked didn’t want to tell him what she wanted, she just expected him to man up and do it. We were both in our early twenties at the time.

I look forward to reading about peoples experiences.

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Subject: Spanking families


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Josh
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Date Posted: 12:34:05 01/03/26 Sat
Hi all! Married dad of two looking to chat with other parents to see how the spankings have worked for your families. Just interested in real experiences and not fantasies. I’m on TeleGuard (SQFFNUKA4), Zangi (54-2914-9847), and trillian (joshdad45).

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Subject: I spank when it’s needed


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Eric
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Date Posted: 04:55:06 01/03/26 Sat
Hello. My wife and I have been married for 15 years and we have 2 boys who are 9 and 11. My dad spanked me when I was growing up and my wife was also spanked mostly by her mom. We do spank our boys.

Since we were dating, I do occasionally spank my wife when she gives me attitude or she curses. It’s not that often and only happened 4 times last year but when it’s needed it’s given in private and it’s given firmly across her bare butt.

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