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Subject: Dyslexic Joy Author: Carole Miles (Happy) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 11:01:50 01/05/10 Tue hi all I can't be the only one happy about my dyslexia are there any adults that think that the gifts of dyslexia outweighs the disability of dyslexic. just curious [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Jane [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 23:52:19 01/05/10 Tue Hi! Interesting comment. Though there are advantages, on balance I'd rather be able to read books. Think things will get better when devices for having books read to me by electronic means will open up so many interesting subjects. Why do you consider it an advantage?

[> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Carole (Happy) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:55:22 01/06/10 Wed hi thanks for your reply i cant spell, i can read but for very short periods, why I'm so happy about my dyslexia well at university I found that I was able to hold complex theories in my head, once I got them it was like looking at a 3D maps i would have two or three at any one time, apply them, make connections, see how they work together or contradict look at them sideways and outside of the box and to my surprise none of my fellow brilliant colleagues could, I got firsts in all my work and could out do them. they could spell but they could not do nearly as well as I could with what matters THINKING. and i believe this is due to my dyslexia, what a gift. we all have to find our gifts and that is just one of my dyslexia gifts, what's that compared to spelling i can use a pc to do that. i did a MSC and a MA at different universities and both asked me to going to do a PHd not because of my spelling but because i could think that's why a guess, sorry if it sounds bostful i don't mean to be, i'm just really happy about my dyslexic gifts.

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Blake (disgruntled) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:26:03 03/02/10 Tue You do not have dyslexia. You have dysgraphia and you are missing the whole point of this forum. I'm overjoyed that you are "happy" with your "dyslexia"; but I myself would give anything to be able to read. Perhaps you should READ more about the disability you actually have!!!

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: George (Dyslexic) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:55:57 03/25/10 Thu I believe that dyslexic can be a good thing as you have described.

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Wendy Gillespie (PhD study advice) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:12:23 04/03/10 Sat Dear Carole I have just joined the forum due to extreme frustration trying to finalise a PhD proposal. It just goes round and round i.e. each time I look at it I rework it and find it hard to believe that my phrasing and often missing words are so prevalent despite repeated rereads and editing. Yes the PC tools are great but you ultimately need to produce a written coherent thesis for your PhD and get as many papers published as you can. Have you started your PhD and do your have any advice? I have always had extreme trouble reading/concentrating/comprehending even with corrective irlen lenses. I guess it also depends on what area you are researching. I have got away with coursework BSc and MSc with relatively short attention spans needed and with PC cut and paste options. Bird ecology (science) is my proposed area of study. I love being in the field but get stuck in the written translation. I have been told I am "gifted" which is why I have got this far which is even more frustrating as the diagnoser has no idea of the amount of work that it requires to get any type of written product. regards Wendy

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: froggy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:04:51 04/08/10 Thu I completely understand where you are coming from, I am currently going for my PhD and did wonderfully for the first 2 years when I was deigning and carryout research but now that I have to write papers. I have become a mess. I spend all this time and try as hard as I can and when I have others (boss or boyfriend) read what I have written I am only left feeling like I completely wasted my time, I am at a loss of how to improve,and feel like my life is over (what is the purpose of continuing if I can't present my research/ideas to a larger audience). What has upset me the most about the processes of all this writing is my relationship with my boyfriend and my PI has become awful. I don't know if it all cause by my stress and lack of self worth or there lack of value and respect for me when they see what I spend weeks writing. And its shit. If you are at the final writing processes - stick with it, find people- caring people that will help. Give them small pieces to read. What they say about your writing may hurt but they still help. What I find the hardest if when someone helps me with my writing, rewrites parts and the whole point is lost. It tells me directly that I completely failed at getting my point across. Good luck, what is your plans after the PhD?

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Wendy Gillespie Author: Carole Miles (Happy) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:17:07 04/11/10 Sun Hi Wendy Gillespie thanks for your reply I understand, I really do, the amount of extra hours that I had to put in the get the same work out is not to be underestimated, it is very stressful. i wish there was something that i could do to change that but there is not any think i know of. some tips that got me through: I had to let go of my leanings towards perfectionism (as in if i don't it 100% right then it an 100% failure that is not true, we beat ourselves with that and it increases our stress) make sure to have the best dyslexic aids and software i recommend WordQ. get support, I got other people to read my work and offer correction, and have people read my work out loud, you can get software to do that but it really helps to hear it read by a person. i got a relative to read for me paid her a nominal fee. break down the work in to bite sizes, concentrate on each part once happy put all the parts into a coherent whole. as a dyslexic we like things in whole, when writing this trait can be overwhelming. sorry if i'm teaching you to suck eggs for give me. but these things really helped me. good luck Carole

[> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Jane [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:50:34 01/16/10 Sat Hi! That's very interesting, but are you assuming that your thinking skills are due to being dyslexic, or do you know of some research that supports your view? Otherwise being dyslexic is not really an advantage. Thanks, Jane.

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Cathy (Not A Joy) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 21:10:59 04/03/10 Sat I live with a dyslexic husband, and it has not been a joy or gift for him. I have watched him struggle for 20 yrs, with his learning disability. He has severe dyslexia, and even after having tutoring through "Literacy Volunteers" he reads at a 5th or 6th grade level. It is hard work for him to read, and takes him a long time to read a 2 or 3 pg article. We do have a computer with a talking browser, and this helps him some. His employers have not understood, and although he managed to work 10 yrs (retired early)from a landscaping job; it required doctors, friends and myself to be his support and cheerleaders. He became his own self-advocate, and managed somehow to make it ten years at this job. No, I don't see it as a gift, but an enemy that one must always fight. It has brought my husband pain, humiliation, and depression. I will say that he has persevered, and I'm proud of every inch he has gained.

[> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Vanessa [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:48:08 05/11/10 Tue I am 25 years old and I and my husband are dslexic. I have struggled my whole entire life with this promblem, but I kept on going. We both have jobs and yes it is difficult but we keep going. I want to cry almost everynight and give up on everything sometimes because it is too hard or beccause i am just frustrated, but i don't. Both of Graduated from college but not all teacher understand, and some do. I am a Nutritionist and getting through college is not easy and it is a daily struggle. I am in my intership where i don;t have my comfort of spell check, i was upfront with my charting notes and i get yelled at at told " you are very smart but you just need to work on spelling and grammer". As much as you explain it people don't understand unless they have a loved one that has dyslexia or they have it themseleves. My sister in law is getting her Master now for 4 years because her paper the end results is not grammatically there. She really feels that she will not finish, but you have to have a strong family support to continue giving you the strength to keep going. I want to give up some days , but it you have to learn your coping strategies to get you through it. If you are writting a paper the paper needs to written a day before it due and get an editor,if you can't pay try a friend, they seem to help, if you truly have a good friend. We are all busy but i seem to always have someone when it counts.

[> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Mardi [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:00:19 05/17/10 Mon

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Mardi [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:05:49 05/17/10 Mon It's frustrating to live in a world where writing perfectly is looked up too, and if u fall short in this area then you are instantly preceived as an idiot. Obviously we aren't idiots...as just being able to communicate with each other on this thread prooves...but it doesn't change the pain caused by the dasaproving attitudes by the "clear thinkers" around us. In a perfect world our actions would speak louder than the written word...but the world isn't like this yet. We just have to learn to function their way, as well as we possible can. This disability is like any other, I suppose. If your are blind...you simply learn to hear better. So if we can't communicate through writting, or speaking or whatever...we should fine-tune our other skills.

[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Gary [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:10:04 01/07/10 Thu I think the problem with most of us with Dyslexia is that we dwell on the negative. It is like being given a Porsche and then complain that you can't fit five people in it like those with a mini van's. Yes I can't spell very well, as a building inspector I'm always being asked (how in the world do you see everything that is wrong) What we have is a gift that most of the world doesn't. I like the Porsche. Put the metal down and get on with life. Think out of the box. I don't care about what the others, who are driving their mini vans, I know what I can do. And what I can do I far surpass those who can spell better then me. Yes I'm glad I was allowed to be given this great gift, and pray that I'm using it to the uttermost potential.

[> [> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Carole Miles (More Joy) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:31:07 02/15/10 Mon yes yes yes great really happy to hear from some positive dyslexics, great analogy Porsche, so happy about my dyslexia and really over moon to find others that enjoy the gifts, dyslexics need to shift there focus to the positive of dyslexia, i hope that one day the voices of dyslexic joy find a louder voice in the world.

[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Julia (agreement plus) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:59:08 01/07/10 Thu Yes iam happy as a dyslexia. i belive so because of 3 things 1. i was 1 of the first to bee helped in the late 1950s 60s to the late 70s and as they studyed as hand what was happering to us at school home what they where trying to do to help us in are ablity to read write socialy relate and where related 2 because of the affects of the dexlia on us in life on so may leavles and as they gained this knowlage and the knowlage of how the brain wks and how to teach children to release what in them to benift others and socity I have whated and been part of this over the yrs. also as a mum with children with it i have seen there is more help for them and others of theire generation and those to come.Yes ther was pain for them and still is but it was less than for me and i was one off the lucky one off my generation for that i am so thankfull. I will never dine that iam dexlia never have. iwas tought that i was the same as otheres but many could not see that to forgive them and to keep trying to do as the teacher whanted.to belive that i had tryed as hard as i could and too always 2 that was the only way all the help i was getting would help me.this is how i still live and taught my children they whent and are going futher than i did af school.because they are thire generation with all the knowlage and wisdom agined over the yrs. such as the electrionical means there is now for it as well for dexlias to bee opend up too.many intersting things and ablities that where clossed dooors for my generation.but we still gain from the benifects of this in are lives in so many ways. number 3 is.there is now more aceptance in the learning world for us .but my pary is that there will bee more general acceptance in soicity of who we are are ablitties gifts that are insided us and how these could be a beniffit to otheres and socity if we are allowed to discover who we are and to funtion in are differances we been given.As this comes about and is i belive that more of us will be able too express who we are and in so doing learn to like areselves instead of doughting who we are and are gifts in so doing we would bee able too feel that we have so much that is off vaule to could offer to others in life.that is off help.IN so doing this we would be able to accept ourselves in ways we have not in the past.There is pain and its hard for many of us still. No matter how hard we try as poeople to funtion in sociaty as others do. this cant bee denied eaither e.g. as a dexlia unable to sit and read a book just for interest laughing as you do as my sister did as a child and still dose and is a libaraine now and as my husband dose, or as aparent with it unable as a mum or dad to help with homework as others do and when they little are expected too.and then the added pain of that if you have a child you passed it on too. and are unable to help when your hart whants too.to help them in there ablity to do there home wk.as other mum do.as a mum that whatens good for them thats so much of your famility.that in us to take care off people and to help are husbands thats what in us how it hurts us and how traped we feel in not been able too that comes form with in US.with out the pain that comes form othere when things are said or as you what others in todays world when it takes 2 wking parents too been able to porovied for a family or as a couple now days.just to live with out any off yhe needs that go along with dexlia childern which others you know dont have the expencess of with out all the other that above things we do.as we try to help.How we long to help provied with all of the needs that require the wking wage off 2.the pain off it cant bee known unless you walk it or have.Yes there is joy in how we are and what we are and in all the knowlage that can now help us and are children.Yes there is joy in been dexlia.and the joy off all thats known that whats in the 1950s we now live in the yr 2010. and there are diffrent pressers and needs of soicity today not more just diffrent because soicity is diffrent than it was for my mum dad than it is fore me now and my dexlia girls as young 20ys olds as me as mum with dexlia as well neaither was my mum or dad or sister and no othere family was just me. i never dreamed that my children would bee.....there diffrent pressers on us all than there was.and we all trying to cope as we walk through life.Do not stop beliving you are special and have gifts insided you that others need.and in others there is also in them.We all need each other and the freedom to know and grow and realise the gifts we been given.

[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Leanne [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:00:29 03/02/10 Tue You aren't alone. I struggled with dyslexia through grade school. Now, however, I view dyslexia as a gift. As a novelist, it helps me make connections where other people can't. Recently, at my writers' group I was talking with another dyslexic. Finally, the other members of the group stopped us. They said, "Wait, you lost me. I can't follow you. Please help me understand." We dyslexics, with the superior mind, smiled, slowed down and explained. It felt so good. Yes, dyslexia is a gift. Yes, I have been viewed as stupid because I have it. No, I won't ever return my gift.

[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: damefrank [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:29:35 03/25/10 Thu Okay kiddo, you just go to this site. And...by the way. If it wasn't for a most dyslexic 13 year old, America wouldn't have the only phonetic dictionary in the world. Find your word by the way it sounds. It was her idea and it is selling like crazy...so I know dyslexics are genius! http://www.dyslexia-test.com/famous.html

[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: ernie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:35:10 03/29/10 Mon ya i know i have a gift my reading and spelling is not that good. i stuggel with it evryday. my gift is making race cars run and working on them. as a owner iv one a chmpion ship. a lot of hard work but its esy for me to make them work. i fell evryone has a gifet when you find it its a mazing what you can do.

[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Ray [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:23:21 04/11/10 Sun I'm very happy with the gifts I have. I'm not sure dyslexia GAVE them to me, but it sure forced me to exercise them more and become stronger and I AM greatful for that!

[> Subject: Re: Dyslexic Joy Author: Sheila [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:24:41 04/13/10 Tue hi, i am well known as a very happy person and believe it is due to the way i look at the world through my dyslexics eyes. i knotes every colour and take a better ifinity to the beuty in the world.this perspective is what makes a lot of us grait artists and so in that way i think im happy to be dyslexic.