Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 15:20:53 10/27/07 Sat
Jenny,
Follow your heart. You're probably right when you say you could never forgive yourself for getting an abortion. Some women spend a lifetime trying to get over the guilt and shame they feel from getting an abortion. I hear over and over "If only I could go back to that day and let my baby live..."
Your boyfriend must love his one child, doesn't he? Could he see living without that child? If it's for purely selfish reasons why he would want you to get an abortion then you don't need a guy like that. He's not only dealing with a child but also you're well-being--emotionally and physically.
Is there anyone you can talk to, to support you in your pregnancy? Mom, dad, teachers, pastor, friends? If that person doesn't support you, find someone else. Keep looking until you find someone who cares about the life of the precious child you have. You're always welcome to email the ladies on the board. Kris gave you a phone number and that's a great place to start to find resources, support, how to tell your boyfriend and how to tell your parents.
If there's one thing I've learned with guys is hinting doesn't work. Make sure you're in a safe place when you do tell him (in public, with a friend etc) I don't know how he'll react but it sounds like you don't know how he'll react either.
You sound strong in how you feel about not getting an abortion. I just don't want to see you talked into something you don't want to do. You do have hope, don't let anyone tell you otherwise or try to "twist" your situation.
Let us know how you are. I'm glad you came here. Feel free to email me anytime.
Hugs,
Heather
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