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Subject: Confused about everything


Author:
Chantel (Sad)
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Date Posted: 21:04:59 10/30/07 Tue

Well hi everyone im 16 years old and my boyfriend is 19.We've been together for 3months and i just found out im pregnant.I told him and he's happy and all but today we were talking and he said"i dont want it anymore".i started crying because i thought we were on the same mindset.He said he has enough money for me to get an abortion.I dont want one,i wanna keep my baby.My moms gonna be mad but i dont care.I dont know what to do.......i wanna keep my baby but i cant do it by myself.Can someone help me please.Thanks

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[> Subject: Re: Confused about everything


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 09:01:19 10/31/07 Wed

Dear Chantel,

I really relate to you - I was 17 and pregnant and felt very alone. I want you to know that you are NOT alone though, and so even when your boyfriend is feeling afraid, you don't have to give in to any pressure he's putting on you.

You can call this number - 1-800-395-HELP or go to this site:

www.optionline.org

Look up a pregnancy center near you and GO to it. They can offer you help that you will need.

Remember this one thing - an abortion is a PERMANENT answer to a TEMPORARY problem - and if you don't want one, don't let anyone pressure you into it. One of the worst things you can do is abort a child when you don't want to - it will haunt you for the rest of your life.

You can email me directly if you want, it's faster than the board:

Hopkinskc@aol.com

Hang in there honey -

Kris
[> Subject: Re: Confused about everything


Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 04:53:07 11/01/07 Thu

Hi, Chantel,

Kris is a good person. She gives excellent advice, and she is very helpful.

I'll tell you of another resource. You can go here: www.pregnancycenters.org

They offer online counseling, and they have an extensive list of help centers.

Neither your boyfriend nor your mother has a right to pressure you. It is abusive. Your boyfriend will be reassured if you get some help, and he needs time to think about it. Most guys don't fully connect with a pregnancy until the second trimester anyway, and actually observe something, such as hearing the baby's heartbeat, or seeing movement, and so forth.

If you don't want an abortion, don't have one! Just tell your boyfriend and your mother that you have made your decision, and you aren't going to have an abortion. If they start jumping on you, just leave the room (or go outside if necessary). Tell them it's not open to discussion. They may harass you at first, but eventually, they will accept it. The more firm you can be, the better, and if you have gone to a crisis pregnancy agency, and have some plans on how you are going to handle it, it will help.

Hugs,
Pat


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