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Subject: Re: Need Advise!

Author:
Kris

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Date Posted: 18:20:48 04/14/08 Mon
In reply to: veronica 's message, "Need Advise!" on 16:45:48 04/14/08 Mon

Dear Veronica,

You ask, "what to do!!!?" My answer is follow your heart and do what's best for YOU - not the guy. Of course he doesn't want to have another baby - that means he has to be responsible for the child financially, etc.

If you click over to the Post Abortion support board:

http://www.voy.com/129741/

and read through the posts, you will see how an abortion can deeply affect a woman, especially if you do not want to have one to begin with.

There are many resources available to help you - please contact a pregnancy center near you at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Don't worry about what anyone thinks about the situation. Hollywood actresses are in this same situation all the time, there's just not that big a stigma attached to it all anymore. Plus, all that goes away once a beautiful baby is there.

I would suggest that you move away from this couple, surround yourself with friends that are supportive, and focus on you, the baby you carry and your daughter.

We're here to help if you need anything - just email me - or post updates.

Hang in there....

Hugs,
Kris

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[> Subject: Re: Need Advise!

Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 18:33:25 04/14/08 Mon

Hi, Veronica,

I'm just going to ask you, why are you even WITH this man? He's two-timing you, using you for personal gratification. You deserve better! I'd leave him immediately if I were you. And don't let him persuade you to harm yourself and your baby. Your baby doesn't deserve a father who thinks he or she should be torn apart and killed.

Please cancel your appointment. The mere fact he asked you to harm your baby means he isn't fit for you to have anything to do with. You don't want this abortion. Don't have it!

There's nothing confusing about this. You have bonded with him because that's what happens when you have sex with someone. But like I said, you deserve better. He's not fit for you. The sooner you break it off with him, the less pain you will have in the long run.

Telling your daughter and your family won't be easy. I think I'd tell everyone as little as you can get away with. Tell them you're pregnant and you will have the child. I don't see that you are under any obligation to talk about the "father".

Be strong. Don't cave into this man who wants to harm the two of you. Don't let him badger you either. Cut all ties with him. Don't talk to him. Don't have anything to do with him. Tell him that you are breaking it up, and you want nothing further to do with him. When he's no longer messing with your head, you will be able to think more clearly.

Please email Kris, and tell her to give me your email address. I'll email you so we can keep in touch. You are probably going to need some support. I want to provide that to you. Feel free to contact me any time. I don't come to this board that often, so I might miss your replies, and I don't want to do that.

Hugs,
Pat