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Marriage/Family

Author:
Kelly

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Date Posted: 15:33:59 11/21/02 Thu
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Salam
I have an issue, as i have been seeing an Arabic muslim for nearly a year, and we would now like to be serious and marry. However he thinks his family will push him away due to me being english (ready to convert to Islam)and they will not agree with him marrying me.
Although we care for each other very much, he now feels that he is in the middle of me and his family, i have applied no pressure as i would never ask that of him, and think that his family are v.important to him and me.
I feel sad for him, as his family would feel the need to apply such pressure.
I am also concerned that although he cares i could loose him due to his family views.
I would appreciate your words and advice on this upsetting matter.

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Author:
Laila Nasheeba
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Date Posted: 15:45:00 11/21/02 Thu
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Greetings,

Unfortunately there is no advise I can give to you. There is no mixing of women and men in Islam. There is no boy friend and girl friends. Men are not supposed to develope relationships with women who are not there immediate relatives. This man you have been seeing knows this and perhaps he fears the retribution that will come from his family knowing that he violated a major rule of Islam.

If you are interested in becoming a Muslim you should do so not to be with a man..but should do so for Allah. Also you need to understand that as a Muslim woman you are prohibited from talking to or associating with men who are not your immediate relations.

I suggest that if you are sincere in becoming a Muslim that you contact the closest Masjid to you so that the women there can teach you the basics of Islam and its foundations and the expected behavior you are to have.

Laila Nasheeba