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Date Posted: 16:52:42 03/25/16 Fri
Author: Still Wondering
Subject: Re: Husbands bisexual confession after 10 years
In reply to: Alison 's message, "Husbands bisexual confession after 10 years" on 16:18:18 03/25/16 Fri

"He has chosen not to tell you"....omission of the truth is the same as lying. He is manipulating you and should be ashamed of himself. All you have to do is imagine if he were asking you to let him have an open marriage to have sex with a female and it will all become clear. He's asking you for your ok to have sex with someone else (doesn't matter who it is) and then telling you you're not allowed to be mad or react. That's manipulation at it's finest. The problem is that by not snapping back at him instantly and asking him, are you fucking crazy you stupid SOB...you have opened the door a little bit and given him the impression that you might just believe that he is right and that you shouldn't be mad because after all, he's just asking for a man, it's not like he's cheating with a woman, right? WRONG.

If this man were to have come to you with his heart in his hands and told you: he's so sorry but although he thought he was bisexual before your marriage and didn't tell you because he honestly thought it didn't matter, he realizes that now it does- then MAYBE after getting mad and hurt and unhappy, just maybe you could work together and be buddies for the kids, etc. But step back and look at what he's doing. He's trying to come at you from a place of more lies and manipulation. he's saying in no uncertain terms: I want to have sex with men and cheat on you and if YOU don't accept it this is all YOUR fault. You're CHOOSING to be mad. Wrong. You need to take your five weeks and go back with unwavering resolve that you are done. There will certainly be no more sex with you and no sex with men (unless he'd like to move out then he's free to do what he wants).

Please know - even if he says ok, you're right, I'll stay and be faithful to you, he's lying. I guarantee you he's hiding his giddiness over you going away for five weeks. He will be a bachelor again.

Keep posting and definitely continue reading while you're away. It will help you get up to speed and go back with the proper ammunition.

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Five weeks of no accountability -- Cameron, 15:31:38 03/26/16 Sat