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Date Posted: 15:32:23 05/20/16 Fri
Author: lily
Subject: Re: Thank you
In reply to: Casseopia 's message, "Thank you" on 14:56:12 05/20/16 Fri

hi.

my story is very different to yours - I met my ex when I was 19 and he in his early 20's. I stayed with him til I was 57. That's when I realised that just because he said he wasn't gay. Just because he had made me feel ashamed for even thinking it, he was gay.

He even managed a sexual abuse story too but it was pretty lame - there was this priest at Sunday School who looked sideways at him.

So, when I came here and people were prepared to say "he's gay hon, he really is" it helped enormously - most of us have been living with people who say they aren't gay when they are. We actually need the confirmation from others.

Then there's a friend of mine. omg, when I told her why I was divorcing she told me that she might be a lesbian, what? oh it turned out that her husband, who she knew had casual sex with men, had convinced her that no it was her - she was a lesbian because she had a strong jawline. She is still with him. He looks gay and gayer with the passing of the years. But no, it is acting out over childhood sexual abuse and he has permission from his therapist to do it and my friend would be real mean if she didn't support him. She put that rainbow thing on her Facebook page. She is very fond of me so we are still in contact and I am like a guilty pleasure for her.

You can't fight nature.

The trouble with MOM's is that the straight suffers emotionally.

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