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Subject: I'm coming on this a little late but...

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Vanessa

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Date Posted: 08:37:27 12/13/02 Fri
In reply to: Sherri (SherrHod) 's message, "Re: Need a place to post a vent..." on 06:47:56 12/13/02 Fri

Sherri, I can definitely relate to your initial post. It was very irresponsible.

I'm currently separated from my husband (actually signing divorce papers today to get things started). We have been separated since Jan or May, depending on how you view things. I have been talking to a man since August who is sweet and understanding. I have not had sex with this man nor will I until my marriage is completely and legally over. Yes, it is over emotionally, but I am still technically married and I do have some morals. I can't imagine starting a relationship and getting pg right now.

I also have a son from a previous relationship. He wasn't a mistake but I wasn't married. I didn't get pg to trap his father. We thought we would be married and living a wonderful life, but things change.

The real reason I'm posting this is because of Cathy's comment. I'm half way scared to start a new relationship at all because of my two failed previous relationships. What if I get into another relationship and that man decides he wants more kids? Then either I have to give up a man I would care about and want kids with (if it's serious) or I'll have three kids with 3 different fathers. I know how bad that sounds.

Now I know how it would be viewed, regardless if I was married in both of my previous relationships. Would you even give a chance to say if I was married before or would you snicker as soon as you heard I had 3 kids?

I'm really not offended by Cathy's or anyones view. I am curious though. When you see someone with 3 kids and you hear that they have different father, do you listen to anything else that is being said about her past?

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Subject	Author	Date
I DEFINITELY Listen About the Past!	Terri	09:10:18 12/13/02 Fri
To satisfy curious minds -- Vanessa, 09:32:23 12/13/02 Fri Thank you for sharing -- Terri, 09:40:34 12/13/02 Fri Re: To satisfy curious minds -- Marsha & Trista, 18:24:41 12/13/02 Fri
Re: I'm coming on this a little late but...	Sherri (SherrHod)	11:12:13 12/13/02 Fri
Actually, it made great sense. You definitely word things right, Sherri. (NT) -- Terri, 11:40:29 12/13/02 Fri I'll agree -- Vanessa, 12:24:38 12/13/02 Fri Re: I'll agree -- Sherri (SherrHod), 13:16:31 12/13/02 Fri