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Subject: Re: Auto pilot...

Author:
Kris

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Date Posted: 09:03:51 09/17/07 Mon
In reply to: Natalie 's message, "Auto pilot..." on 16:04:51 09/16/07 Sun

Dear Natalie,

I'm so sorry for your loss and the difficulty you are going through emotionally. You not only lost a long term relationship, but you have also lost your child. I think so many times women are not prepared for the emotional cost of an abortion. It's important that you allow yourself to grieve - any loss will cause grief, and we need to let that grief out. The critical part in that is that you don't allow yourself to get "stuck" in one point of grief. You have to work through it and move through it. There's not a formula for grief, there are times when you will be sad, times when you feel mad, times when you deny and times when you can accept. Journaling your thoughts can be very theraputic, but all in all, it's important to find a support group and to work with other women going through similar things.

Many CareNet centers offer FREE post abortion counseling. I want to urge you to go to this web site and call the number or look up a center in your area:

http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html

You can also visit this site:

http://www.safehavenministries.com/

There are many message boards there and it's much more active than this board.

I'm really glad you found us here and I want to say that you are brave to post and please keep seeking the help you need to make it through this.

You are not alone - and you can find peace -

Hugs,
Kris

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Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 23:30:37 11/13/07 Tue

Natalie,

I'm so sorry about the whole thing. If the people at the abortion facility had been doing their job, they would never have let you go through with it.

The thing that concerns me the most about your message is that you want not to live, and you don't see how you will ever go to heaven. But God has already died for your abortion, and forgiveness is freely available from Him. You have to ask, and He will forgive.

Remember how God dealt with people who had committed grievous sin. David had a man killed so he could have his wife. God not only forgave him, but made him an ancestor of Jesus. Saul was killing Christians, but God reached out to him on the road to Damascus, and forgave him and made him an Apostle to the Gentiles. I owe Paul my faith because he preached to my ancestors.

Once you have asked God to forgive you, you should forgive yourself. This will be hard, but it is a matter of trusting in God's word. You obviously don't feel like forgiving yourself, so I think you should pray to God, and tell Him that you don't even want to forgive yourself, and He will have to help you to want to.

I am praying for you.

Hugs,
Pat