Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 00:44:29 08/16/07 Thu
Lisa,
I am so sorry! What your mother did was cruel and abusive. You have every right to be outraged. I am outraged. Please try to tell her how much she hurt you.
It will undoubtedly have a very strong impact on how you feel about your mother.
Once you have had a chance to express your outrage, it is good if you experience emotional and spiritual healing. In order to do that, you will eventually have to forgive your mother. Your emotions won't want to forgive her, so I will explain what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling. It is the decision to take into yourself the hurt and harm that your mother did to you, and to release her from all of your outrage. It would definitely be better if she can see what she did, but it isn't necessary. You can make the decision to forgive her, regardless of what she says and does. I am sure she really doesn't begin to understand what she did to you. It will take time to arrive at a point where you can do this. Give yourself a chance to grieve, and when you are ready, you will be able to forgive her. Ask for God's help. Remember, Jesus forgave those who killed Him, and so did the first recorded Christian martyr, Stephen.
I have a friend who was physically held down and forced to submit to an abortion against her will. She has become fully reconciled, and she is at peace, and she is one of the sweetest people I have ever met. She is a real inspiration to me. Her name is Suzanne. Please think of her as you work through this.
The links other people gave you are excellent. Please avail yourself of them.
I am praying for your healing.
Hugs,
Pat
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