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Subject: book link posting

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BB

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Date Posted: 02:21:27 04/11/08 Fri

I just want to say that I checked out that link for the new book kris is talking about. Although it says some good things, I feel that the emphasis is on abortion being a mistake. Although I feel extreme guilt about my abortion, I do not feel it was a mistake. I know that a lot of us feel guilt and shame, but I feel it is equally unfair to bring a child into a world that has unfit parents. While I do enjoy the positive messages conveyed through a religious context, I also believe that there are sometimes morals attatched that create a sense of guilt and shame that is un-neccessary for people such as ourselves, who already feel that way. I feel we need reassurance, and comfort, not a condeming hand. I hope this does not offend anyone. Just be careful that what you read on this topic does not deepen your pain or guilt. we do not need it.

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Kris
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Date Posted: 13:25:42 04/11/08 Fri

Dear BB,

I respectfully disagree with your take on the book I mentioned in the post below. I read through the informatioin on the website and I think it's a book that seeks to help women find healing for the hurts from abortion.

I understand that you are dealing with guilt - and that's part of the natural process you are going through with your loss. Guilt is a part of that loss/grief cycle. I have recenlty lost my Dad and I too have had feelings of guilt with that, it's not that I dwell there or press my guilt onto others - but I realize it's there, and acknowledge it's part of it all and move on. That's the critical part to healing from loss - moving on - not getting "stuck" in one of the phases of it all.

I would NOT want to discourage anyone here from seeking the healing they need, and we each are unique, therefore find that healing in our unique way.

In no way was my post a pointing the finger of condemnation, it was pointing others to a path of healing, hopefully.

I care deeply for all the women that post here, I don't think there is a single more important issue that is as widespread and harmful than post-abortion stress. That is MY opinion and experience.

Peace,
Kris