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Subject: how do i get over this


Author:
Ashlee W. (regret, sad, upset)
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Date Posted: 23:56:41 04/10/08 Thu
 on the 26th april 2004 i terminated my 8 week pregnancy at just 15 years old, i wasnt thinkin straight what i wanted at the time, i went more along with what my parents were saying was right for me. i have regreted it ever since that day, its tearing me up inside. every year around april time i go on an ultimate low, uncontrollable crying, loss of appetite, cant sleep, i didnt know how hard it is to cope with knowing what you have done, i feel gulity and horrible about myself every single day. i have been trying for a baby again for 2 years and nothing has happened, in a way i think im bein punished for what i have done. am i going to feel like this forever. please somebody help
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[> Subject: Re: how do i get over this


Author:
BB
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Date Posted: 02:06:48 04/11/08 Fri
Hi,

First of all, I'm so sorry that you are having a difficult time.
I still am too, but I just started counselling this week, and I really feel like its going to help me to deal with this. Try and get a recommendation from someone you trust. I know that it feels worse everytime you think about it, or talk about it, but in the end, its better to let it out then keep your pain inside.
*hugs*
be kind to yourself, and take care.

[> Subject: Re: how do i get over this


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 12:46:51 04/11/08 Fri
Dear Ashlee,

I am so sorry for the difficulties you are going through. I agree with BB that you should talk to someone about how you are feeling and what you are going through.

We all need to find our path to healing from hurts and pain. There are several good resources out there for post-abortion issues. Please find a local pregnancy center at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

They also have a page with some post-abortion information on it:

http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html

Call a center near you or the 1-800-39-HELP number and ask about the FREE post-abortion counseling they offer.

This is another site with many good links - please spend some time there looking it all over:

http://www.inourmidst.com./abortion_links.htm

It's really important for you to understand why you're feeling the way you do. Having another pregnancy/baby is also a "symptom" of Post-abortion Stress - it will NOT make the bad feelings go away - so please understand what you are really going through before you try to have a child.

Hang in there, we're here to support you and help you!

Hugs,
Kris
[> Subject: Re: how do i get over this


Author:
erika (really sad)
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Date Posted: 14:03:38 04/16/08 Wed
I really know how it feels. Yesterday( April 15th, 2008) I decided 2 abort my baby at 17 weeks of pregnancy. Today, i really regret doing!! It was actually the most stupid thing i have ever done. I know i'm only 16 years old, but i felt i was ready to take the responsability by myself... I had a boyfriend, who wasn't the father of my baby, he is 26 years old. He already has 3 kids with his ex-wife... I was ok with that. So he said that it didn't really matter that i was pregnant from a past relatioship.We started living together... until this past Friday (April 11, 2008) He told one of my best friends that he loved me, but he could never live happy by my side knowing that i was pregnant by someone else... so that's when i got the idea of commiting abortion.. Later on they asked me if I wanted to see my baby... i said yes... he looked just like me. I felt like the worst person in the world. I couldn't believe i took away his life, i knew he already loved me.. all he wanted was the right to live, but i'm so egoist i just thought about myself. Now, i know i will never be happy with my boyfriend because thanks to him, i lost the only MAN who was gonna love me forever, no matter what...i have lots of faith in God.. nd i know my baby, Eduardo Alex, is just by his side, protecting me, because he knows how much i love him.. and God know i am truly regreting what i did and he knows how to forgive...now they are both leading my way to a better life, with a man who will really love me no matter what.. R.I.P. Eduardo Alex Barrera. mommy loves you!!!
[> Subject: Re: how do i get over this


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Kris
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Date Posted: 09:02:16 04/18/08 Fri
Dear Erika,

You are so young to have to deal with so much. I am so sorry for your loss. Please look up a center near you at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Find one near you and ask about "Post-Abortion" counseling - most of the centers offer FREE sessions and they are really really helpful.

I also am going to go out on a limb here a little and tell you that I am very worried about you - at 16, you really shoud NOT be with a guy that is 26 - that's just way too big a gap and you should be living life as a 16 year old - not an old married woman or something. If he was a decent guy, he wouldn't be messing around with someone so much younger than he is. But that's just my opinion, and I don't really know you - but in writing it just sets off alarms for me.

Please do look up a center near you and contact them, they are only there to help you through the rough spots.

You can email me if you'd like: Hopkinskcaol.com

Hugs,
Kris
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