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Subject: Re: how do i get over this

Author:
erika (really sad)

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Date Posted: 14:03:38 04/16/08 Wed
In reply to: Ashlee W. 's message, "how do i get over this" on 23:56:41 04/10/08 Thu

I really know how it feels. Yesterday( April 15th, 2008) I decided 2 abort my baby at 17 weeks of pregnancy. Today, i really regret doing!! It was actually the most stupid thing i have ever done. I know i'm only 16 years old, but i felt i was ready to take the responsability by myself... I had a boyfriend, who wasn't the father of my baby, he is 26 years old. He already has 3 kids with his ex-wife... I was ok with that. So he said that it didn't really matter that i was pregnant from a past relatioship.We started living together... until this past Friday (April 11, 2008) He told one of my best friends that he loved me, but he could never live happy by my side knowing that i was pregnant by someone else... so that's when i got the idea of commiting abortion.. Later on they asked me if I wanted to see my baby... i said yes... he looked just like me. I felt like the worst person in the world. I couldn't believe i took away his life, i knew he already loved me.. all he wanted was the right to live, but i'm so egoist i just thought about myself. Now, i know i will never be happy with my boyfriend because thanks to him, i lost the only MAN who was gonna love me forever, no matter what...i have lots of faith in God.. nd i know my baby, Eduardo Alex, is just by his side, protecting me, because he knows how much i love him.. and God know i am truly regreting what i did and he knows how to forgive...now they are both leading my way to a better life, with a man who will really love me no matter what.. R.I.P. Eduardo Alex Barrera. mommy loves you!!!

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[> Subject: Re: how do i get over this

Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 09:02:16 04/18/08 Fri

Dear Erika,

You are so young to have to deal with so much. I am so sorry for your loss. Please look up a center near you at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Find one near you and ask about "Post-Abortion" counseling - most of the centers offer FREE sessions and they are really really helpful.

I also am going to go out on a limb here a little and tell you that I am very worried about you - at 16, you really shoud NOT be with a guy that is 26 - that's just way too big a gap and you should be living life as a 16 year old - not an old married woman or something. If he was a decent guy, he wouldn't be messing around with someone so much younger than he is. But that's just my opinion, and I don't really know you - but in writing it just sets off alarms for me.

Please do look up a center near you and contact them, they are only there to help you through the rough spots.

You can email me if you'd like: Hopkinskcaol.com

Hugs,
Kris