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Date Posted: 23:58:13 08/10/03 Sun
Author: Jeannine
Subject: Well, There is a lot to say about this so come inside please===>
In reply to: Martina 's message, "Is control a bad thing?" on 09:47:05 08/10/03 Sun

I think control over ones self is mostly a good thing. BUt as with anything, people do go over board. Some people are obsesssive compulsive and though they have control, they are stuck in that. Others have to control everyone to a point of exhaustion. Or if they arent in control they make life miserable for everyone. That to me is very sick...even their children are totally controled. I guess it all comes down to fear.Everyone has some issue, maybe it is even past life related, i.e. that in the last life you had no control, being a woman in the Victorian times say, so now you are making up for that. I personally (and I think with age it happens) would like more control over my emotions. My EX was/is very controling but in a passive way if that makes sense, he bought the clothes he thought I should wear, bought me make-up kits, he would have these little talks with me about my behavior/emotions. After 8 years I FINALLY woke up and got the hell out of there. My current DH thinks he can use guilt to control me, like his mother does to him, I dont fall for that crap, but he does wear on me so I usually give in but I let him know that your guilt is not the reason, I am sick of arguing with you. HIS EX is a control FREAK. If it is NOT her way than it is NO WAY. She doesnt control me and therefore hates me...my DH she has by the balls.I think a great amount of control is fear related simply. Some is good for every person. There are choices to make and life to live, too much control is no fun. Sexually say, some people cant let go enough to enjoy that! Like Bree in the books. Some kids I used to teach, couldnt let go enough to go to the bathroom, it was their way of controling their world. That is what Anorexia is about too. Bad things can happen with extremes!

GLAD to hear Lori that the tapes are working!!

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[> I'd love to be hypnotized (sp?) sometime, to do a past life regression or to get over this horrible fear I have of the dentist, I get panic attacks and everything when I sit down in that chair. *shudder* So in a responsible environment I am ok with it. On the other hand, I don't want to lose control of myself through drugs or medications, that would completely freak me out! -- Linda, 11:14:21 08/12/03 Tue


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[> [> Linda, I'm sure we had the same dentist in some past life!!!! ;-) -- Antje - briefly delurking, 13:45:50 08/12/03 Tue


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