ITA, it�s a vicious cycle but it goes from Max to Blair to Todd. Max emotionally abuses Blair, leaves her self-esteem in tatters but Max refuses in turn to be Blair�s victim, no matter how hard she tries to HURT him back, including attempted murder, she can�t seem to DAMAGE Max so she seeks out someone she CAN hurt, Todd. -- At The Bayberry - Todd Board

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Date Posted: 10:07:10 03/18/01 Sun
Author: Pilar
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ITA, it�s a vicious cycle but it goes from Max to Blair to Todd. Max emotionally abuses Blair, leaves her self-esteem in tatters but Max refuses in turn to be Blair�s victim, no matter how hard she tries to HURT him back, including attempted murder, she can�t seem to DAMAGE Max so she seeks out someone she CAN hurt, Todd.
In reply to: Pilar 's message, "Don't be sorry, Elisa, for calling a spade a spade, after all Malone set up Blair as �bad� one in original T&B relationship to "victimize" Todd as means to further redeem him. Malone wrote Blair repeatedly taking advantage of a VERY vulnerable Todd, who �sucked� up HER abuse until he snapped & retaliated." on 09:55:32 03/18/01 Sun

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In EACH BnT story, Todd�s self-esteem takes a major beating, damaging him further but why is that? Because a person typically becomes an abuser out of a desperate NEED to boost their own poor self-esteem by tearing down another�s! Blair derides Todd, places ALL blame for their failed relationships on him/his problems b/c she can�t look in the mirror & admit her own litany of faults� that would be admitting her image of herself is probably as bad as Todd�s of himself. (NT) -- Pilar, 10:20:02 03/18/01 Sun

Pilar, you said that all so well. And you're so right about both Blair/Max and Blair/Todd. Max does treat Blair badly, affair with Skye under her nose for example, Blair shoots him, and what happened? Didn't seem to phase Max at all. So she moves to Todd, treats him badly, after his initial angry reaction she ends up convincing him it was all his fault, feels horrible inside, tries to make it up to her, and so on. It's painful for me to watch, and with no hope in sight, that's why I stopped. (NT) -- Elisa, 14:44:58 03/18/01 Sun

I meant to say above that HE feels horrible inside. He falls back into the idea that he's a monster that can't have love and destroys every chance at it. Blair doesn't do that, no guilt at all that playing with Max and letting him in that night destroyed her chance at love with Todd. She never warns men not to get involved with her for fear that they'll end up hurt, like Todd did with T�a, and she's the one who's tried to kill two husbands. No, Todd and Blair are not much alike at all. (NT) -- Elisa, 14:58:07 03/18/01 Sun