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[> [> Re: Sad day full of memories -- Margaret, 23:46:23 03/24/02 Sun (host213-122-106-121.in-addr.btopenworld.com/213.122.106.121)

My father went like this, and it was his body but not my dad. The hardest part was before he got very bad and he realised what was happening, he was so upset but couldn't do anythink about it. He couldn't accept my sons as they were growing up but when shown pictures of them small, he would accept it for a short time. Ask about their youth, and they can remember, but not the present.

You have your memories nothing will take them away, just enjoy what she has to offer now.

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[> [> [> Re: Sad day full of memories -- Susan, 10:01:58 03/25/02 Mon (cheyenne.riverland.net.au/203.18.28.218)

Thank you Margaret. Glad to see you back here. How is everything going with you?
We do talk about Rob's Mum's earlier years to her and she remembers vividly her childhood on the farm and her nursing years until she married and can share these memories with her.
She remembers every one of her children but not the grand children and we have explained to them why.
Rob says he feels as if he has lost the Mum he knows and that she is just a shell of the person he knows and loves. This is a horrid disease.

Regards,
Susan

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[> Re: Sad day full of memories -- Ellie., 14:57:08 03/24/02 Sun (c18117.thoms1.vic.optusnet.com.au/210.49.249.218)

Susan, I feel for you. I've never had a relative with Alzeimers,but I worked for 2 years as a personal care giver for a lovely elderly lady,Lorna who had it.. and I grew very fond of her. She was a lady who had had nine children, and she lived in this huge Victorian house with the one son,Dan, who was the only unmarried one. Dan was a primary school principal, so Lorna went to day care centre in the mornings then I looked after her in the afternoons till Dan got in from school. She ended up thinking I was one of her daughters, and would boss me around.. telling me to hurry and get ready for Mass, or scolding me for this and that!
It was sad but had it's very funny moments too. Once Dan offered to drive me home, and of course Lorna came too. Somehow on the drive she convinced herself that Dan and I had just got married and we were off on our honeymoon! She kept saying how sweet we were to take her on the honey moon too! Its a sad thing to witness Susan.. but try to recall all the happy memories.It helps.
Ellie.

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[> [> Re: Sad day full of memories -- Susan, 10:07:13 03/25/02 Mon (cheyenne.riverland.net.au/203.18.28.218)

Oh Ellie, you could have scored a young husband??? Thank you for the smiles this gave me.
Tina, thank you for your thoughts. Yes, we have kept "small things" (only a few) full of memories that we have.

Regards,
Susan

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[> Re: Sad day full of memories -- Tina Swinimer, 00:54:57 03/25/02 Mon (hlfx46-17.ns.sympatico.ca/142.177.96.17)

My heart goes out to you. I went through clearing out my parents belongings-it's hard to know what to keep and what not to keep-I gave my neices and nephews-sister and brother and my children the things they wanted-pictures,some items they always associated with Mother and Father..Cookie jars that held great memories,some wall hangings that they had memories of enchantment with-oh a lot of things..Dads war medals,Mothers first hat she made in a hat factory-in the USA-and her job acceptance letter.All these ment more than the larger items!Furniture went to those setting up appartments for going to university and to the local animal shelter yard sale.It is so heartbreaking to settle an estate..so many memories..Bless you-Tina

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[> Re: Sad day full of memories..So Sad Susan -- Donna, 21:05:16 03/25/02 Mon (11Cust78.tnt3.st-petersburg.fl.temp.da.uu.net/67.240.42.78)

I am glad you still have all those wonderful memories, but maybe somewhere deep inside she still has them, I pray she does anyway...hope you are cheered up somewhat today (Monday here), hugs, Donna

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