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Date Posted: 12:50:58 08/05/03 Tue
Author: mvd
Subject: Well...
In reply to: Adilbrand 's message, "Re: America has always been like that" on 11:37:00 08/05/03 Tue

I constantly meet people who, upon walking among a group of people, think (or say!), "I am above these people; they have nothing to offer me." Snobbish and arrogant.

Dawn and I have discussed how little we care to meet new people, and how little effort we make to get to know others. I think this is many times perceived as arrogance by some, especially those that are being "snubbed" if you will. But the truth is that she and I just don't need or want to know lots of people. We don't care what others have to offer all that much because we feel content in all that we have now. What do other people have to offer besides opinions and conjecture? Why, if my opinions are just opinions, and your opinions are just opinions, should I feel that you (you meaning anyone) have so much to offer?

I was asked in an interview the other day, "What is a personal goal for change that you have not achieved?" Or something along this line. I thought for a moment and realized that I pretty much liked myself the way I was. I don't need to change, nor does anyone. Most everyone stays the same, no matter how much they give lip service to wanting to change anyway.

So, what do others have to offer? Lots? Nothing? I guess it depends on how much you want or need. There is nothing wrong with contentment. There is nothing wrong with not changing. Does this make one closed-minded? Arrogant? Not really. Arrogance is just a term placed on someone by others. If a man does not believe himself to be arrogant, then why should he care if other people think him to be so? It is just their opinion and no different in merit than his own.

Now, what of thinking yourself to be above others? Well, this is pretty arrogant. But believing others have nothing to offer is not. It simply indicates a happiness with one's own thoughts and preconceptions. Nothing wrong with that, really. We all have them, and most likely will hang onto them, no matter how open-minded we declare ourselves to be.

When speaking about Americans abroad, they are rude and obnoxious. They also give off the air of being superior. But, this is neither here nor there. Let them be that way, I say. It's just a perception.

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