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Date Posted: 13:42:27 08/05/03 Tue
Author: Adilbrand
Subject: Meeting People
In reply to: mvd 's message, "Well..." on 12:50:58 08/05/03 Tue

Dawn and I have discussed how little we care to meet new people, and how little effort we make to get to know others.

I love meeting new people. So many of them are freaks from my point of view, and I love it. People fascinate me. I use them to base characters on, to base stories on, to base games on. I love meeting people. They utterly fascinate me.

I think this is many times perceived as arrogance by some, especially those that are being "snubbed" if you will.

Yep. I can understand that perception.

But the truth is that she and I just don't need or want to know lots of people.

I guess I don't need to meet new people, in the sense of survival, but I do want to meet them. Heck, if I had that attitude, I'd have married my cousin since I would have avoided meeting new folks; I never would have bothered meeting Barbara. In that sense, I did need to meet somone. I didn't want to marry my sister or my cousin. Seems like a bit of a hillbilly attitude to me.

We don't care what others have to offer all that much because we feel content in all that we have now.

I do not want to be a Lotus Eater. I like to have goals to strive for and to fight for. I am not content living in my little rental home. I am not content with Perry's ability to speak. I want my DnD world to grow and change, and will no longer be content with its stagnation. (My games sucked when I decided I was content with Inzeladun).

What do other people have to offer besides opinions and conjecture? Why, if my opinions are just opinions, and your opinions are just opinions, should I feel that you (you meaning anyone) have so much to offer?

I have found that meeting people allows me to view the box I am in from a different vantage. I can gain insights, and new perceptions. I can realize my blindspots. I can be fascinated.

I was asked in an interview the other day, "What is a personal goal for change that you have not achieved?" Or something along this line. I thought for a moment and realized that I pretty much liked myself the way I was. I don't need to change, nor does anyone.

Speak for yourself. If I did not change, I still would be living under the thumb of my parents. I strive for independence. I strive to make life what I want it to be. Life is not what I want it to be yet. I am glad of this. I want my own house; I am glad I had to fight for it, also. I would have hated it if it were just given to me. I may not need to change, but I would grow most unhappy if I did not. I cannot be the Lotus Eater - content with his lot.

Most everyone stays the same, no matter how much they give lip service to wanting to change anyway.

My students last night were just commenting on how much I had changed from my first quarter to the current quarter. Soon I will be a house owner and living in that home, a home I fought for and won. Change happens all around me. I read books I adored in high school - but now I cannot re-read them and enjoy them because I have changed. I listen to less KISS now than I used to. Now I listen to more classical music.

So, what do others have to offer? Lots? Nothing? I guess it depends on how much you want or need.

Does have to depend on neediness? I do not need to read books, but I enjoy them. I do not need to watch movies, but I enjoy them. I do not need to meet new people, but I enjoy them. Do they have to offer anything to me? No. As you stated once, not everything has to have a point.

There is nothing wrong with contentment.

I guess. I have only found stagnation there. Perhaps my perception is flawed on this point, though. Would you care to make a case for contentment?

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Replies:

Contentment -- mvd, 14:41:44 08/05/03 Tue
- Good argument -- Adilbrand, 14:51:50 08/05/03 Tue
  - Re: Good argument -- mvd, 15:07:22 08/05/03 Tue
  - Re: Good argument -- mvd, 15:14:47 08/05/03 Tue
    - Question Answer Session -- Adilbrand, 16:30:39 08/05/03 Tue
      - Okay -- mvd, 17:55:21 08/05/03 Tue
- Re: Contentment -- Dawn, 15:01:47 08/05/03 Tue