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Date Posted: 09:39:07 05/26/16 Thu
Author: Rob (Well written)
Subject: Re: A familiar pattern
In reply to: Susan 's message, "A familiar pattern" on 04:41:46 05/26/16 Thu

Thanks for sharing susan.
I just wanted to say dont beat yourself up. I had a great upbringing and great parents but still somehow after decades got duped. There was nothing off with sex except in the last couple of years where it was less frequent.
I dont think there is anything we could have done differently.. sure now we would have liked to have met someone different..

I think we all gave true authentic love..we were all in. Our cheating spouses were not all in..they selfishly kept some part of them secret.. im my lezexs case she kept it so well hid..then suddenly like a switch..has contempt and loathing of me. I think in fact they loath themselves but blame us...its then easy to say we caused everything..including the gayness..which is reduculous. We know we cant make someone gay. Working back from there.we can all see that the other thinga we're blamed for are not true either. But boy did they make us feel like we we're to blame.. ie. My check engine light is on..oh you never take care of my car only yours..huh? Didnt i just put new brakes on it and change the oil? You never loved me? Huh..what else can i possible do you for you..ive given you everything ..there is nothing left...

So true to get them and their lies out of our minds.. i long to be among normal authentic people ..only ones i trust are you folks here. Wish we could all meet and hug.

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Replies:

Re: A familiar pattern -- Still wondering, 10:37:56 05/26/16 Thu

Re: A familiar pattern -- Susan, 18:13:29 05/26/16 Thu

Re: A familiar pattern -- Anne (unbelievable), 18:31:41 05/26/16 Thu