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Date Posted: 00:58:33 05/20/16 Fri
Author: Rob (grasping at straws yep)
Subject: Re: Blaming and shaming
In reply to: Sue 's message, "Blaming and shaming" on 19:40:37 05/19/16 Thu

Sue,
Yeah you write up what they do so well...they have to build themselves up by putting us down.

I even have it writing why she wanted a divorce..but its much of the same excuses that she never brought up in our decades old marriage. Basically she wrote down the rediculous things and that someday I would understand what I did..as if writing it down would make it true. It was to make me doubt and make her feel better about herself.
My esteem was at an all time low and she though I would just believe it.

It still hurts when she jumps on any small thing to put me down..but.. we're divorced now..I dont listen and don't care. If her lips are moving she lying or trying to build herself up.. no contact is the way to go.

If it makes you feel better.. its not you....its not you..I would go out with you in a second based on just your writing here. I do not think you have an "ultimate flaw".. that is just more gaslight.. The gaslighting is a horrible feeling.. I felt just like Ingrid Bergman in that movie. I urge you not to believe anything he says.. you are not crazy.

Move forward, always forward. Walk by faith and not by sight.

E-hugs (sincere and authentic)

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Replies:

  • Re: Blaming and shaming -- Susan (Nasty little squirrels), 04:58:24 05/20/16 Fri
  • Re: Blaming and shaming (NT) -- Laurence (So true !), 06:11:07 05/20/16 Fri
  • Re: Blaming and shaming -- WendiT (Yes!), 07:05:37 05/20/16 Fri
  • Re: Blaming and shaming (NT) -- Lake Breeze (Great analogy, Susan!), 13:27:48 05/20/16 Fri
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