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Date Posted: 16:58:25 05/29/16 Sun
Author: Abby (Welcome and sorry you're here)
Subject: Re: Feels like I'm dying
In reply to: Josie 's message, "Feels like I'm dying" on 06:22:38 05/29/16 Sun

Now that you know that he has a sexual attraction to men you are going to start hearing that sexuality is fluid and may be encouraged to accept that this is just how he is and to consider "opening" your marriage.

Before you start down that path I would urge your to consider your own sexuality and what YOUR wants, needs and boundaries are. Is YOUR sexuality fluid? Do YOU find yourself sexually attracted to women as well as men? If he wants an "open" marriage where he is free to have sex with men does your being free to have sexual relations with women appeal to you? It is not uncommon for men who want to have sex with men to not want their wives to be free to have sex with other men so this might be what openness might consist of for you.

Your marriage vows likely included "forsaking all others" and you should not feel pressured by him, a counselor or anyone else to go where you are not comfortable in order to remain "married". What is marriage to you? What price is too high to "save" it?

There are worse things than divorce.

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  • Re: Feels like I'm dying -- Susan (So sorry you're here), 18:36:31 05/29/16 Sun
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