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Subject: Re: Changing my life / Becky -- telling your mom


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Becky
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Date Posted: 08:34:54 10/14/04 Thu
In reply to: chocolate 's message, "Re: Changing my life / Becky -- telling your mom" on 01:28:30 10/14/04 Thu
 >I have a tip for you on telling your mom, you just
>decide if you want to use it, but anyway here it is...
>
>When having a complex dialogue people tend to raise
>emotions, they tend to be defensive and in the end
>they havent really said what they wanted to say and
>they havent really got the reaction they wanted to
>get.
>In order to prevent this you could tell your mom you
>want to talk to her about something serious, write her
>a letter in advance and have the talk after she has
>read the letter, in that way, you get to say all you
>want and she can read it in peace.
>In this letter explain to her what the problem is, how
>it makes you feel, that this all is not her fault and
>what you hope to get from her (understanding,
>affection, help in what way) tell her what you
>definately dont want.
>
>This seems to be a very effective way to deal with
>parents (I wish I did it when I was younger)
>
>I think if you have a good relationship with your mom
>you should tell her, you can get a lot out of it. And
>remember, one of the first steps out of the ana life
>is putting yourself open to other people.
>
>Let us know how it works out
>
>chocolate

Thanks chocolate, I will give that a try and see if I can get some form of a letter that explains myself well enough. I have been running over the conversation in my head for the past two days and I made a list of stuff that I wanted to be sure to include of things to say. Thanks again and once it happens, i will definitely post how it went.
Take care,
Becky
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