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Date Posted: 02:52:18 11/23/25 Sun
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"Human feelings change depending on the place and environment. When I was growing up in the 90s, India hadn't yet modernised, and the contrast between big cities, small towns, and villages was quite stark.
I was the only child of my parents and lived in a small town. In middle-class families back then, young boys weren't given much privacy; a child's nudity was viewed simply as innocence. So, in that small town, being naked for me meant bathing naked in front of my parents at the open backyard in our house, or changing clothes naked in front of them, as they were the ones who would fetch my fresh clothes. When relatives came to visit (except for a few very close ones I will mention later), I would avoid being naked in front of them.
In primary school (around age 8), it meant seeing my male friends peeing together in the latrine with their pants down. There were no modern latrine facilities; it was more like a large drain, so everyone could see each other peeing and penises. Sometimes, there were even competitions to see who could pee the farthest.
And if accidents happened at school, incidents involving nudity would occur. For instance, once during the rainy season, I fell completely into the mud, ruining my clothes. There was a female maid (attendant) at the school. She took me to the bathroom, took off all my wet clothes, leaving me completely naked, bathed me with a bucket of water, wrapped me in a towel, and called my father's office to ask him to pick me up. We didn't keep extra clothes at school; I must have been about 7 years old at the time.
Seeing me being bathed naked in the open bathroom, some friends teased me, saying, 'Shame, shame, fully naked!' Some girls from the class saw it too, because no one usually got fully naked at school. And since I was just a small boy, the school maid didn't even feel the need to close the door."
"So, in the small town, all of us boys, friends grew up this way. Until we were about 12 years old (before hitting puberty), we would be naked in front of our parents at home; the concept of individual privacy didn't really exist. Those who had sisters would be naked in front of them too, but outside the house or in front of a crowd, everyone felt shy about being naked and wouldn't do it.
Now, let's move on to the village, where the environment was completely different. Electricity hadn't reached every village back then, the roads were unpaved, and people's mindsets were quite old-fashioned. My mother's ancestral home was in the village. My grandfather, grandmother, maternal uncle (Mama), and his wife (Mami) lived there. My uncle got married when I was 9, and their daughter was born when I was 13. Every year, when our school closed for the 45-day summer vacation, my uncle would come to take me to the village, and I would stay there.
The customs in the village were different. Readymade clothes weren't readily available there; clothes had to be stitched by tailors, or the women of the house would make them from fabric. At that time, it was very common for young boys in the village to play naked in the open fields, by the riverbanks, or in the woods. There were various reasons for this:
Traditional Mindset: The villagers were old-fashioned; they considered the nudity of young boys to be natural, although they were conservative regarding girls.
Financial Constraints: Clothes were quite expensive in India back then. Since children outgrew their pants quickly, poor parents wouldn't buy many clothes. Usually, there was one set for wearing at home and another for going out.
Practicality: Village boys played a lot in the mud and dust, so there was a high chance of clothes getting dirty or torn.
As a result, it was a very common sight to see boys aged 11-12—who hadn't reached puberty yet and had hairless penises, bodies—naked in the village river or out in the fields. Older women and girls of the same age considered this entirely normal, so no one mocked or joked about it. On the other hand, small girls would usually wear just panties and a white camisole that went down to their waist; full nudity was not acceptable for them."
"Before my uncle's marriage, when I was even younger at the village house, my grandmother (Didima) used to take me to the river to bathe. There was a large river just a four-minute walk behind our house. You had to cross the woods and a sandbank behind the house to reach it. Grandma would strip me completely naked at home and take me to the river to teach me how to swim and give me a bath. Then, once we returned home, she would give me clothes to wear again.
It was only in the village that I would be naked outside the house, something that didn't happen in the town. Many women would come to the riverbank to do their chores, like washing clothes or scrubbing utensils, and their daughters would come along too. I would be completely naked in front of all of them, but I didn't feel shy because I saw all the other boys my age—who hadn't reached puberty yet—bathing in front of everyone and playing in the sand by the river in the same state. After all, I wasn't the only one; furthermore, the women or girls never shamed us.
I would also be naked at the village house at night before going to sleep. Since there was no electricity, it used to get very hot at night, so Grandma would have me sleep naked on a mat on the floor; I would only get clothes to wear again in the morning. Additionally, inside the house, I would be naked while changing clothes to go out.
It is worth mentioning that in the village, neighbours frequently visited people's homes to chat, as that was the main way to pass the time apart from reading storybooks. So, even if people were visiting the house, Grandma would strip me naked in front of them if necessary—like when changing my outfit to go out—which was unlike how things were in the city."
"When I was 9 years old, my uncle got married, and Mami (my aunt) came to our home. My newlywed aunt was very jovial. Whenever my uncle brought me to the village, she would say to me, 'Come on, come on, take off those dirty clothes from the travel. Get completely naked. Let me see how much your penis has grown since last time.' She would laugh as she said this.
I had grown up a little by then, so I didn't need to be escorted to the river for a bath anymore. About an hour before bath time, Mami would strip me completely naked and send me out through the back door. I would play with other boys on the riverbank, then bathe in the river and return. The village women and girls would be by the riverbank and watch us; for them, this was an everyday occurrence.
Mami changed one routine compared to my grandmother... When I returned home, she would give me only a T-shirt to wear that reached my waist, but nothing underneath. As a result, my penis and buttocks remained only half-covered. And if I raised my hands even slightly, everything would be exposed. I felt even more shy being pantless like this than being completely naked; but if I mentioned it to Mami, she would say, 'Oh please, everyone inside and outside has seen everything already. You are just a child... why are you so shy?'
A girl named Tina Didi, who was three years older than me, lived in the house next door. She would occasionally come to our house. Because she saw me wearing just a T-shirt without pants like that, she treated me like an even smaller child. If I tried to say anything to her, she would say, 'You walk around without pants in front of girls and yet you talk back to me? Don't you know I am older than you? Just shut up and do as I say.'
Essentially, after Mami married into the village family, I wouldn't get pants to wear unless it was absolutely necessary. When I came back naked after bathing in the river, Mami would ask, 'Hey, did you bathe properly? Did you wash your penis well?' and she would laugh. And if I complained that it was very hot, she would take off the T-shirt as well and say, 'Then stay like this at home.' She often did this during the intense heat of the afternoons. In the late afternoon, she would give me the T-shirt, but no pants or underwear."
"Now, let's move on to the big city. All my relatives on my father's side lived in big cities. I used to visit my Pishi’s (paternal aunt's) house once every two years for about 15 to 20 days. Pishi had two daughters who were much older than me. When they were 17 or 18, I was 9.
Because they lived in the city, they had grown up in a modern environment and hadn't seen boys older than 5 or 6 naked. Pishi had seen me being naked in front of my mother at my own home, so even when she brought me to her house, she would strip me naked in front of her own two daughters. The matter was quite new to the two girls, and they used to laugh a lot. However, my city aunt would usually only strip me naked during bath time, and the two girls would laugh seeing that. They would ask their mother, 'Does anyone get naked at this age?' Pishi would laugh and say, 'Boys from small towns stay naked in front of family members until they are 11 or 12.'
During extreme heat, Pishi sent me to bed completely naked a few times. However, generally, she wouldn't keep me naked much in the city, but she had a very bad temper. If I disobeyed her, she would strip me completely naked and make me stand holding my ears for 30 minutes as punishment. My two older cousins found this very amusing. They would tease me saying, 'Shame, shame... naughty boy. Getting punished naked in front of girls. Shameless. We can see everything.' Saying this, they would grab Pishi's camera and take photos of me holding my ears naked. Pishi also took plenty of photos of me bathing naked.
My two cousins really enjoyed the fact that I got punished naked. Once, they even made a false complaint to Pishi just to get me punished naked. All these events continued until I was about 12 years old."
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