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Date Posted: 07:28:55 07/12/10 Mon
In reply to:
Christi
's message, "So by your logic, a 13 year old who has a child should be allowed to compete in the local teen division and be a role model for other young girls in her area? Click in, there is more" on 13:29:04 07/09/10 Fri
First off, I would like to say Kudos to the Miss BC Pageant for having an open mind. It is unfortunate that more “Miss” Categories don’t have the same opinion.
Secondly Christi, Your right, I was wrong in saying “Equal Rights” I would now like to change that to Equal Opportunity.
Thirdly, it is most certainly not my logic that a 13 year old teenager with a child would be considered a role model for other teens. With that being said, however; should they be allowed to compete in the Teen divisions if they so choose? Absolutely, as long as they capable of being a mother and a pageant titleholder and completing all duties that accompanies both the Mom title as well as the Teen title. Once again, with that being said, in a pageant of 18 teens, it is the judges duty and obligation to choose who they feel is the best fit for the Teen title, in some cases they are spot on and an amazing titleholder is produced, in other cases the judges can be fooled and a non-worthy individual can become the titleholder and in which case, the pageant would replace the titleholder with the runner up. So why not simply allow the teen mom a weekend of fun and deal with the teen mom as the titleholder when/if it came to that.
However, it is extremely different for a teen than it is a Miss. A teen is typically a young individual who is in high school full time, an active volunteer in their community, living with their parents, with no real income or capabilities of supporting a child of their own (in most cases, but there are exceptions I am sure) Where as, a Miss is typically someone who is supporting themselves, working or attending school to further their education. In today’s society it is socially unacceptable for a teen to get pregnant, not because they are having a child out of wed lock, but because they aren’t at the point in their lives where they are capable of raising themselves let alone a child (again, there are exceptions)
As much as I want to understand a local pageant not accepting moms, I still can’t get my mind around it being that big of a deal. Yes, the point of a local pageant is to find the best representative for the region, in hopes of them bringing home the national title, which is completely understandable. Therefore, if the national pageant doesn’t accept mothers, then the local pageant won’t accept mothers. So why can’t international pageants accept women who are also mothers? I’m not saying every pageant should accept every mother that applies to compete, just the ones that are capable of being an amazing titleholder as well as a mom. Wouldn’t you rather have an amazing individual represent your pageant who is a mom instead of a so-so individual who isn’t a mother?
I also noticed that we have both been discussing this topic as single mothers, what about a woman who is still in a relationship with the father of the child (not living common-law or married) This would just add to the support system, so if a chid had a fever of 103 and the mother who is a titleholder has to attend some events, then in this situation the father can look after the child (if there is a father in the picture)
In regards to “Fighting in a war is a far cry from holding a pageant title” I wasn’t comparing the two in any other instance other than the fact that women overseas often miss their Childs birthdays, Christmas holidays, Summer Holidays, Sickness and much more. If those women can do it for months on end, then I have no doubt in my mind that a titleholder would be able to hold her end of the contract for a title.
Finally, you also said “Obviously the national pageant owners across Canada also feel the same way or it wouldn't be a rule!” Obviously, pageant committees change over time (this I am sure we can agree) and as the handover takes place, perhaps the new committee has the attitude of “if something isn’t broken don’t fix it” no one has ever questioned the single mother query so why change the rules, perhaps they feel there is a lack of interest in this area so the rules remain the same year after year.
Maybe you have heard of the saying “the squeaky wheel gets the grease” well Christi, this is me squeaking for the single mothers out there in hopes that something will change!
On a final note, you mentioned you were on both sides of the coin, and from what I can gather from our friendly discussions you seem like a remarkable woman, and would have been an obvious contender for the Miss title (which was proven when you won a Mrs title) Its unfortunate that you never had this opportunity because of pageant rules.
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