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Date Posted: 06:02:50 05/23/16 Mon
Author: Casseopia
Subject: Re: Sexual abuse as a young boy and TGT
In reply to: ZWalker 's message, "Re: Sexual abuse as a young boy and TGT" on 06:18:36 05/22/16 Sun

Thank you for sharing your story. You are the only person here who has suggested that child abuse can interrupt and distort sexual development. My instincts have been screaming at me that this may well be the case and this is why I keep asking the same question on here and to myself.

This is not to say I will stay with him. And this is not to say that the sexual acting out has become such a big part of his life that he won't do it again BUT I have been wondering ever since I found out; about men who like sex with men as a choice and an orientation and men who have sex with men because their sexual development was twisted and interrupted. How can a man have that innocent time, as a young boy, to think about and explore their orientation when an adult (in my husband's case, a much older boy) has ripped away that innocence and confused the boy beyond belief. Arousal, as someone said in this thread a few days ago, can happen even when in fear and panic and a core sexual script can be written in all the wrong ways at an early stage - before the boy is ready to explore his sexuality on his own.

Our stories are almost identical.

My husband also hit rock bottom and is currently in residential rehab for his issues. Like your husband, he had to fall apart before he could start to heal. He's doing really well with his therapy and keeps telling me he is definitely not gay.

You say you wonder if you did the right thing staying with your husband... May I ask why...?

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