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Subject: Re: This feeling is bad


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Shelly
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Date Posted: 18:39:09 01/20/07 Sat
In reply to: Heather 's message, "This feeling is bad" on 12:37:04 01/19/07 Fri
 I kno whow hard it is. How old is your son again? I can tell you that when my daughter was young and her dad wasn't involved in her life -she wanted to call him and asked about him all of the time. I would always explain to her that he loves her, just not ready to be a daddy. I would keep the dialog open with your son, but do not allow him to see dad -it just is too confusing. Eventually he will accept it as it is -and when he's older know that you were only trying to protect him.
A friend of mine told me a story that confirmed my believe to not have my daughter around her dad if I believe he could still be using. Long story short of the story is: A guy was on meth -his friends entered his house to check in on him/visit and b/c of his meth enduced mental state, he thought they were there to rob him, so he shot them. His friends are dead and he's in jail for the rest of his life. Can you imagine if that was your son/daughter who woke up in the middle of the night to get a drink of water or something????? NOT worth allowing our children around the sickness or even if we have a FEELING that the other parent is using. You are doing what is best for your son. He may not understand it now -but I promise you he will when he is older and see's all that you did to love and protect him both physically and emotionally. Additionally -my daughter now has no respect or want to see her father ever again. She actually says that she doesn't have a dad. This is not tdue to anything I said -rather her own thoughts based on the hurt he has caused her due to his drug problem.
Hang in there. You are doing the right thing. When your son wants to talk to dad -why not redirect his thought process -engage him in another activity. Also -by you allowing him to call his dad -you opened the door to conversation with Spencer which lead to a spriraling down of your feelings, energy, and emotion. You nor your kids need that. Stay away!!
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