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Subject: Re: I am so co-dependent


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Hulalea
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Date Posted: 18:54:57 03/16/07 Fri
In reply to: Heather 's message, "I am so co-dependent" on 15:03:37 03/16/07 Fri
 Oh, sweetheart - I know your pain. I've read a few of the Melody Beattie books on codependency and I completely understand. The book says that some people that we have a relationship with can actually bring out the codependency in us. I know this wekk because prior to meeting my husband, I was the kind of girl that was so focused on my classes, future, dance, etc. where if a guy I was dating would not call me, it never even phased me. Actually, I was told that I was the one with the problem and that I never call or make it seem like I was interested.
However, when I met my husband, everything changed. I felt like I needed to take care of him and make him happy, support him, etc. but what I was really doing was overly taking care of him and all of theat other codependant stuff. I am now realizing what it's like to be in recovery for my codependency realizing that by being his "comforter", I am in the way of his looking for the REAL comforter - God. Which then when this happens and he begins his search for what he really needs, Jesus changes him. I cannot do this. My husband has been in and out of the house since January but as of last week I've asked him to leave and find himself a place permanently. I will not put up with his self centeredness. This guy tends to bring out the codep in me.
Take care and God Bless,
Hulalea
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Re: I am so co-dependentHeather19:06:28 03/18/07 Sun

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