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Date Posted: Fri, 11/22/02 6:14pm
Author: lagirl55
Subject: OK. chicken or the egg?
In reply to: Steve Russell 's message, "Re: Skin, can you clarify, please?" on Fri, 11/22/02 5:13pm

If attitudes, and not money, is the problem, then where do these attitudes originate?

My kids' contemporaries [mostly white] see money as the roadblock, and their parents' attitude is: "What? I have to pay how much? Are you crazy?" These white kids all ended up at crummy state colleges because their parents looked at the sticker prices of colleges and said "Kid, that's where you're going." And these are white-collar, middle to upper middle-class parents. One father thought it was more important to buy himself a $100,000 sports car than to pay for his son's college education.

Then there were the black and Hispanic kids, whose parents might work 3 jobs and had little time to follow what the kids did and whose teachers and counselors offered only junior college because they really didn't think that these kids could do any better than that.

And then there were the Asians. The Asian parents want their kids in the best schools they can attain, and will figure out how to pay for it, even if it means hitting on everyone in the family to do it.

With the exception of the Asian kids, I have seen kids already shot down in any attempt to better themselves, drawn down by the attitudes of parents and teachers, whose own attitudes are influenced by their life experiences.

So where does it all start and how do you break that cycle?

And as soon as any of us answer THAT question, we can go get in line for the Nobel Prize. :-)

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