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Subject: What exactly makes a person a hick????


Author:
Kimmy
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Date Posted: 00:18:09 10/31/02 Thu
 I ask this because, I have been referred to, posted to and assumed that I am a hick because I'm from Kansas. I think it is extremely STUPID to refer to someone that they are hick for living in the country or small town or whatever other reason some person would think they were superior or way above that person.

Does not going to college make you a hick?

Does not living in large city make you a hick?

I just don't get where some people think they are more superior if you live in a large city, have a degree and live in a new house??????

What is your idea of a hick?
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[> Subject: Re: What exactly makes a person a hick????


Author:
JeffF
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Date Posted: 07:17:24 10/31/02 Thu
When I hear the word, I picture somebody drawling, "I didn't go to no high school and I'm proud of it. Now get out of my dang town". :)

Either that or people out of their element(The Beverly Hillbilly type).

I don't think it has anything to do with whether a person went to college. I suppose we don't picture cities when we hear the word, but that's risky too. I grew up in the country and it became a city. In the exact same place where the cows and dairy farms are now stands superkmart, superwalmart, and superstopandshop. It's risky to think that things will stay the same.

Besides, a lot of large cities have more crime and higher dropout rates. Living in a city doesn't make a person automatically "sophisticated" any more than living in the country makes one a hick.
[> [> Subject: I agree Jeff......


Author:
Kimmy
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Date Posted: 22:23:42 10/31/02 Thu
I couldn't have put it any better. Thanks for the input.

[> Subject: Re: What exactly makes a person a hick????


Author:
Pam
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Date Posted: 13:26:02 10/31/02 Thu
I always considered a hick to be someone that was simple and unsophisticated, not necessarily uneducated. There are plenty of rural coaches, lawyers, and even doctors that are "hicks", and plenty who aren't. People who avoid new technology like the plague, because it's just too foreign to them. They have no clue who Manolo Blahnik is, and they don't care who he is. Hush Puppies work fine. They follow the "if it isn't broken, don't fix it" creed, and distrust new and improved anything. Simplicity is their main focus, why buy a 45" tv if a 21" has the same picture on it? They may sound uneducated, but they're just being vocally frugal. Why say "are not" when "ain't" is so much easier?

Their are some die hard, old time, hick farmers around here; they drive the same old 54 Ford pickup that they started out with, and have 40 year old John Deere farm implements, and some of them got indoor plumbing within the last two decades. But there are just as many who pay cash for brand new combines (upwards of $60,000),buy brand new $50,000 pickups every two years and own winter homes in Florida. The younger ones usuall buy winter homes in Colorado for the skiing. Most of these are "gentlemen" farmers, who have other careers besides farming. And there are very few farmers here anymore, anyway, a small number owns 75% of the land, with the remaining 25% snatched up by people like us who just want some property in the country. The closest we'll ever get to farming is mowing the grass. LOL
[> Subject: Re: What exactly makes a person a hick????


Author:
Hope
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Date Posted: 16:10:49 10/31/02 Thu
If you drink to much... then you hick. Oh wait, that's not what you meant! LOL

I think everyone has about the same thoughts on this... but you are far from what anyone would call a hick.

Just consider the source eh?
[> [> Subject: LOL


Author:
Kimmy
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Date Posted: 22:21:27 10/31/02 Thu
Thanks Hope, I don't give much credence to anything that particular source has to say about anything. But, what I couldn't figure out was the superior attitude that source seems to think they have over everyone. Weird, because I can't imagine what scale that source seems to use that puts that person over everyone else. I haven't ever seen anything that made me think they were better than I was, so I guess they have to have their fantasies about something. Go figure.......
[> [> [> Subject: Kimmy, what's the problem?


Author:
Shannie
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Date Posted: 22:49:48 10/31/02 Thu
I'm lost. Where did I accuse you of being a hick? I didn't. Pam had made a snide comment to me on the Mantel, regarding Ari, I responded. Then you jumped into it with me. About what? The burlap comment was to Pam, for insinuating that I'm an ass. Why have you strangely made the exchange of comments between Pam and myself, about you?

In fact, your post here, about "Hicks" was written long before you and I even nattered away at each other in Wassssup.

Now you've got Hope defending you, but for what? Why'd ya need to butt your nose in anyway? You don't even know my reasoning behind the burlap comment.....it actually had *nothing* to do with hicks/hillbillies/rednecks/backwoods people LMAO!

Must be a lot of very insecure, jealous (?) foul in these parts......cuz they sure do get all defensive about the hick thing.

And about your catty little comment about me thinking I'm hot shit because I live in a big city, have a degree and have a new house.....you're wrong on 2 counts. I live in a small town with about 20,000 people, and I don't have my degree. Talk about misinformed LOL And what would it matter to you if I have a new home? What does that have to do with anything? Have I been shooting my mouth off lately that I am all that because I have a new home and someone else doesn't? I haven't said jack shit about my home since I was posting in Welcome Home, about painting...as were many of the other gals there who's interested in home decor.

You hens are really scrapin' the bottom of the barrel when it comes to looking for some excitement. You're now reading things that aren't even there, just to get a fight going. Jesus, how hard up is that. LOL
[> [> [> [> Subject: No, no problem...........


Author:
Kimmy
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Date Posted: 23:02:56 10/31/02 Thu
guess you don't recall all the hick comments made to me in the past, Hey! thats okay. I understand from your post on the Mantel that your ex was a hilly billy (your words, not mine)so I guess, you have a problem with hicks and hillbillys? I sure don't. I didn't make what you said about Pam and the burlap into something about me. I was just wondering why you seem to think you are so superior over some people? What makes you so great? Just curious, not jealous. Why do you keep thinking I'm jealous of you, btw? I just love how "I'm butting my nose" in when I comment on a public board. That always cracks me up. Do you only post to threads that are strictly addressed to you? I think not!

Okay, I'm misinformed, I'm wrong on two things, okay. Guess the part about you thinking your hot shit was right on the money??? *LOL*

My comment was not catty, just wondering by what scale it is you use to judge people on whether they are beneath you or not, thats all.

Why don't you drop the hen comments, it is beneath you.
[> [> [> [> [> Subject: So bored you bring up past stuff? LOL


Author:
Shannie
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Date Posted: 23:17:55 10/31/02 Thu
OMG! So because in the process of snotty, rude, catty things that we (collective we) have said to each other in the past, you've chosen NOW to stir up the "hick" stuff based on things I've said to you in the past? That's sort of bizarre. Are you really that bored? Good thing to see Hope paying such close attention, again (LOL)...she's providing you with such loving support, despite the fact that I haven't said a rude word to you since the last go-around. God, you wonder why I call you all hens? You just can't seem to go for more than a few weeks without getting antsy, and needing to stir up the shit again. Unreal.

Yes, my ex hubby's family were hicks. He'd have been the first to admit it. His aunts and uncles, most of them, were grubby, rarely did laundry (not cuz they couldn't, they just didn't take any pride in themselves), I doubt some of them would shower once a week, they had no manners, they spit their food out while eating, they wiped their runny noses with their shirt sleeves, they cursed out loud in any public place regardless of whether there were children or women or elderly folks around, they drove without valid drivers licenses and insurance (some of them), they'd wear their muddy wet footwear into our home without thinking to remove them first, the men would constantly hork up big gobby spitwads on the ground at random, hopefully missing you're feet if you were standing close-by, 2 of his uncles scratched their balls in full view without being discreet about it, I don't think half of them brushed their teeth, ever....most of them drank most of the weekends, leaving the little kids to pretty much fend for themselves (good parenting!), their dogs' fur was so matted and filthy from never being groomed (we used to always take bags of dogfood out to their farm, cuz we weren't sure they cared enough to feed them)........Yeah, they were hillbillies. Was it cuz they were poor? Hardly. Was it cuz they were uneducated? No. I know plenty of people who don't more than grade 12 (including my own father) and they are anything but backwards and hickish.

You are simply on a mission to make me out to look bad. Whatever grinds your beans, I guess. I see you and the hens just scouring my odd post on Wassssup, then gossiping about it behind the scenes, just looking for something to pick apart. If you all can't stand me and think I'm a bitch, why don't you all just leave me alone? LOL

I've not said a snide word or insinuation to you, or Pam, or the lot of you, since the last go-around. Not once. Why can't you all just get a grip and focus on something else? It's so bizarre.
[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: what's the matter?


Author:
Kimmy
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Date Posted: 23:33:04 10/31/02 Thu
Can't take a joke? LOLOLOL

No really, I do understand what you are saying about your ex in-laws. I guess that would fall in what my idea of a hick is also. Everything you spoke of their bathing habits, manners or lack there of and not from lack of money or education.

I was just playing with ya last night on the Mantel, bored and just playing along with your game, no ill will meant. Just joshing ya! :-) I took it that was how you meant it to be also. Was I wrong?

Yes, I am talking about hick comments you have made in the past. You have made no bones about Pam being the hick and I was her dumb ass, poor, stupid and wishy washy tater sidekick that she took under her wing because she felt sorry for me.

Yes, I guess it is sort of bizarre and also from being bored out of my mind to try and figure out what makes you tick. Just something for me to do, I guess. I had the day off from work, had all my household chores done and nothing better to do. Kids are all grown, so no trick or treating for me to do, had to put the Oscar away, it fell off the mantel and almost broke my big toe. Dangerous damn award it is.

Regardless of how you think or how it might feel, my mission (as you put it) is NOT to make you look bad. Really! Hey, while we are at it, why do you have to pick Ari's post apart? Yeah, he does come from out in left field sometimes, but I think he really does have a good heart. Don't you think so? Just wondering.......
[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Oh Kimmy, I tell ya....


Author:
Shannie
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Date Posted: 23:49:13 10/31/02 Thu
I was just joshin' with ya last night, too! If I was going to be mean, I would have been. That wasn't my intention. It was so obvious that you were trying to make me say that I was calling Pam a hick. I wasn't. She stuck her nose in about Ari, I made a silly but not horrid response in return...then she had to get in there with her hooks and make the 'ass' insinuation. In the spirit of a good cat fight, I responded...though I don't think I was being a total bitch. Geezus.

So what, I've made 'hick' comments in the past. Not excusing them, per se, but have you and Pam not made equally offensive comments to me? Have you forgotten? I'm not sitting here crying in my beer or anything, but I've been poked fun at for being on disability, for not having a husband, for not having kids, my house being a cheap old prefab box, being mocked for participating in Welcome Home with my painting questions (I've never had other people to discuss decorating with before, and although I apparently came off as bragging, I wasn't. I was scared shitless to start painting these walls because I've only ever had white walls before and I'd be the first to admit that I know very little about trendy colors and such).....

If you're going to bring up old shit out of the blue, should I also? So that we can start this crap all over again? It's insane, Kimmy....it really is. It's pretty much well passed the point of being funny any more....it's mostly just insane and we all look like a bunch of petty broads.

but if you're all going to dish it out, I might just give some back.

As for Ari, I really don't single him out. It appears that I do but it's only because in a particular thread, I happen to really understand and at least partially relate to the responses of others.....their responses are those of an adult, they're well thought out, they make the effort to make their point known.....whereas, Ari seems to get off being a twit. For instance, his post the other day asking which we prefer, rough hands or smooth. Course after everyone is laughing at him for such a seemingly stupid question, he THEN explains WHY he asked it (even Jo asked why he didn't just explain WHY he was asking to start with.....geezus, it would have hardly changed our responses.....). 98% of the time, I don't get what he's trying to say.......and when I seek clarification, it becomes some grade 2 word game.

There's more to the Ari-story than you and others here are likely aware of, and I won't go into the details here....but suffice it to say, he crossed a major line with me at the end of DP and I have never thought the same way about him since. It was really quite sickening and I lost all respect for him (and no, it wasn't JUST him using fake names in chat, impersonating me and Lynn and others). 'nuff said.

S
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: okay.......


Author:
Kimmy
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Date Posted: 00:10:25 11/01/02 Fri
I totally agree with you, we all look like a bunch of petty, childish broads! No I have not forgotten my equally offensive remarks to you either. They are all shameful. I do understand what you are saying. Enough is enough. They are hurtful, spiteful comments meant to draw blood. I will be honest, at times they do hurt, even though I haven't ever met you in real life and probably never will. I don't know you from Adam. I do know and have grown very close to Pam and alot of others, as I'm sure you have. Does that mean that we aren't friends, whether we have met in real life or not? I say, that my online friends are just as important to me as the ones in real life. Some people don't see it that way, that is their right. I do care what happens to them and what goes on in their lives anyway. Don't you?

As for your posting about your painting your house, I was being honest when I said I liked the color, I do. I wasn't being wishy washy by commenting in that thread. I wasn't being some kind of liar, trying to get on your good side. Just make a comment as the others did. I know what you mean about being scared to try new things, I have felt that way too. I'm not wishy washy Lisa, not to my way of thinking, just somethings I get mad about, then blow off about and then move on. Some things it isn't that easy for me to get over. If that is what you call wishy washy (which I think everyone can be to a degree)then I guess I am.

Yeah, we could throw mud until we are blue in the face, but it won't change anything. Feelings have been hurt, some things said that it is totally up to the person that they have offended to get past or forgive. It is not for me to judge you on why you post to Ari the way you do, it was something I had wondered about and you answered my question. I just choose to blow right on by his posts when I don't understand them. There are alot of them from others I don't understand or don't interest me, that is the joy of the internet, read what you want to, find out about things you wanted to learn about and maybe, just maybe, make a few good friends.

Kim
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Ari


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Pam
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Date Posted: 00:36:08 11/01/02 Fri
I don't understand why Ari should be required to state his reasons for making a post. How was his question any different than asking if women prefer hairy chests or smooth chests (which was asked by someone else once), no one jumped on them and asked why in the hell they were asking THAT. Ari's question was a legitimate one, that no one would have blinked at if anyone else had posted it. In fact,there was a thread somewhere (might have been on DP) about what type of body parts turned people on, and the subject of rough vs smooth hands came up in it. But just because it was ARI this time, it was immediately fair game for the potshots.
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Ari (Open your eyes, Pam)


Author:
Shannie
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Date Posted: 00:49:29 11/01/02 Fri
As for the "Rough vs Smooth" thread of Ari's, why don't you go and take a good look. I didn't even RESPOND TO HIM IN THAT THREAD!!!..so I don't know what you're even talking about. I only gave that thread mention, in my response to kimmy, because I was giving her an example of WHY I am known to respond to his posts...because he asks vague/cryptic questions that he can't help but KNOW people will razz him about. Just as Jo did in THAT thread.

Go take a look, PAM......

http://www.pla-designs.com/dcforum/DCForumID1/1704.html

Until he explained WHY he was posting it, I read it...and it seemed to totally juvenile that I ignored it.

Maybe when Ari IM's ya and describes how he wants to "come visit and fuck your brains out" (and other related offensive shit), you'll be less likely to be his loyal defender.
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Ari (Open your eyes, Pam)


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Pam
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Date Posted: 00:56:54 11/01/02 Fri
You referred to Ari's hand post in your thread about atheists and prayers. Made it clear you thought it was stupid, that's why I mentioned it.
[> Subject: Re: What exactly makes a person a hick????


Author:
Pam
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Date Posted: 22:49:51 10/31/02 Thu
Well, as far as I can tell, a hick is someone who isn't smart enough to get a degree, get disability, and get MORE education paid for by the government, while continuing to receive disability, even after the required additional education is completed. Apparently, actually having a job makes you a hick. Or it might be living in a small town. Or a combination of both. Has to be one of the two, though.
[> [> Subject: That's good, make stuff up, Pam LOL


Author:
Shannie
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Date Posted: 22:58:52 10/31/02 Thu
Considering you and I haven't had a civil conversation in what, 18 months?..you sure presume to know so much about my current job/education/disability situation, don't you? Are you psychic or something? LOL

Who said my additional education is completed? How do you presume to know what goes on in my life and what I'm completed or not completed? God, you're almost hilarious, Pam. How do you know I'm not working now?

Do you make it a habit of insulting people who are on disability? How is that funny? Do you live in my body? Are you my doctor? Is my income coming out of your pocket? How does any of this apply to you at all? Why does any of it matter to you? Do you just sit there, spending your time dreaming up things about my life and what I do or don't do?

I surely don't give your life or what you're doing with it a passing thought.

Guess this is just what some haggered old housewives do for fun?! :-)
[> [> [> Subject: Re: That's good, make stuff up, Pam LOL


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Pam
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Date Posted: 23:12:18 10/31/02 Thu
BTW, it's haggard, not haggered. Let me see...how do I know anything about your education? When we WERE talking, you were taking the distance education classes to get certified in another part of the nursing field (can't remember what it's called, being the health and safety coordinator at a business).
You even posted on DP about finishing the course and getting the job, you said publicly that you HAD to get a job or your payments would be cut off, and you were having conniptions because the job was too far away for you to drive home and give Beejoo medicine.

If you're working now, you're either working out of the home, or you have a Palm that you tote around with you to post on The Mantel and check in here 8 times a day.

And no, I don't make a habit of insulting people on disability. Only those that feel the need to insult me.
[> [> [> [> Subject: Guess you could use some Ginko, for memory


Author:
Shannie
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Date Posted: 23:32:03 10/31/02 Thu
Let's see now, Pam......the time I was freaking out about taking a job so far away from home, and leaving BeeJoo at home all day.....was a casual job that I took at a clinic, so that I could maintain my union seniority. Because I was on disability, any earnings I made would be reported and they would be deducted from my disability earnings. I was still doing my schooling then at the same time.

I NEVER ONCE said I had to take the job or my disability payments would be cut off. Jesus woman, if you're going to pull things out of your ass, at least get them half right. With the education I have, I would no longer be working as a unionized employee (like in a hospital or public health).....but unionized employees get paid very very well, due to a substantial raise that Alberta Nurses got 2 years ago, with the final increase coming into effect Aug 1, 2002. If a certain amount of time elapses between nursing practice in a unionized position, you have to start at the bottom of the pay scale, should you ever take a unionized position. For me, that would mean going down by $8 an hour, and the years of pay seniority I accrued, would be lost....so I consulted with the provincial union here (as I'd last worked in BC, different union), and they advised me to get a casual position prior to July 1, 2000 so that I'd be covered. Thus, that is why I took the job you're referring to.

Why don't you go back into your archives and find what I posted, so you can see how wrong you are. It was at the end of June 2000.

If you are in any way implying or insinuating that I'm some scammer who's trying to get a free ride, think again. People don't stay on disability without having undergone several vigorous and thorough medical assessments by disability board surgeons, medical board adjudicators and physicians....and it's most certainly NOT based on subjective "complaints".....it must be based on sound, substantiated diagnostic proof (MRI, CT scan, injury management assessments, functional capacity assessments), etc.

Until you have walked a mile in my shoes, just shut the fuck up.
[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Guess you could use some Ginko, for memory


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Pam
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Date Posted: 23:46:10 10/31/02 Thu
So the Canadian Government made a unilateral exception for disability requirements in your case? In the US, unless a person is rated at 100% disability, they are REQUIRED to get training that will enable them to eventually return to the work force. We discussed US and Canadian disability similarities on the telephone more than once, including the night you were hysterical because one of your papers had been eaten by your computer, and if it wasn't turned in, it would drop your average below the required level, and your checks would STOP.In fact, I was surprised that the disability rules in Canada were even more strict than they are here. So don't talk about MY memory, looks like you're the one that's been eating catnip instead of Ginkgo.
[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Guess you could use some Ginko, for memory


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Shannie
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Date Posted: 23:59:08 10/31/02 Thu
Pam, you are totally and completely making things up here. I recall freaking out about a paper I was writing being late...but only because it was a final paper and I had a deadline to hand it in by. I NEVER FRICKIN SAID ANYTHING ABOUT MARKS or having to maintain a certain level of marks. I have had nothing but great marks in all of my courses.....You are making total shit up. Why are you doing this?

What the fuck are you making up shit about me having freaked out about marks and cheques stopping? That is pure and utter bullshit.

But regardless, what is your point here? What is the point you're trying to make? In Canada, a person is not 100% disabled (under the kind of disability I'm on) unless you can never work again in your life....and we're talking being a quadraplegic, major brain injury, etc. You are, once again, talking out of your ass and thinking you know all about how things work here.

NOw what does this all have to do with your previous posts, about me working/not working, etc?

I am most certainly not about to get into the details of my situation with the likes of you. You go ahead and spew more bullshit if it makes you feel like the big person that you are. I don't even know what your motivation is....or the point you're trying to make.

You're a bitch, Pam......and though I think little of you, I never thought you'd stoop so low as to go making up shit that I supposedly said to you in the past, to make me look bad. You are nothing but an outright liar...and you have a real evil streak.
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Guess you could use some Ginko, for memory


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Pam
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Date Posted: 00:13:41 11/01/02 Fri
I never said you DIDN'T have great marks, now did I? Let me refresh your memory again...you were working on a paper that counted for a large percentage of your final grade, a very LONG paper (thirty pages, I think), and you had almost finished it when your computer crashed. You hadn't saved it since the 11th page, and you were freaking out that you wouldn't be able to redo the whole paper before the deadline in the morning, and if the paper wasn't turned in on time you'd get a failing grade on it, which would drop your average too low. You finally got in touch with the instructor and told her what had happened and she extended your deadline.

I specifically asked you at an earlier point why you'd decided to take this particular course, and you told me that at the time, it was the only nursing field job that you could train for that didn't require a lot of physical activity that would strain your back. You weren't looking forward to doing this type of work because there wasn't any real medical contact with patients, but you were required to re-train in order to continue receiving payments.

The 100% disability rule is the same in the US (thank you for clarifying that it works the same way in Canada), therefore, unless you are 100% disabled, you HAVE to be re-trained for another type of work. You never claimed to be at 100%, therefore you fall under the same guidelines concerning re-training, so how am I lying? I said that unless a person is 100% disabled, a recipient has to be trained for another job so they can re-enter the workforce. Where's the untruth in that?
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Guess you could use some Ginko, for memory


Author:
Shannie
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Date Posted: 00:42:23 11/01/02 Fri
Pam, the way you worded it, was like I was just skating on thin ice, marks-wise..and that if I couldn't finish this paper (due to having lost it in my computer, because I used shitty Micrsoft WOrks, which doesn't have an auto-save feature), I would fail, therefore I'd not continue to receive compensation... The way you worded it was like all I cared about was CHECKS...like I'm only about money. I was freaking out that night because 22 pages of a paper I'd worked really hard on, were gone...and you and I talked on the phone because you were trying to help me "find it" on my computer. I was freaking out more because this paper was technically due that night at midnight..and it would have been done, had I not lost it and had to start all over (I don't make rough drafts when I write a paper...I just start writing, with a very basic outline on paper....so to rewrite, I have to really start all over).

I was freaking out because all my hard work was for nothing. I had only one page left to type, plus my references. I was "that close" and it was all gone. I was upset not because of the stinkin' money. You seem to be making me out to be some money-grabbing scammer who just keeps taking free checks for as long as I can get away with it. I have never had to explain myself to anyone about this stuff, and it's highly offensive because being off like this has been very humiliating and humbling and discouraging......it's a sore subject with me. I was at the height of my career when I hurt my back and I've worked since I was 15 years old (real job....prior to that, I babysat weekly as well was a candy striper. In college, I worked part time in the college library to help pay my tuition).

It is very embarassing to have to tell someone you meet (new date) or a potential employer or a new friend that you've been off work with an injury because they look at you and you "look just fine"...no limbs missing, no disfigurements. It makes me feel stupid, though I know it shouldn't but it does because I shouldn't be this age with back problems such as these..but there are people worse off so I am still thankful.

I get very defensive when you make insinuations (or have made)...about my nursing abilities, my employment status, my disability status...becuz it seems obvious to me that you're trying to make me look like a loser.

You're taking things I told you in confidence, long ago, when we were friends, and you're twisting them around and putting a dirty spin on them, however subtle, to upset me and make me look bad. If anything, I guess you're teaching me that you can just never trust anybody online. You and I used to be very close. You confided in me about all kinds of things, of a personal nature, and I the same. You used to say we were like sisters. Now you are wanting to stir up shit again (the Ari comment started it, it was uncalled for, you knew I'd react), and you're twisting my words around, when I have no way of proving otherwise (because I checked in the archives but they don't go back to 2000).

This subject is now dropped on my end. If you want to keep trying to hit me below the belt, go ahead. Of all the people who've ever really known me, you were one...probably knew me best, and you also know just what to say to hurt me.
[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Guess you could use some Ginko, for memory


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Pam
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Date Posted: 01:04:36 11/01/02 Fri
Okay, let me try to explain something here. First, I have NEVER said one negative thing about your nursing abilities! I think everyone I have talked to will tell you that I have always admired your dedication to health care!

I was not implying that the only reason you were taking classes was to keep the check coming. I just meant that it was part of the requirements for getting disability. I'm truly sorry if you feel that mentioning your computer crashing was divulging personal info. I didn't think it was offensive, because not too long after that, you posted on the board about staying up all night to finish another paper that was due the next day, which you had procrastinated doing. I didn't think this was any different.

I wasn't singling YOU out in my reply to Ari, others were also being pretty damn tacky to him, some even worse than what I thought you had been.

I took your comment about burlap to be another reference to my "hickdom" to go along with the previous tractor comments and suggestions that I go chew on a piece of straw. You talk about how we were so close at one time, and how I've hurt you with my comments, but it never occurs to you that it might be hurtful to be called a country hick? When we were friends, you seemed to think this hick was pretty darn intelligent and funny, now I'm just a dumb, backwater housewife?
[> Subject: Well,


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Lynn7
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Date Posted: 12:09:53 11/02/02 Sat
I've yet to meet a hick that owns a computer yet alone one who posts online with it :-)

Hick is really stereotyping but, since you asked, I think people who excessively swear online are pushing the envelope of my opinion of what a hick is though I'd be more likely to define them as trailer trash. Example: People who use three profane words in one sentence and think they are getting their point across..that kind of thing.
[> Subject: Ya sure are long Winded..Whew..


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Clint1
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Date Posted: 10:12:36 11/26/02 Tue
Been a long time since I came in here.
[> [> Subject: Well for CRIPES sake...


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Hope
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Date Posted: 18:07:12 11/26/02 Tue
If you're comming... make sure you clean up after yourself eh? ;-)

Sorry... couldn't resist! LOL

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