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Date Posted: 09:40:50 12/18/03 Thu
Author: Sushi
Subject: Well well...
In reply to: Kain 's message, "So /that's/ what you meant.." on 16:00:44 12/17/03 Wed

I can't believe I'm saying this, but thank you Tsuga -- your 'debate' turned into an intelligent, caring discussion. A rare and treasured thing for the Board of Insanity. ^_^ And though I haven't been coherent enough to reply of late, I have been keeping up with the thread.

I actually agree with Mouse, for the most part. People who are still emotionally maturing probably aren't going to be able to keep one interest throughout all the changes that they'll go through. However, I think I've found a loophole to this: The love can survive and still be valid, so to speak, if the dynamic relationship matures and changes along with both individuals. Naturally, such simultaneous change isn't likely, but it's still possible. ^_^

I get the feeling I'm intruding on a conversation between Kain-chan and Mouse-chan. *snickers* Oh whell. Put up with the Sushi. ^_^ Oh, and Kay-chan... thankyouthankyou for such a good response to this thread. *grin*

Mostly in reply to Kay's post: I have to admit, I'm not one for crushes. I've had maybe four that had any effect on me at all... and only one that had anything in the way of heartbreak. And yeah, I don't believe in coincidences either, mri'fao. =^_^= Wouldn't be a ve'y good Wiccan if I couldn't see the meaning behind life and all of life's little events. And that question, that little icecube... doesn't matter. ^_^ I live for the moment and I treasure every second that I can reach out and talk to mri'lai, whether via AIM or telephone or, heavenly, in person. That question has never bothered me, because it doesn't matter -- not to deny its existence, either, but right now... who cares? I'm older than Kain-chan -18 in less than a month (eee!)- but I don't plan on getting married before I'm 26ish. I have several years to find out if mri'lai is "the one". Whatever the answer, I know that I'll always have a soul-friend, and that almost matters more to me than the answer itself. I like romance, and I like having a 'lai, but a heart-friend is just as important, and I won't sacrifice one for the other. (Spoiled, aren't I? ^_^)

As for internet vs. 'RL' love... well... Personally, I write better than I speak, and I'm a tad antisocial and wary in person, as opposed to the flamboyant and outgoing Sushi you guys know. It's easier to meet and like people online, because I don't have to judge them on anything but what their writing shows, and they can't judge me on anything but the same. I met mri'lai online, only a few months after I got the 'net, but it wasn't until this April/Mayish (three full years later) that we realized we'd grown so close as to be more than heart-friends. By then, we'd met in person several times. (Praise to our parents. XD.) But that's only one example... Nothing has ever come of RL crushes or RL love, so to speak. Maybe because I live where I do and there are tons of intolerant idiots around... or maybe because I never bothered looking deep enough (I found an amazing gem of a heart-friend recently ^_^ whom I can't believe I overlooked earlier). Also, the first guy who ever returned affection for me was also via internet... so I'm a tad biased. I see nothing wrong with 'internet dating;' there are dangers and risks involved in both in-person and online relationships. And advantages to each.

And as a final note to reassure Mouse... much like Kain-chan, I don't follow my urges. I make a habit not to. ^_^ So you have nothing to worry about -- I'm more intelligent and mature than I might seem at times. (Well, that made me sound funny. XD.) Thus ends my post. Yayness. (And everyone celebrates.) =^_^=

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