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Date Posted: 16:38:20 05/20/16 Fri
Author: Rob (how much can we take)
Subject: Re: Sexual abuse as a young boy and TGT
In reply to: Casseopia 's message, "Sexual abuse as a young boy and TGT" on 16:37:11 05/18/16 Wed

"..I am not doubting that he has lied and hurt me beyond belief. I cannot deny he has been a terrible husband. "

I tried to ignore my gay now ex wife's cheating for awhile..
but it was demeaning...gone was basic human affection..wouldn't hold my hand..could not touch her. She essentially wrote me off in one decision. One can live for only so long being treated like garbage. I used to shake with trauma when she went out with her girlfriend..returning at 2am with her hair disheveled... I could not live like that..I did nothing to deserve that.

I can see your an empathetic person and are considerate of his issues...but at the end of the day with trust totally gone and if your still being treated badly its hard to live.. if your spouse is being remorseful perhaps things could be repaired (i never got any remorse). But you'll always have the feeling...when he goes out with guy friends to a ball game...is it buddies hanging out or a date? Thus our spouses with their gay cheating have made their affairs and destruction of the marriage irrevocable.

Be honest with yourself..show compassion toward yourself. Protect yourself. Hard to grasp as we used to depend on our spouses for protection and comfort.

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