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Date Posted: 05:54:40 07/17/02 Wed
Author: Kel
Subject: Does anyone fight the emotional aspect?

Just thought I'd take a chance and see if anyone else out there fights the emotional factor when trying to stay on plan. I read one of Daddy Bill's replies this morning and my knee-jerk reaction was to take offense when he said "...those who won't (or can't) stick to their diet - there seem to be a lot of those!" But then I thought about it. I know Daddy Bill has been very supportive in the past and didn't mean any offense by it. I also know that many who are (or were) overweight and doing the LC WOL don't have a lot of trouble sticking to their plans because they are not fighting an emotional aspect of some sort. Therefore, I know it must be hard to understand someone who keeps blowing their plan; it must just seem like a matter of will-power. Well, that's only partially correct.

I have suffered from a food addiction from a very young age which made me a fat and unhappy kid who was mercilessly ridiculed thoughout her childhood and into her adult life. All that pain caused me to further isolate into my food addiction and food became more of an anesthetic than a sustinence or even something that tasted good. It was a way to escape. Nowadays, I still fight my weight and I'm trying very hard to recover from my food addiction. After a lifetime of this method of coping, it isn't very easy to find another method just by saying "ok I'm going to handle stress another way." So for those who do not suffer from food addiction, please consider that some of us have further obstacles besides just simple will-power. The fact that we are actively working on them, seeking this board for support, and participating as much as possible in educating ourselves and "getting back on that horse" when we fall, should say something about us! It should tell you that even if we can't "stick" to our diets all the time, we are trying best that we can.

Yesterday I had a contact with a gang-member when I was towing his father's (another gang-member's) vehicle. It wasn't a pleasant contact (as you can expect), and I usually don't let them scare me. But this one frankly scared the hell out of me. There was an officer driving by during all this and he stopped to check if everything was ok. I told him it was, because I hadn't been threatened, but that he was messing with my tow driver who was just doing his job. That officer decided to stay and monitor the situation so just in case something got out of hand, he'd be there. I guess he could read my concern or something. I'm very glad he decided to stay; it made me feel a bit more calm, but this guy was the type who would put a bullet in my head and not care if he went down for it. To make matters worse, he kept going into the house and coming back out -- who knows what he would have been carrying each time (perhaps a firearm). The onlooking officer wouldn't have been able to help me if that happened and I knew this.. so anyway the whole thing was very stressful for me and after work, I needed to de-stress in the very worst way. I was still a bit rattled for a couple hours after the contact (which BELIEVE ME is rare -- these people just don't intimidate me usually ). First refuge I could think of? Food. Did I blow my diet? No, I talked myself into walking like my doctor has suggested and then afterwards I went to the tanning salon (that always relaxes me). Point is, months ago I would have quelled the stress with pizza and ice cream and chocolate and goodness knows what else. Even though I still had the desire to do that, I was able to see that my desire to eat was all mental; a way to cope with stress that has worked for 36 years. Well it's a brand new me -- or at least a brand new me in-progress. Anyone suffer from a food addiction or use food to cope with life's stressors?

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Replies:

Stress -- Zoe (Moody), 08:49:02 07/17/02 Wed
Reply -- Katie, 10:28:44 07/17/02 Wed
Hey Kel -- Sherry, 21:18:42 07/17/02 Wed