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Date Posted: 12:05:26 06/16/12 Sat
Author: JJ Ronda
Subject: ITA! It really depends on the child. Inside
In reply to: The Chief (now if there's a behavioral issue with the child, if they squirm and can't sit still, then there is reason to keep them away so as not to disturb the procedings) 's message, "Modern times are much different than things were for centuries prior. There weren't funeral homes, per se, so bodies/caskets were laid out at home and funerals were a part of life - people died earlier, children often, and it was part of life. Now we try to shield the little ones from it. Depending on your religion, death is not a thing to be feared, as many feel it is the door to the afterlife/heaven, etc. With a strong foundation, children can handle it, I believe." on 09:46:52 06/15/12 Fri

Due to my religious upbringing, and the maturity that I gained early on as the only child of "olderish" parents, I had no problem attending funerals as a child. I understood what was going on and the emotions did not bother or scare me. But not all children have that same background and personality. I don't think you can put a number on it and say this is the right age to start. Some young children are very wise and mature and would do fine at funerals, yet others wouldn't know how to behave, wouldn't understand, might be traumatized by suddenly seeing things they've been shielded from, etc.

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[> [> I agree, up to a point. It looks as though I was raised as you both were, our church was our social life, it was weddings, funerals, baby showers, all the stages of life that made the world go around. Having a strong southern background as well, it was the norm for the family to have the viewing in the home, in the parlor, while other relatives who came for the funeral slept the night before the funeral. I have to say it, was really creepy way up in the hollow, with no street lights anywhere and a night so dark you couldnt see your hand in front of your face! -- mkim I think it does depend on the child...BUT, like so many things, I dont think many kids today are as prepared as we were, life and times were different., 16:34:04 06/18/12 Mon [1]


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[> [> [> Life and times were most definitely different! -- JJ Ronda, 19:02:41 06/19/12 Tue [1]


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