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Date Posted: 15:15:14 01/11/09 Sun
Author: Mom and TC
Subject: Kind of a catch 22 but I think he will find (see inside)
In reply to: see inside first reply 's message, "Need advice...ds is U9 novice. He's a wonderful little dancer, but doesn't want anyone at school to know..." on 07:15:48 01/11/09 Sun

that even if kids at school find out, MOST of them will be quite impressed that he does that. Certainly, there will be a few that tease (in all likelihood, more because they would never dare try such a think and don't know much about it, rather than anythig else) - those types are always out there. But overall, we have found (I have a ds in high school), that most kids and their families are now familiar with Irish dance (thanks to Riverdance, LOTD, and Michael Flatley), and realized full well that it is very athletic and difficult, and it has some public recognition of its own. As a result, they tend to tease and ridicule a lot less, and instead recognize the accomplishment. I found with my ds when he was young that the older boys in school (the 7th and 8th graders at the time) were VERY impressed with him and what he could do, and with their encouragement, his talent was quickly labeled "cool". That helped temper teasing from some of his peers. As a result, there wasn't too much teasing, and he has really made a reputation for himself as an Irish dancer among his classmates. Now in high school, he doesn't generally think twice about it - there are those that tease, some don't know about it, and the ones that do know keep cheering him on. SO, encourage him and remind him, no matter what, that if it is something he loves to do, he should do it and stick with it. Are there any other boys in the dance school (even older ones) that could be a friendly ear or mentor? THat can help a lot, if nothing else to have someone to share the frustrations with. Good luck!

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[> try a little role playing with u being a teaser and see if that makes him more comfortable. my kids practice "600 girls in bloomers and sports bras - you figure it out". your son is a little younger for that to matter, though! do a kick an inch from their nose is another of my kids favorites. -- mom, 16:01:22 01/11/09 Sun [1]


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[> [> I had 2 boys that danced...more -- mom o'2, 19:29:12 01/11/09 Sun [1]

They were both invited to dance at their school for a March celebration. At the time they were 13 and 10. The 13 year old backed out at the last minute because he was afraid of being teased. We had told them both that it was their choice to dance or not. The 10 year old (always more comfortable in his skin) went ahead and did it on his own. Well, he got a standing ovation from all the school and an encore while his brother watched from the sidelines. The 13 yr old never backed out of another invite to dance :)


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[> [> I remember being at a dance out & ds was maybe 10 - the announcer said, "that poor laddie with all those girls" TC piped up & said, think of that laddie as a teen, the announcer says, "that's a really smart laddie out there!" -- ecr mom again, 21:10:36 01/12/09 Mon [1]


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