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Date Posted: 20:27:24 05/28/16 Sat
Author: Sue (ha, what's new?)
Subject: Just need a little reassurance

My husband has served my lawyer with divorce papers, which I will see next week. I'm terrified. My husband makes a lot of money, we have a lot of debt, no equity in our home, and I've been a SAHM for 5 years. Haven't worked full time in 10 years. 3 young kids. How many of you have faced:

Losing your home
Financial devastation
Having to find a job after a long time off
Having to find child care for your kids
Having to find a rental home in an expensive market
Losing your car because you won't be able to afford the payment on it

I do have hopes for good alimony and I will get child support, but my job search has been fruitless so far. Plus, I don't mean to sound like a wimp, but the idea of working full time, raising 3 kids alone, and managing their lives is overwhelming to me.

I have to return to work because it's required by the state. Otherwise they impute an amount I should be able to make and subtract that from what he owes me.

You all I am so scared to face all these changes. I so loved my life as a SAHM and the luxury it allowed me to be such a huge part of my kids lives. I have an anxiety disorder (panic attacks) which are exacerbated by stress and that makes me doubly scared to try to handle all this.

I feel like at the whim of my liar of a husband, who by the way can afford to rent a 4 bedroom home on the water with the help of his professional boyfriend, I am losing all my security.

Can someone tell me you've lost this much (plus seeing the kids only 1/2 time) and made it through? It seems so overwhelming and I'm scared I'll end up in a 1 bdrm apt.

I don't even know how to begin to face all this change.

Thank you! I need some hope.

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