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• masterbating -- Ashley, 21:07:13 10/05/02 Sat
  Can anyone give me some tips on masterbating cuz everything i do just isnt workin and rubbin makes it hurt soo plzzz help me!!!!! if u have any ways u can email me @ Ashleyintwp2@aol.com
  

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  • Re: masterbating -- English Teacher, 00:00:21 10/24/02 Thu
    • Re: masterbating -- Tracy, 16:02:32 10/28/02 Mon
  
  
• What should I do about him? -- Sarah, 20:44:21 10/05/02 Sat
  
  My Ex bf and I met while painting my dad's gravity wagaons for his farm. We had liked each other ever since. My brother and Wayne had became best friends since they met 10yrs ago painting the gravity wagaons. Wayne and I had a crush on each other but never let anyone know it. Wayne picked up and left for southern part of OH when he use to live 15mints away from me when we was younger. Well we started going out this yr and it was the best day of my life we went to prom in a limo and went to dinner all thee above cuddled and kissed what normal couples do, but there was stuff that was different about him though we lived 100miles away from each other and it put a dent into are realtionship. We was going to get married and have a family together, but we didn't get engaged because his family was unhappy about the fact even though they have known me for along time didn't like the idea of him going out with me and so he held back because he wanted everyone to be happy that if he asked me people would support us but see my family was upset with him because he would never buy me nothing such as easter my bday graduation ect and never called like he said he was going to and I told him long distance realtionships can work if you really love each other my best friend and her bf met on the net and they have been going strong for 2yrs and I shouldn't have but did compare us one time and he got upset but I just miss him and I don't know what to do my family thinks that I should go out and find someone else but see I can't because I mean we had our life planned. Wayne seems as if wants to have his life back because he rather hang out with his three best friends instead of settling down and getting married ect.Like every time I see a semi truck I begain to cry becuse he use to drive semi truck and I just can't keep out of my head so if anyone has any advice please tell me or email me.
  

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  • Re: What should I do about him? -- Romeo, 00:02:12 10/24/02 Thu
    • Re: What should I do about him? -- Editor, 21:06:16 10/27/02 Sun
  
  
• masterbation -- xxx, 19:17:20 10/01/02 Tue
  if u no how to masterbaite like a special way or any thing e-mail me........what the best way o ya im a guy
  

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  • Re: masterbation -- kensith, 20:25:03 10/26/02 Sat
  
  
• masterbating -- Becky, 08:03:59 10/06/02 Sun
  if you masterbate can u still have babies
  

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  • Re: masterbating -- CodeRed, 18:26:37 10/08/02 Tue
  • Re: masterbating -- Dr. jedai, 18:38:03 10/13/02 Sun
  • Re: masterbating -- me, 16:47:13 10/16/02 Wed
  • Re: masterbating -- Romeo, 23:59:14 10/23/02 Wed
  • Re: masterbating -- Answer, 21:44:39 10/25/02 Fri
  
  
• p -- p, 14:46:24 10/15/02 Tue
  how do you fuck?
  

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  • Re: p -- Sir fucksalot, 21:38:43 10/25/02 Fri
  
  
• how old??? -- jade, 13:06:33 08/30/02 Fri
  hi every1,
  i was just wondering what the normal age 2 start masterbating is. i masterbate now and i am only 13, am i silly 4 doing this? please help me, i am wondering if mabey i am damaging myself in some way, please please help me, luv jade xxx
  

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  • Re: how old??? -- David, 12:17:40 09/03/02 Tue
  • Re: how old??? -- Robynne, 20:28:46 09/29/02 Sun
  • Re: how old??? -- Jader`, 20:22:02 10/24/02 Thu
  
  
• does he like me??? -- Megan, 15:06:24 08/25/02 Sun
  ok this guy named chris may like me. he always says that i am fat and ugly. then he tells me that he likes me. am i crazy or is he? he is te tyip to ask girls out. he hasn't asked me yet, if he does what should i say? i mean i like him, but should i give in or play hard to get???
  

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  • Re: does he like me??? -- k, 15:22:25 08/25/02 Sun
    • Re: does he like me??? -- cristina, 15:58:11 10/19/02 Sat
    • Re: does he like me??? -- cristina, 15:59:23 10/19/02 Sat
    • Re: does he like me??? -- cristina, 16:01:08 10/19/02 Sat
  • Does he like me or not? -- Lou, 06:48:13 09/30/02 Mon
  • Re: does he like me??? -- suzie, 20:27:58 10/18/02 Fri
  • Re: does he like me??? -- Taylor, 17:25:52 10/24/02 Thu
  
  
• Does he like me??? -- Katheryn, 16:39:44 10/16/02 Wed
  There is this boy in my band who lately i have noticed him flirting with me. It just seems so strange because no body ever flirts with me. I'm not sure if he even means anything by it.
  At one of our band compatitons, it was late at night and where i live it gets really cold. i forgot the blanket i meant to bring and left my sweater on the bus. i was sitting there probably shivering and he said to me "you look cold. come up here and share this blanket with us. it's really warm" so i did. he scooted over so that i could sit next to him, rather than on the other side with people i know.
  At the next band compatition, when we were getting on the bus, i notced he went out of his way to sit on the same bus as me. he sat by people he hates.
  later that night, back on the bus, it was a really long ride, he said that my hat was cute and that it looked sexy. i wear a different hat then anyone else because of the instument i play. i didn't think much of either of those things until last night. i thought he was joking. now i'm not sure.
  Last night, when we were leaveing band practice (if you noticed my life revovles around band) he came up to me and said my name ever so softly as i was walking back to building. then he said and i qoute "you really pretty, did you know that? i should paint you. yeah i really should paint you sometime" does he mean anything by this??? or is he just messing with me??? please help.
  the main probelm is i am a freshman, he a jounir of senior.
  HELP PLEASE!!!
  

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  • Re: Does he like me??? -- Sonya, 16:13:45 10/22/02 Tue
  • Re: Does he like me??? -- Romeo, 00:11:59 10/24/02 Thu
  
  
• how do u masterbate -- nicole, 12:57:44 10/02/02 Wed
  whate are some ways to msterbate and what are somethings u can use
  

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  • Re: how do u masterbate -- Romeo, 00:03:37 10/24/02 Thu
  
  
• re how can I masterbate -- tom, 12:58:51 10/10/02 Thu
  I really want to maximise my masterbating, will someone tell me in a detailed way the best ways to masterbate
  

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  • Re: re how can I masterbate -- Romeo, 23:54:14 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• Crying in my beer -- crazy4love, 16:22:11 10/10/02 Thu
  I am living with my boyfriend and we have been together for almost four years and he has asked me to marry him and given me the ring. we have been planning the wedding and I even have the dress. My family and his expect us to marry this coming year. The problem is that I have fallen head over heels for this guy I work with. He and I have known each other for the past two years. I started to flirt with him as soon as I met him but I was just playing around at first. Now I am not wanting to marry. I cant stop thinking abt this guy at my job. I look forward to going to work because I know I will see him there. The days he is off, I feel sad and disappointed. I love my boyfriend but it feels like I have transferred my feeling a lot and I feel quilty. The worst part is that the guy at work wont give me the time of day. I mean we speak and all but he doesnt return my feelings so it's not like we are both in love or anything. I dont want to hurt my boyfriend but feel it is unfair to marry him when I feel so strongly for another man. The pain is unbearable. I am so depressed and torn, any advice??
  

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  • Re: Crying in my beer -- Romeo, 23:52:31 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• how to masterbate -- pableto, 08:43:37 10/11/02 Fri
  just wondering how to masterbate through my ass. what is good to use within house hold what to look for and how long should it take and should i be jerking off at the sametime
  

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  • Re: how to masterbate -- Slip59, 10:41:08 10/16/02 Wed
  • Re: how to masterbate -- sof, 22:05:58 10/23/02 Wed
    • Re: how to masterbate -- Romeo, 23:50:00 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• am I too big? -- lostness, 02:25:24 10/14/02 Mon
  see, the thing is...I am 16...and I have a 8ich penis. this girl was going to go down on me, and she pulled it out. after that she gave me a hand job and I asked her why and she said she was worried about how much I would cum and if I would hurt her when she was blowing me.am I too big for 15 year old girls for intercourse?
  

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  • Re: am I too big? -- E, 21:59:15 10/14/02 Mon
  • Re: am I too big? -- Romeo, 23:46:15 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• i like this Guy that lives far away should i try for him? -- Ellie, 21:56:48 10/14/02 Mon
  i really like this guy named vinny and all i want is to be with him, but i don't know if he likes me or not? because he lives far away (45mins.) but he is SOOOOOO worth it . he has the brightest green eyes and full lips he is tall, but everyone says to forget him because he is a little younger than me but i don't care i think he is worth it. Vinny is always shy around me but he will say hi to me and he seems imbarrased when around me like when we met he said "how imbarassing" i told that i knew what he ment. i want to dance, but his mom ask to dance w/him and because he said he doesn't know how. i am confused? please help!!!!
  

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  • Re: i like this Guy that lives far away should i try for him? -- Katheryn, 16:45:29 10/16/02 Wed
  • Re: i like this Guy that lives far away should i try for him? -- English Teacher, 23:36:52 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• BIG HELP -- Damien, 05:50:33 10/16/02 Wed
  i am 17 years old, and there is this girl i have like for over a year now, but the problem is she is only 13.5 years old. But it's not all bad, my two aunties are married to her two uncles, so essentially where not related, but we do know eachother very well, and have done so for a long time. But the thing is, that at one time she really liked me, but now it feels as though she has 1 day on liking me, then 1 day off. I don't know why. But when we do meet at various occassions, she hangs out with all her friends, so i find it difficult to talk to her. but just when u thought this problem was big enough. There's also another boy, 14 years of age, who also knows this girl as well as i do if not better. The thing is she obviously thinks he is the hottest thing since the sun was made, but she seems to toss up between me and him. But because i really like her, i just couldn't and wouldn't do anything to make her feel down, or hurt her, so i talk to her and flirt as much as i can, because i'm a funny guy and really athletic as she is. But this guy, 14, is able to hit her in a friendly way, but still a fairly decent hit, abuse her, and at other times, is really open in saying that u are really good looking, and u are a hot girl. She obviously responds well to the latter, but sometimes she responds well to the former, which i find disturbing. To make things worse, various other girls where we meet, of various older ages, up to 16 all hug and kiss him in front of everyone, and i think the girl i like gets jealous, and likes him more, and me, am left like an idiot on the side. With me off to college next year, i will not be able to see her, and i'm afraid what little flame we have will be extinguished. but maybe not. What the hell should i do, now, wait it out? continue dropping her hints until she is a little older? i don't know. From university hopefully i will have access to her sister's chat program, who i might be able to talk to, from there she might use it and i may be able to talk to her, thus not extinguishing all contact with eachother. As u can see i need a lot of help! please....
  

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  • Re: BIG HELP -- Romeo, 23:29:15 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• y toti y -- kittie, 08:32:59 10/17/02 Thu
  my boyfriend is an ass he doesnt care about stuff i do and he ignores me alot infront of people he doesnt talk to me as if im a total stranger we went once to school party he danced with everyone except me he doesnt take me places although he takes other gurls out and everytime i try to get over but when he comes next to me my hearts skips it melts i cant stop thinking of him i need him when he doesnt come it pisses me off and ma day is like shit wat can i do i love him i dont know he doesnt respect me i feel like i dont have a word although ive talked to him about his stubid acting and his stubid mood he said he doesnt mean it but i dont know wat to do it so confusing cuz i m blind for his love. all my friend tell me hes a player leave him he doesnt deserve u he suxz hes a jerk but i think im tryin to take the good side which is his jokes the way he acts around others his smile the fun he makes his magical eyes those where the things which made me fall for him i which u could help
  

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  • Re: y toti y -- friend, 16:22:34 10/17/02 Thu
  • Re: y toti y -- ain, 22:03:09 10/23/02 Wed
  • Re: y toti y -- English Teacher, 23:23:04 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• is she messin me around -- Ben, 11:19:57 10/20/02 Sun
  me and my ex met when we were at college. We went out once before in febuary, we were together about a month when she finished it without telling me why. I was really in love with her then and it never went away. Then about 3 months ago she told me that she loves me and that shes sorry for the last time and that she wants us to try again, i agreed and we got back together. we were again together about a month and she ended it saying that she needs time.
  
  But that wernt true. i herd her talking to one of my friends and she was saying that she feels like she doesnt know me. I can kinda understand that. Im not the most chatty person in the world and when im with her i dont feel like i need to talk, i am content just being with her. I still love her loads and i tell her that but she says that its just words. how can i prove that i really do love her? How can i make her feel like she knows me?
  
  it funny i always thought that part of being with someone is getting to know them better.
  
  she said she still wants to get with me and she does have feelings for me but she keeps trying to set me up with other girls, why? i asked her and she said that she doesnt want me to miss out just because she needs time. what the hell is that about.
  
  
  Please help me if you can i love her so much and every day i spend apart from her a part of me dies.
  

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  • Re: is she messin me around -- ain, 21:58:30 10/23/02 Wed
  • Re: is she messin me around -- English Teacher, 23:14:15 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• triangal love -- LOVABLE, 08:04:33 10/21/02 Mon
  i hav a boyfriend 20 years old and we love each other very much.but the problem is that this gal who is a old friend of him loves him too.my boyfriend care about her very much but he don loves her.he trick her as friend but the gal always involved sexual behavior with my boyfriend.
  my boyfriend loves me very much but he don wan to hurt her also as he cares about her cos they are very good and old friend
  I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH.PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
  

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  • Re: triangal love -- ain, 21:54:30 10/23/02 Wed
  • Re: triangal love -- English Teacher, 23:10:06 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• forskin -- james19, 22:22:12 10/23/02 Wed
  I love to play with my forskin when i masterbate, any
  other guys/suggestion? or techniques?
  

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• HELP ME ~*~ASAP~*~ DOSE HE LIKE ME? -- ~*~BaByCaKeS~*~, 13:12:40 10/21/02 Mon
  Ok, There is this guy Daniel. I like him alot! I turned down his friend, AND broke up with my bf for him cause he told me that he wanted to go out with me. I told him that I broke up with him and he was very happy :) But the thing is that he WONT ask me out! He writes my name on paper and then writes: Nicole is hot I am so confused! I just need to know if he likes me or not! PLEASE HELP ~ASAP~
  (before 2-night)
  Thank you for your time!!! ;) ~*~BaByCaKeS~*~
  

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  • Re: HELP ME ~*~ASAP~*~ DOSE HE LIKE ME? -- ain, 21:52:25 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• the guy I'm in love with doesnt love me! -- Autom, 12:33:31 03/05/02 Tue
  I meet this guy and he is perfect for me. I meet him through my best friends brother. Everything he did i loved i knew him for a day and before i knew it we where making out on my couch. After a few days he didnt like my personaltiy and didnt like me anymore. He said i was attractice and he just didnt like me personality. After i herd that i was so upset the day my friend told me that it was over (because she talked to him the night before) she told me in school and i cried so hard everyone thought my mom had died or somthing i couldnt stop my tears and ever sence i meet him i cry at night! every where i look or everything i hear or see reminds me of him! Everything! i cant get over him i dont know what to do. The thing that makes it worse as i wasnt myself when i was with him i was trying to be somone to fit him. I dont know what to do i want him back please help me!!
  

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  • Re: the guy I'm in love with doesnt love me! -- SaRa, 19:28:17 09/07/02 Sat
  • Re: the guy I'm in love with doesnt love me! -- Legendary Stuff, 02:17:27 09/18/02 Wed
  • Re: the guy I'm in love with doesnt love me! -- Angelina, 18:47:14 09/25/02 Wed
    • Re: the guy I'm in love with doesnt love me! -- AIN, 21:47:32 10/23/02 Wed
  
  
• i don't know if he really likes me -- Ashley, 15:05:40 08/24/02 Sat
  I really like this guy and he said that he found me attractive and he's always talking to me about us having sex, but he acts like he does like me he just seems confused...what should i do?
  

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  • Re: i don't know if he really likes me -- Karina, 17:51:58 10/19/02 Sat
  
  
• HELP! I'm in love trouble. -- BunnyGal in distress, 17:04:50 05/16/02 Thu
  There's this boy I'm so in mad love with and he knows that. He likes me, and that's a good start. The problem used to be that he had a girlfriend @ the same time I loved him. But now just last Monday, he breaks up with her, and I understands that he needs time to find himself before he can go with anybody else new. "I hope he goes with me", I think in my head. But then on Wednesday, he gives me bad news. He says that if he is to go with somebody soon, it might not be me! I was so sad! I 'm not trying to rush him into things because I don't want to be treated like that. I talk about him plenty of times, which gets on both me and his nerves, so I stopped talking about him. Everything's going just fine again, but I'm afraid. What if he still goes with someone else and not me? Help this Bunny-in-Distress with her love problem!
  

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  • Re: HELP! I'm in love trouble. -- damien, 05:47:18 10/16/02 Wed
  • Re: HELP! I'm in love trouble. -- damien, 05:48:43 10/16/02 Wed
  • Re: HELP! I'm in love trouble. -- binnie, 11:27:32 10/19/02 Sat
  
  
• should i wait -- angela, 08:18:27 10/09/02 Wed
  i am in love with my ex-boyfriend and he loves me. the problem is he is married. he told me he was going to divorce her and he even bought me a ring and kissed me a few times. yet i dont see him leaving her anytime soon. should i continue to wait or what?
  

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  • Re: should i wait -- u r a fagg, 22:01:33 10/14/02 Mon
  • Re: should i wait -- suzie, 20:37:49 10/18/02 Fri
  
  
• I think my ex is my soulmate -- Liz, 10:15:53 06/05/02 Wed
  I am soooooooooooo confused. I've have been with this guy for 6 years and we have been living together for 1 and 1/2 years. He is great! We get along great, he treats me good. Basically there is no problem at all. Its getting to the point where we may be getting married soon. My problem is, I can't stop thinking about my ex. Its terrible. I can honestly say that I think about him every single day. He lives in the same area as far as I know and when ever I'm driving around I look for his car, when I go to the store I hope I will run into him, when I pass by his old job I look in the window to see if he's there. A part of me thinks that he is my soul mate and that I should be with him instead of my boyfriend. My boyfriend looks into my eyes sometimes and tells me he's looking for something, I can always tell that what ever he's looking for he's not finding it. I remember looking into my ex boyfriends eyes and having a feeling of completeness that I don't find with my boyfriend now. I would usually just break it off with my boyfriend and try my chances with the ex, You only live once. But its so much more complicated than that. My boyfriend and I are really serious. He has a daughter who I have become close to, and we depend on each other financially also, basically we are married already. I would feel awful just leaving him for someone else, but I feel like if I don't, I will end up getting married and wondering for the rest of my life what would have happened if I would have called my ex. Another problem is that I have not really spoken to my ex in like seven years. He has no idea that I feel this way, I don't know if he thinks about me at all, he might have a girlfriend who he is in love with for all I know. One thing that gives me hope is that once my current boyfriend and I broke up and I went and stayed with a girlfriend of mine for about a week. I thought it was over between my boyfriend and I and decided to call my ex boyfriend. I went ahead and gave him a call, he was still at the same job luckily for me and he sounded happy to hear from me. We gave each other updates on our family's, but we could not meet because he was going out of town. I told him I would give him my number and he could call me when he got back, if he wanted to. He called me about a month later and when I got the call I was back with my boyfriend and he was standing right next to me. I told my ex that it was not good that he was calling me and hung up the phone:/ It's been about 4 months since then and I still think about him constantly. I think I would rather take a chance and loose everything instead of living the rest of my life not knowing what could have happened. I am stuck in a really bad situation. Please give me some advice. tell me if I'm crazy and should just stop fanaticizing about my teenage love.
  

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  • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- Also Confused, 12:43:53 06/07/02 Fri
    • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- Liz, 16:56:27 06/07/02 Fri
    • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- Gene, 05:49:45 09/12/02 Thu
  • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- Nina, 07:03:18 08/08/02 Thu
  • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- Casey, 14:00:34 08/27/02 Tue
  • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- mykell, 05:57:39 09/18/02 Wed
  • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- d, 10:08:16 10/07/02 Mon
    • Re: I think my ex is my soulmate -- Stella, 13:39:33 10/09/02 Wed
  • i want my ex back -- kelly, 02:34:19 10/16/02 Wed
  
  
• HI -- SHAMEKA, 14:47:23 09/26/02 Thu
  HEY I AM LOOKING FOR HELP THIS GUY I KNOW KNOWS MY BROTHER AND HE LIVES IN VIGINA AND HE IS COMMING BACK HERE IN OCT. NOW HE WROTE MY BESTFRIND A LETTER SAYING THAT HE MIGHT SAY YES TO ME MEANING THAT HE WILL GO WITH ME BUT HE AIN;T SENT NO MORE MESSAGE LETTING US KNOW WHAT SHOULD I DO PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE!
  

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  • Re: HI -- SHAMEKA, 13:41:17 09/27/02 Fri
  • Re: HI -- um, 22:05:11 10/14/02 Mon
  
  
• Toys -- Unknown, 16:21:42 10/13/02 Sun
  If your a guy who wants to masterbate.....and you want to use something besides your hand what do you use? (any thing from home)
  

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• masterbating -- CRAZY IN TEXAS, 14:38:32 10/13/02 Sun
  I LIKE TO MASTERBATE WHILE LAYING DOWN IN MY BED THINK ABOUT MY BOYFRIEND. I START BY GENTLY RUBBING MY CLIT GETTING IT NICE AND HOT THEN I FINGER MY PUSSY AND GET IS NICE AND WET THEN I INSERT MY DIDLO IN IT FOR LOTS OF FUN :)
  

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• my changed boyfriend ( i think) -- Jd, 00:52:36 10/10/02 Thu
  I Think my boyfriend does not love me that much,eventhough we've been dating for almost 3 years now. I've learned so many things about him when he was still with his ex, and i can say that he's very different now from what he used to be. It made think that he loved his ex more than he loved me now. Im extremely nice, sweet and caring to him, but how could he not love me the way he loved his ex?It tears me apart everytime I remember how he used to loved that girl.He always tells me he loves me,but Im not convinced. Help me please, Im not sure if Im just insecure or that it is really the situation.I would reallly appreciate it f u could help me out.
  

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• He stole my heart -- Cat G., 13:31:33 09/26/02 Thu
  Okay well there's this guy and his name is Jared. He kinda liked me last year but started to really like me over the summer and this year. I really like him too. Then one day, he told me he hated me and kept insisting that we should just forget about eachother and move on. Soon after, he started to like me again, i still liked him. Soon, He started talking bad about me behind my back and then denied it when we talked about it. We were really good friends when no one was around but he still was being a real jerk when I wasen't around. eventually, i looked him in the eye and asked him "Why?" He said that he never liked me and he just wanted to see how long it would last. I still LIKE him but not as much as before. It tore me in two. I know he still likes me but how do i get him to admit it and to get him to stop being a Jerk????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  

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• Confused -- Mary Terry, 21:13:38 10/03/02 Thu
  I am very confused about the topic of male masturbation. Some of the men I meet seem to want me to help. I am eagar to learn but grew up in a time where these things were not discussed. I would appreciated if someone could email me about this. If you mail me please put "Here's the special e-mail you request, Mary." in the subject, so I will know not to open it when children are around.
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  Mary
  

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• Other Ways to masterbate ((guys)) -- john, 17:56:57 10/01/02 Tue
  Another Way to masterbate is to get hard and lie down in a confertable place, then find a soft pillow and start rubing ur penis against it really fast.
  

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• crazy in love -- shameka, 11:28:54 10/01/02 Tue
  hey i posted a message here last week and did not get a answer please help me this time please this boy im in love with he emailed my girl telling her that he gone ask me out then turn around and say he don't like me this has been going on for abotu 3 weeks going on 4 so he playing mind games with her or he just don't want to tell her u know and my brother is friend so he said that it will be diffrent when he get back so how do i know if he loves me or likes me he is shy i heard please help me please!
  

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• unrequited love -- Matt, 05:09:03 03/19/02 Tue
  I'm totally in love with my ex-housemate Clare. We both go to the same university and we had been sharing a house for the last year. We were getting along really well and one night I decided to tell her how I felt about her. She said that she really liked me but that she was happy being single at the moment. At first things were okay, but over the next few weeks she started acting strange around me. Sometimes she would be normal but other times she would look really sad and when I tried to talk to her about things it just seemed to upset her. Also, she kept going mad at me, trying to pick stupid arguments and accusing me of looking at her too much or following her when I bumped into her at university. This just made me feel really bad and I wished I hadn't told her how I felt in the first place. Anyway, a few weeks ago she went home for a week and for some reason I sent her a text message telling her how much I loved her. She went insane and said she was going to move out. I tried calling her after she moved out but she says that she hates me and doesn't want to talk to me at the moment. I feel really guilty about upsetting her but I would really like us to at least be friends as I am so depressed at the moment.
  

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    • - -- buh, 17:21:11 08/28/02 Wed
    • Re: unrequited love -- John, 18:18:30 09/25/02 Wed
      • Re: unrequited love -- Heather, 08:06:28 10/01/02 Tue
  
  
• materbation -- shannon, 14:35:52 09/30/02 Mon
  what are ways i can masterbate? and really get off
  

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• materbation -- shannon, 14:34:46 09/30/02 Mon
  what are ways i can masterbate? and really get off
  

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• how to masterbate -- Jennifer, 20:18:10 09/29/02 Sun
  hey i'm 15 and i've never masterbated before. my friends say it feels great but i dont know what to do. i'm not into sticking things up my pussy, so they told me to try working my clit over but i dont know how. help!
  

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• PLEASE HELP ME I AM DESPRET ! -- Vicky, 00:16:53 09/28/02 Sat
  First of all my name is Vicky,
  I am a freshmen, and when I was in 7th grade I had the biggest crush on this guy named Riley, like it was love at first sight, I liked him all thru 7th grade and then towards the end he asked me out and we went out for 4 months and it was the best, he wrote me poems and dedicated 98 degrees "I do" to me and it was heaven, then I met this guy Robby and he was hot and I was like ooooh la la, well, I broke up with Riley, and me and robby never worked out, then in the beggining of 8th grade i liked him SO much and he didnt want to have anything to do with me, i was crushed, the whole 8th grade year i loved him so much, i used to cry myself to sleep every night and he knew it too but he didnt care, then finally 3 weeks before school was out he askes me out and i am like WHAT ?! I was so happy i said yes, the next day he got suspended and grounded so i never saw him then the last day of school i spent the whole day with him and there was a party that night we went and it was fun, after i left he cheated on me with some senior bitch, and i broke up with him, he says he didnt cheat on me and i dont know what to believe, i still love him so much and he acts like he doesnt even know me, he hardly ever talks to me i am so confused HELP ME PLEASEEEEEEE
  
  Love, Vicky.....
  

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• boy problems -- Elisha, 16:08:50 05/20/02 Mon
  Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now and I love him with all my heart. It's just that he treats me the way I dont wanted to be treated. He doesn't treat me bad or anything, he treats me good. He is the type of guy that would alway want to go out and have fun and do any thing he wants to do and to not talk on the phone. In a way it bothers me becuase he's always out and Im always home. Right now I just feel like were slipping away from eachother and I have told him that before. I'm a really jeulous person to because he has alot of friends that are girls. What it is I want from him is more attention but I dont want to make it seem like Im complaining to much because thats what he says that I complain too much
  SO CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME AND GIVE ME SOME ADVIElisha
  

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  • Re: boy problems -- Brigette, 16:26:54 08/29/02 Thu
  • Re: boy problems (NT) -- Brittney, 19:34:34 08/30/02 Fri
  • Re: boy problems -- Brittney, 19:40:39 08/30/02 Fri
  • Re: boy problems -- me, 18:18:43 09/12/02 Thu
  • Re: boy problems -- samantha, 23:00:27 09/14/02 Sat
  • Re: boy problems -- Nicole, 23:02:07 09/14/02 Sat
  • Re: boy problems -- elezabeth, 23:17:08 09/14/02 Sat
  • Re: boy problems -- Carolina, 23:24:26 09/14/02 Sat
  • Re: boy problems -- jessica, 21:16:38 09/15/02 Sun
  • Re: boy problems -- Catrina, 18:00:34 09/26/02 Thu
  
  
• can anyone give me some advice? -- upsetgirl, 07:32:50 09/25/02 Wed
  I need some advice. I am so in love with my boyfriend of 9 months. i am 24 and he is 22. I always want to see him and call him and be with him. I feel like i have more feelings for him than he does for me. i am just so upset because i love him so much. i want to know if i should be with him if i feel he doesn't feel the same way about me. sometimes he acts like i annoy him or bother him. and i get disappointed a lot of time by the way he treats me and it makes me sad. he hardly even tells me he loves me anymore. i just don't know what to do because i love spending time with him and we are always laughing together. we were friends for about 2 years before we started dating so he has been apart of my life for awhile. i just feel like i am not as important to him as he is to me. someone help!
  

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• Strip clubs -- kristen, 18:57:43 02/25/02 Mon
  my boyfriend of 3 and a half years has gone to a fully nude strip club 2 times and has no intent of quiting he enjoys lap dances and of course the women. I was only aware of the 2nd time. He talk about how "awesome" it was and how he was in heaven. i know this is "male bonding" but i now feel horrible and am loosing respect for him. I feel inadequte and undesirable. I tried talking to him and he said he wasnt even going to deal with it and to get use to it. Im hurt and feel uncomfortable having sex, as if i will never be as good as the strippers
  

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• being torn apart?or not? I HATE IT -- Steve, 23:13:05 12/06/01 Thu
  Hi,i been with this girl over a year.we are together basicly 24/7 .only time we are apart is either me at work/her at school.she sleeps and eats and showers at my place.constantly together.we fight alot and sometimes hurt eachother mentally it doesnt seem worth it when i think of those things BUT whn i think of the goodthings,i dont want to let her go and it feels worth it.first of all,let me tell youabout her shes 17 had a messed up life and seems to have a million personalities.sometimes shes so sweet and i really feel like she wants to be with me,other times i feel like im dragging her down,holding her back from this "great time" she couldbe having without me...i dont get it.deep down she REALLY is a sweet girl,thats what i love about her.then she seems to act different she WILLNOT talk to me about her problems ,keeps it all in (NOT GOOD)sometimes shell start crying and hiding in the corner of the bathroom with her face in a pillow,when i say baby please please talk to me,tell me whast wrong she says "nothing"......YEAH RIGHT I AM NOT FUCKING STOOPID! i am her second real ,like long term boyfriend...i have done SO much MORE for her than the last guy,he didnt even have a JOB when he was with her.....I DO,i support her buy her anything i can afford to,take her out for ice cream...things like that.....i feel like i cannot let her go but i also feel like she wants out,,,shes been emotional since i been w/her,shes just really messed up in th head....sometimes i wish she wasnt so beautiful so i could walk away and stay gone,now i aint a bad lookin guy on the other hand though.im 22 brn hair blu eyes6 foot 170.i can go out to a club and meet a girl SO easy but i dont...i just dont know if this girl REALLY likes me or just is depending on me for some kinda,i dont know support or soemthing?when shes in a goodmood,she smiles and laughs so cute even talks like a little girl,acts all gooofy climbing on me and all----when shes in a bad mood she calls me loser and says very hurtful things to me like "i wish i had a boyfriend with a car"
  which one is the real her?
  heres how much im attached to this girl.There was recently a very tragic accident in my family (nothings the same) it made me shed a few tears,i cannot seem to cry about it.when she left me this summer and went back to her x boyfriend for 2 or 3 days i never cried so hard in my life,i laid curled in a ball on the basement floor in painful tears throughout the days and got terrribly drunk those few nights i almost wanted to die,to feel some other pain than this,,,,....am i a sucker,being played or a really lucky guy?
  

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• me and my best friend -- sam, 06:52:05 09/19/02 Thu
  since the begginig of the year, my best friend and i have been getting very close. i'm 19 and he's 18. one night we got a bit carried away and our friendship was taken past just friendship. i began to see him in a totally diffrent light and we'd act just like a couple all the time. when i asked him what was going on he told me he didn't want a relati9onship and then two weeks later he was in one with another girl. that broke my heart but i swallowed my pride and got on with my life.
  since then he split up with his girlfriend and all the flirting, sleeping round each others houses etc has started up again. we went on a douyble date to a really exspensive restaurant and drank champagne all night. again things happened and everyone thought we were a couple.
  on monday i confronted him again. he told me we were definately more than friend and that he had never felt this way about anyone before. he said he loves me but he's not in love with me. then he said he doesnt wanta relationship.
  i think i am in love with him. i cant eat or sleep and he is always on my mind. i love him so much but i cannot just carry on with the way it is. i can either stop it all together which will mean a strictly just friends relationship which will be hard because i love time we spend on our own cuddling but at the same time, i'm worth more and i can't let him have his way again. what should i do, please someone help me.
  

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  • Re: me and my best friend -- ryan, 11:21:13 09/23/02 Mon
  
  
• Rounding Bases -- Kylie, 15:27:28 06/22/02 Sat
  does anyone know what the bases are?? love-wise...not baseball...i would really apreciate it!! please email me your replies!! thanx so much! <33 always, Kylie
  

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• how so you get the most pleasure of masterbaiting -- jin, 16:41:21 09/14/02 Sat
  im 11 and i materbait i lie down put lotion on my penis and rub it up and down it feels good but im just a begginer can someone give my some pointers? thanks
  
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• I really need some advice :~( -- Chris, 22:58:12 07/22/02 Mon
  About 4 months ago. My friend was going out with this girl named Cammy. Cammy to me was a really really sweet girl and she was always nice to me. Well i found out my friend was cheating on her with his ex-girlfriend. So i thought the best thing to do at the time was to tell Cammy what was going on. Well on the night they broke up she was talking about killing herself...and she had a previous record of attempts at killing herself. Well i myself..being 19 and Cammy is 15 years old, i had been through that stage in life where i felt like just killing myself alot of times because i am a really tall and skinny guy and people always make fun of me about it except for her..she was the only one who understood me. So when she broke up with him we fell in love. Me being 19 and her 15 i knew might be a problem at first but she was a really mature girl for her age. She understood me like nobody else ever had before. And we just connected sooo well that she not only became my girlfriend but also my best friend. Well we tried to keep our relationship a secret but in order for us to see each other we had to risk some things by being together in public. Well at the time we started going out she was grounded for a bad grade in school and her parents didnt let her use the phone or leave the house..the only way she could talk to people was by use of the internet. So i talked to her everynight for about 5 hours and thats how we carried on our relationship. Even though she lives a mile away from me, it was the only way since she was grounded. Well when she got ungrounded she was able to spend the night with friends. So i would come to her friends house to see her, and sometimes i would visit her at school. Well somebody that didnt like her, found out at school we were going out and told her mom about it. So at first her mom was shocked but accepted it as an ok thing. But her mom didnt tell her dad because she knew her dad would ground her for a long time. (Her dad is an ex-cop for 15 years).So i met her mom one night when we all went out to eat, while her dad was out of town. Her mom said it was ok that Cammy call me on the phone or on the net, but she couldnt see me. Because her mom didnt want her dating at 15. So we had to sneak around even though her mom knew about us, but wouldnt let us be together. So now its been 4 months since we started going out. I have been on 4 dates with her over the 4 months..none of which her mom or dad knew about. I only saw her when she stayed the night with her best friend. Well my girlfriend only had few friends as it was..and she always told me that even though i was her boyfriend..i was also her best friend..because she could talk to me about anything in the world. And she made her life revolve around me. and i did the same with her. Because she was the first person i ever went out with and she is the only person i have ever felt cares about me. I love her soooo much and she loves me. Our love is sooo strong that neither one of us feels we can live without each other. My problem is..her and her best friend had a bad arugment 3 nights ago and it was about me. Her best friend was jealous of me and called me all kinds of names and said she hated me and tried over and over to get my girlfriend to break up with me. I was there when the arugement took place. My girlfriend was cryin and i cried too cause it hurt soo much seeing her cry. And then her best friend said that she never really liked her anyways and didnt want to be her friend anymore. And then to make matters worse. Her best friend called her parents and told them everything about Cammy and I going out over the past 4 months. And it was the first her dad had even heard of us going out. Right now her parents have grounded her without the internet,phone,and she cant soo much as even go into the front yard much less leave her house. She has no way of communicating with anyone. And her parents said that she is not aloud to ever speak to or see me again. And her dad said she is gonna be grounded " for the rest of her life". He is really really mad right now. So i have just lost the person i love most and my best friend. And she lost the person she loves most (me) and her bestfriend. And we both have bad past of attempted suicide. I am just really really worried about her. I love her more than life itself and i care about her more than i care about me, and i know she is cryin her eyes out over losing her friend and losing me, and not being able to talk to anybody but her mom and dad. Her parents are really strict people and thats the reason she tried to kill herself the first time because the pressured her too much. I dont know what to do. I am just sooo scared she might do something to herself or something bad. In a way i feel that she knows that i would want her to be strong during this time, and dont give up on the dream we had of one day getting married and gettin away from here. But i just dont know whats going on. I am sooo scared right now because i love her soooo much and i know she needs me more than anybody else in this world and i am the one person she is forbidden to ever see again. What shoudl i do?? i really really need some advice . I really hope u can help me, Thank you.
  

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  • Re: I really need some advice :~( -- nicole, 18:44:21 09/11/02 Wed
  • Re: I really need some advice :~( -- raven, 02:49:55 09/15/02 Sun
  • I realy like this girl but i am scared to ask her out please reply -- Jonny, 12:46:55 09/21/02 Sat
  
  
• i don't know if he likes me -- Terra, 08:45:15 09/21/02 Sat
  There i this guy in my school and he is always flirting w/ me but i know that he likes a freshman and he is a senoir. I don't know if he really likes me or if he is just doing that. And if he does like me how do I get him to stop liking the freshman?
  

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• I love this girl but she has a boyfriend -- Greb, 03:17:07 05/28/02 Tue
  I love this girl that I work with however she has a boyfriend of about two years. She and I once had an encounter however nothing came to fruition. She knows how I feel, and sometimes I think she still has some sort of connection with me. I know she doesn't want me to leave my job. I do things for her around work, I have even sent her flowers and love letters, her response to them was ok but not want I wanted. I want her to leave her boyfriend and experience life as it should be not just a comfort zone. What can I do? How should i react to her? Should I give her an ultimatem? I love her - Help me.
  

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• I don't have the guts to ask a girl out for a date -- Lucca M. M., 23:46:57 02/12/02 Tue
  I like a girl in my class verry , verry much but i don't dare to ask her out. I ask you,what shold i do with valentines day comming and all ? If you can help me send me a e-mail . From : Lucca m.m the Netherlands
  

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  • how to ask a girl for a date -- azam, 07:52:17 08/22/02 Thu
    • Re: how to ask a girl for a date -- megan, 15:10:52 08/25/02 Sun
    • Re: how to ask a girl for a date -- tong, 21:53:55 09/01/02 Sun
  • Re: I don't have the guts to ask a girl out for a date -- JAMIE CORBETT VEASIE, 12:57:44 08/25/02 Sun
  • i don't know how to ask a girl, please read my letter and help me. -- Jack Hsu, 22:16:35 09/07/02 Sat
  • Re: I don't have the guts to ask a girl out for a date -- ryan, 11:55:28 09/19/02 Thu
  • Re: I don't have the guts to ask a girl out for a date -- rybrown87, 11:56:36 09/19/02 Thu
  
  
• my crazy x bf -- kristina, 18:00:24 09/17/02 Tue
  about a year ago i fell in love with a boy named adam. he was the best and i gave my all to him. one night at a football game he has a friend dump me for him. its strange that morning he said i love you so much. i see him everyday at school an he doesnt look at me or talk to me. when we broke up i tryed to talk to him but ghe just walked away an never looked me in the eyes. why cant he tell me what i did, why we cant just be friends, and most importainly why cant he ever look me in the eyes?
  

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• learn how to spell!!! -- i'm smarter then you are!!, 14:26:17 09/17/02 Tue
  I'm really having problems with everyone on this website.
  none of you can spell correctly!!! learn to spell before you learn to love for crying out loud!!!! what would you think if someone wrote you a message: "i lvoe yuo" !?!?!
  

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• learn how to spell!!! -- i'm smarter then you are!!, 14:24:56 09/17/02 Tue
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• Am I too wary -- Jon, 10:45:15 09/12/02 Thu
  I play cricket with the father of this damn fine girl, and she's just started at my college. I'd really like to ask her out but she seems too good for me, she hangs out with the popular people, popular guys, and well I can't find fault with her but I know all too well I have faults...
  
  I think the biggest reason I don't ask her out is because I'm concerned about what others may think such as her Dad when I see him every week, or what she people at college would say if I asked her out and she wasn't at all interested. I think she is, she asks a bit about me through my mum at cricket, and we're both nervous when we talk to each other lol.
  
  What do you all think I should do? I expect you'll just say get on with it, be more confident etc but I suppose maybe I could do with hearing that from some people.
  

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• How to get this really really hot girl to go out wit me -- John Mass, 12:42:49 09/09/02 Mon
  ok this there is this really really hot girl in a grade lower than mine and i am really atracted to her physically and mentaly. I've talked to her a couple times but alot of other guy like her too. How do I make myself stand out from all the other guys so she we like me and not the others.
  
  plz e-mail me your discussions and replys
  
  thanks alot.
  
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• how do i masterbate??? -- Nicole, 21:22:52 08/28/02 Wed
  Hey everyone! I need some good advice. i've been told that you can masterbate with a back massager, but i can't afford one. any other ways??? please help. desperate!!!
  

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  • Re: how do i masterbate??? -- karin, 15:09:25 09/11/02 Wed
  
  
• how do i finger i girl -- pj, 08:43:00 09/08/02 Sun
  i was wondering how do i finger a girl if anyone could help me w/ that
  

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• my man and i -- tiffany, 01:19:57 09/08/02 Sun
  my man want me to hold on to him while he is getting his self together first he is staing with this woman and he did'nt tell me about it he say he is not seeing her but
  every time i turn around he is talking about her or he is driving her car or keeping her child he never call me
  the only time i here from himis one time out of the week
  i don't know what to do i want stay in see if we can work
  out our problem or just move on with my life but love him so much i mean do he still love me
  

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• masterbation -- dan, 15:29:02 09/06/02 Fri
  i am a male and i hear from friends that masterbating is pleasurable....and helps you when your horny but no one has told me how to masterbate...can you tell me please
  

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• Does he like me -- Jamie, 07:03:57 09/06/02 Fri
  I like my brothers friend and hes 3 yrs older then me and I dont know if he likes me..like I sometimes see him looking at me and when i talk to him he blushes and if I need something like a ride home he gives me one and if im not at school he will ask where I am and yesturday he was walking down the hall and I was like oh that guy there is so hot and he turned around to look at him and plus if he calls for my brother he talks to me and stuff and he's really nice to me and one time he walked home with me and if he gives me a ride home he also give my friends one and he always talks to me Im so confused my friends say he likes me but i feel like he does what he does cause he best friends with my bro so he has to be nice to me cause Im jays lil sis
  

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• i am a guy who desperetly needs to know how to masterbate -- Tony, 00:03:30 08/31/02 Sat
  can u help me to know how to masterbate
  please E-mail me at fishingguppi@yahoo.com
  

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  • Re: i am a guy who desperetly needs to know how to masterbate -- steve, 14:26:15 09/03/02 Tue
  • Re: i am a guy who desperetly needs to know how to masterbate -- xerctvyui, 13:56:33 09/05/02 Thu
  
  
• A little advise, please... -- Manda, 12:06:42 09/05/02 Thu
  I need some advise on a situation...
  I have been seeing this man (we will call him P) on the interent for almost 8 months. He left five weeks ago, and didn't tell me where he was going. He came back two days ago and said that he still loved me. In the mean time I was starting to get interested in someone in my home town. P told me that he was still in love with me and that he didn't want to lose me. I am a little bit confused, because I still love P, but this other guy, J, is always around when I need him. I really don't know what to do. If anyone can give me some help, I would grately appreciate it. thanks for your time, and for reading this message.
  

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  • Re: A little advise, please... -- CHRIS, 13:53:13 09/05/02 Thu
  
  
• Masterbating -- Jeff, 08:14:12 08/28/02 Wed
  ok, one more thing, is it normal for guys to masterbate real hard on their penis and then, ur penis feels tingly and u cant control it or u cant feel it??? that happend to me a feel times, i was taking a shower and stroke my penis with two hands real hard, i took my hand and made it into a size of a circle, real small, so i stroke it real hard and fast for a few dozen times, then my penis started feeling tingly and i coundn't feel it or someting and a drop of cum came out, i dont know was that cum or something else, is that how ur suppose to feel when u get cum?
  

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  • Re: Masterbating -- rob, 04:18:57 09/05/02 Thu
  
  
• Help -- Chris, 13:09:35 09/04/02 Wed
  hey i need help what to do i really like this girl but i am to shy to tell her can anyone help me about my prob thanks and go rams
  

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• impossible love -- anne, 08:59:46 09/04/02 Wed
  I'm in love with my best friend who happens to be gay. I realize that I have to get over this or I'm going to ruin the best friendship I've ever had. It's really hard getting over unrequited, impossible love, especially when he's dating another of my good friends. Help!!!!
  

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• Caught Masterbating And By Who -- James, 23:17:29 08/31/02 Sat
  Hi my name is James im 16 yo and heres my story. One time i came home from school and there was no one home so i was fealing a little horny so i decieded to get naked and have wank so i went to my room and strted i layed down on the floor and wanked i was about to reach orgasm next thing i know my moms opening my door and then it happend i came a huge load and it flew all over her legs and a little on her hands she just looked at me and sed WOW thats a lot. thats my story thank you for reading please replie
  

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• Boy problem -- Claire, 06:04:13 09/03/02 Tue
  i have liked this guy for three years and up until recently we were getting along really well. Then all of a sudden a few months ago he sent me a really nasty e-mail and since we've stopped talking. I also know that he's always telling his friends how much he hates me and wants to kill me, and when, fed up of him saying the same stuff over and over, they ask him why he hates me he says he doesn't know. I've tried talking to him but he's really hard to approah because he just glares at me constantly. I don't know what to do because i really like him and the ways he's acting is really upseting me, and i don't want to lose him as a friend. Please help.
  

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• love problem -- sarah, 15:19:09 12/05/01 Wed
  Hello!~
  Lately i have been having problems with me and my boyfriend.He loves me soooo much but I'm not sure bout me, I'm so confused i don't know wat to do. I don't know if i m still in love with him or not. I'm so lost.HELP ME PLEASE!!
  Thanx Again
  Love alwayz:Sarah
  

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• lost in love -- daivd, 23:07:25 05/12/02 Sun
  my girlfriend whom i have been together for four years tells me that she wants time. she still loves me as a person but doesn't know if she loves me enough to live with me. plus her parents don't like me, so for four years she'd lied to her parents to be with me. never once i got the chance to come to here house and actually take out on a date with her parents knowing. she wants me to do good in school but i didn't and failed so i had to transfer to a new school and now i don't see her very much. she lied to me and said that her parents found out and they were mad at her and took her cell phone that's why she didn't call me for two days, then she calls me at work and asked me to come and see her, so i did and she asked me how i feel and i told her that i was very sad, and she asked me if i love her, and i told her that i loved her very much and that i wanted to move out with her. after that day she stops calling me and doesn't want to talk to me and avoid all my calls. i bought her a diamond ring and gave it to her, and one day i was so sad so i went out with some friends and got really drunk, so i decide to call her and she tells me that she wanted to go get the ring resized because it didn't fit her, she said that she would call me, but she never did. and just the other day when i saw her at work, she told me that she wanted to give the ring back to me, and that she wanted to be friends. when she was working before mother's day i went and bought her a dozon roses and a pooh bear, because to her i am a pooh bear. she except the roses and call me to ask if i had the roses delivery to her work place and i said who else would give you roses, and she knows why i gave her the roses but she still asked to why i gave her the roses, and i told her that because i love you that's why. and then she said that she would call me later, but she didn't. she is very smart and her family has very high expectations of her. she tells me to forget her and that i should move on and find another person, but she knows that i only love her. she tells me that she is seening this guy, because she wants me to forget about her. i don't understand after 4 years of been together, how can a person just said it's over and try to avoid it. i know she is the only person for me. she is my first love and i am her first too. she has given everything to me and her parents don't know jack about it. what does she really want? please help this confused man that's in love.
  

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  • Re: lost in love -- Heart Broken, 04:13:18 09/01/02 Sun
  
  
• IM TOO SHY!!! -- raquel, 11:19:01 05/23/01 Wed
  HEY ELISHA!!! watz up??? well u c, i really like this guy and he's really shy. the problem is that im really shy too. u dont know how hard ive tried to make a first move but its really difficult for me!!!! i cant even talk to him!! i start to blush and say the stupidest things or worse, i just dont even talk at all!! he must really think im a total idiot and that im such a boring person..... but im not!!! im starting to stop meeting him "accidentally" bcuz i really make a fool out of myself when i try to talk to him. but im really desperate now cuz ive noticed that im not the only one who noticed him... and by seeing them, i guess they have a better chance....its so frustrating cuz with other guys im normal but i totally mess up with him. any suggestions?????? thanks anyways....
  

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  • Re: IM TOO SHY!!! -- taylor, 22:25:17 09/07/01 Fri
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    • Re: IM TOO SHY!!! -- Rose, 14:38:24 08/29/02 Thu
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• it's sore down there -- Megan, 11:46:41 08/29/02 Thu
  ok all... everytime i masterbate, it gets sore down by my clit and it hurts to pee. is this normal? also any good advice for a girl??? need new ways to have fun!
  

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• I'm in love with my cousin -- Melissa, 20:13:27 08/12/02 Mon
  Hi,
  my name is Melissa and i have a problem.I do so good in school.I make alot of awards and hounor rolls.I always get straight A's.anyways, I'm only 12 years old and I have so much feelings about my cousin Nigel. I'm in love. But the real problem is that he is my cousin
  

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  • Re: I'm in love with my cousin -- David, 00:27:30 08/29/02 Thu
  
  
• Does he like me -- Sheila, 06:09:36 04/01/02 Mon
  Dear Elisha,
  
  My name is Sheila. I’m a 19 years old girl from Holland. My English is not perfect but I try to make it understandable to you.
  I really hope you can help me and give me advice.
  
  It’s a long story,,, but please read it. It will take 2 hours of your time and I can imagine that you have a busy day and that you might not have much time, but please read it and give me your advise.
  
  My problem is about this guy I know. It’s a long story,, but I have to tell you everything otherwise you might not understand everything. Maybe at some points you will think why does she want me to know those things and why does she mention that??? Well, I just want you to have the feeling that you know the details and that you know everything, so that you can help me even better.
  
  It’s like this:
  About 6 months ago I was at college and 1 day I noticed a boy looking at me. When I looked up to him, he looked the other way and this happened many times. I started to like him too. Since that day and further I knew he liked me(at least I thought that he liked me).anyways…
  This eye contact thing went on for weeks and weeks…almost every time we saw each other we had eye contact, even if it was for just a second. And usually we saw each other at the break. If I sat somewhere for instance he tried to sit somewhere around/ near me(but not close). Somewhere where he could see me. He never sat with his back to me if he had the choice. I did the same. And almost every time when he wanted to leave,, he looked back for just a second, just checking if I’m watching his direction or not(and I did). This went on and on and on….in a word we had eye contact almost all the time. But we didn’t smile at each other or make any gestures or anything like that. We just looked at each other.(I think in fact that we looked serious to each other).
  I liked him very very much and I had the feeling that he liked me too. I had told my friend about my feelings for this guy and she knew everything that was going on. I wanted so much to talk to him , just make a conversation. And I wouldn’t do anything also, cuz I think that’s up to a boy to make a move and hey he probably didn’t like me, he just liked watching…….. But I couldn’t understand why he didn’t make any move towards me, why he didn’t come and talk to me, why he didn’t try a thing. It made me crazy, cuz I thought, well, he probably doesn’t like me, if he did, hey would have tried something by now! He has had many opportunities. I mean now it was 2 months later or so…anyways…my friend had an idea. She said: well I’m gonna talk to him, just for you, I’m gonna start a conversation, is that all right? Well, shall I? First I said nooooo, don’t, I will be so embarrassed if u do that, and he’ll think that I told you to do that, but later I thought, why not, I have to give this a try, and I have to find out he likes me or not. I just needed to know that…
  Well, 1 day we were sitting there and then he came with his friends. They went and sat to the table next to us. And my friend said, shall I? Shall I? I don’t know I said, no, let him, never mind, if he wanted something he would have tried, but in my hart I wanted her to speak to him. Well my friend did it anyways, she knew me and she knew I wanted it. So she started with talking. She said: hey, where do you come from? (By the way my friend and I are from Persia and that boy is Kurdish from Iraq), he looked at her and said: from Pakistan (as a joke)
  Later he said, no, I’m just kidding, I’m from Iraq but I’m Kurdish bla bla bla. And so they started a conversation. I couldn’t open my mouth. I just couldn’t say anything. Most of the time I looked somewhere else. I couldn’t look at him or do anything. By the way he didn’t either. He almost never looked at me or talked to me or anything. He just answered to my friends questions.
  She asked him how old he was, he answered (20 at that time, now he’s 21) and then he asked her age and mines. She asked him about everything, his name, his homework, his friends who were sitting next to him, which year he was, about everything. It was actually kinda funny… by the way we do the same study (computer science) and we’re both starting on the first year. Anyways…
  Well days passed on and after that day, the eye contact thing became less, I don’t know why, I think we were both a little embarrassed or something, or maybe he didn’t like me anymore. I don’t know.
  Well, my good friend tried many times to come in touch with him, if she saw him walking somewhere, she called him and talked to him, just for me, he was very polite, he always answered to her questions, but I never opened my mouth, like always I stood there but looked somewhere else. I don’t know, but I thought, no, don’t talk to him, don’t look at him when your friend is talking to him, don’t do this. Don’t do that, cuz he might think you like him and that you you’re like a dog following him and that you teach your friend, say this to him, say that to him…and of course I was shy. But that’s soooooo strange, I’m never shy, but around him I was… That’s why I didn’t do anything. And of course that thought in my mind that he might not like me.
  But I think he never liked me, I think I was just blind to see the reality. So many times he had the chance to talk to me when no one was around, so many times, I did something to be just near him, but he usually ignored me/ us (friend too). I just didn’t understand. Why did he do that? Why?? If he didn’t like me then why eye contact for such a long time…I just didn’t understand, but I couldn’t forget him, it was so difficult, I saw him almost every day and that made it even more difficult…. the eye contact thing was over actually.
  This went on, later, much later (1 month or maybe 2 months later) we had class and we went and sat in the class. We were at the wrong class but we didn’t know. And suddenly he came in. It was his class. He looked very surprised when he saw us. And of course he was, cuz we didn’t belong in his class. Anyways in that class the teacher had formed a square with the tables, so all the tables where next to each other. Next to me, there were like 3 chares untaken. He came and sat next to me (he sat on the left side, my friend on the right side). During the lesson we started talking and it went very well, and I started to like him even more. We talked about the lesson, about Persian music, about talking Dutch. Just everything. When he came and sat next to me, he said, hello, what do you 2 doing here? I said: well, taking grammar lessons, he laughed and said this is not the grammar lesson. Then we knew we were at the wrong class. So that’s actually how we started talking. And my friend knew I wanted to talk to him so she didn’t interrupt and talked to girl next to her. It was so great talking to him and he was so nice and gentle. That moment I had the feeling that he really liked me, cuz every time I said something to my friend or to the teacher he looked at me and I don’t know I just had that strong feeling….
  It’s so strange , 1 day I had the feeling, no he doesn’t like me cuz he did this and that, another day I have the strong feeling that he liked me, cuz he did bla bla bla…. But you know he’s so strange, 1 day he’s so nice and says hello to me the other day he acts that he doesn’t see me. Why???
  Well I don’t know after that moment it went better or not. At that moment I thought it went better, but now looking back, maybe I saw things that weren’t there. I don’t know.
  Oh 1 day, I went to the lady’s room and when I came back I saw my friend and G (that guy) talking. I joined them. Like always I was quiet. And I don’t remember exactly what they were talking about, but I guess school. Well, my friend had once asked him if she could use his cell phone to send a message to here friend…. And he said first why don’t u use the Internet, why do you wanna send it with my cell phone? (If u send a message to a person, the person will see the phone number of the person who send it), so I said laughing, well, he doesn’t want to give you his cell phone, cuz then his number will be shown. He said no, no, that’s not it. anywayz he gave her his cell phone…well that day when I came back from the lady’s room, he kinda brought that up. I don’t know what happened exactly, but suddenly he said smiling to my friend: yeah, just admit that you wanted to have my number, yeah just admit. And my friend said, hey G, if we wanted to have your number we would have just asked, that’s not true. He said something like, yea yea ok, and he left.
  Well I had told my mother all this, and I asked for her advice. I told her that I liked him very much and the things he had said or done… my mother said do you really, really like him. I said yes. She said: well then he probably likes you too. What makes you say that I said? She said: well most of the time (but not always of course) if you like someone that someone likes you too. If you don’t like someone that person probably doesn’t like you. It’s like an invisible connection. Not only if you have a crush on someone, but in general, with the people you meet every day…. I also told her about that he had said to my friend, yeah admit that you want to have my number… I asked why did he say that???? She thought for a while and said well; maybe he likes your friend. But why did he always look at ME and smile at ME and not at her??? I don’t know she said…she said: well maybe he wanted to start the conversation this way. He says that, hoping you would react and say: yea yea yea I like you….maybe that was it. She asked me how long he’s been living in Holland. I said 5(by the way I’ve been living in Holland for 9 years). I knew that it was 5 ,cuz my friend had asked him that at that very first conversation. Anywayz…. my mom said, well, he had been living most of his live in Iraq, he’s been living in an other culture, where it’s not so self-evident that a boy goes to a girl and starts talking and where it maybe isn’t so self-evident that boys and girls have contact or have a relationship if they’re not married or something like that. He’s not like the dutch boys, who will show immediately to a girl, I like you and try something. He only lives 5 years in Holland, he is not like the other boys from Asia who have been living here their whole life and grown up with this culture when it comes to the issue boyfriend/ girlfriend. I said, yea maybe you’re right…. we’ll see. I also told my mother that he barely looks at me or talks to me and that he talks to my friend and looks at her and jokes with her, like he knows her for years and when he talks to me, if he does, he is serious. My mom said well, maybe he’s just shy, cuz shy people can talk and joke and be comfortable with people they don’t feel attractive to and are not in love with. But with the people they’re in love with and like they can’t talk or do something. Maybe that is it.
  I told my mom that I was very shy around him and that he also didn’t say a thing. My mom said well, maybe he’s shy. I said, why wasn’t he shy telling, yeah just admit that you wanna have my number??? Why had he the courage to say that??? But not talking to me??
  My mom said that I shouldn’t be shy and just talk to him start an conversation and ask him to go and grab a bite somewhere or anything. I said noooooo, I will never do that. I will be so embarrassed if I do. I’m not like dog following him.
  But from that moment I tried not to be so shy cuz I’m never shy and be cheeky like I always am. So one day I saw him in the hallway and I pointed with my finger to him to come to me… something that I didn’t expect actually of my self…he did come… that day I had brought my laptop with me to college. He said: you bought a laptop? I was listening to Persian music and, when he entered the room he heard the music. He said, heyyyyy that song!!!!,, and sat next to me (there was a chair next to me). What else do you have? I showed him, anywayz he must leave, cuz he had class and we said goodbye.
  But he’s so strange, like I said 1 day he’s nice and everything, the next day acts like I don’t exist. I saw him 1 day sitting in a classroom working. I was busy somewhere else with my homework. I didn’t understand it quit well. I thought, what the hell, I just go and ask him to help me. And I did. I went to him, I said hello, he looked at me and the very quick he looked back at his computer and said almost unintelligible hi. I said, sorry to disturb you, but I don’t quit understand this, do you have the answers for me, so that I can look at the answers and maybe that’ll help? He looked at my book and said very quickly and again unintelligible, here first you have to do this bla bla. He was so dry and so indifferent, like he didn’t care I was talking to him and it was like he wish that I was gone. At some point I had the feeling that he was emberessed for his friends that he was talking to me. I don’t know, I didn’t wanna stay there for a second any more. I said, well, never mind, I see that you’re busy with your own homework, I shall go and don’t disturb you. Yes he said…oh I was soooo angry with my self…. How could I be so stupid to believe that he liked me.??? He only likes watching girls and give them the feeling, I like you….. I was so angry and hurt at that moment…. but I just couldn’t get him off my mind and I still can’t acctualy. After everything I still like him.
  This whole story may sound a stupid story to you and my problem may sound a problem that’s not important, cuz after all, there are so many people with much bigger and more important problems that when you compare it to my problem, my problem means nothing. I know that, but this is MY problem and it’s making me crazy.
  I don’t know why bust sometimes when I saw him I smiled at him and he smiled back. It’s simple, I still like him…. And sometimes when I smiled to him or something liked that he came to me and asked about the homework and stuff. (But not always, like I said some days he acted like he didn’t see me, strange, very strange) Well, usually when I’m working and I don’t have class I sit in a little room doing my homework on my laptop with Persian music on the background (on my laptop). So he knew I liked music and stuff. 1 day after smiling at him he came to me and started a conversation and at one point he said, I have a CD-Rom of Persian music, do you want me to bring that to school sometime so you can copy it to your laptop. Yes I said, very much. He said ok, I’ll take it along with me tomorrow.
  That next day we didn’t see each other. But the day after that we did. He came out of the computer classroom and I happened to meet him when he came outside. We said hi and stuff, and started talking and after a couple of minutes he said, by the way I’ve brought that CD-Rom for you. Great I said, well I’m here at the 6th floor the whole day, so if you don’t have class you can find me somewhere here. Ok he said. But you know what strucks me now, looking back at that moment, that while we were talking our distance became more and more, at that point when he I said I am at the 6th floor he already was 5 meters away. I don’t know why this happened. Cuz I liked to be near him. Anyways
  Well that day I was working and he came in and gave me the CD-Rom. And he took a seat. Suddenly we had to go to another room cuz a teacher wanted to use that room. So I grabbed my stuff and we went upstairs to another room. My friend wasn’t there at that time; she knew I rather wanted to be alone with him. So there we were, alone, in that room, it was quiet for a while, but later on we started talking about everything. Our classmates, teachers, music.
  Well at some point (I don’t exactly remember all the details) but suddenly (oh by the way I live on my own, cuz the train distance from my parents house to college is too much) he knew that, he had asked me and my friend once where do you live and stuff) anywayz, suddenly he said: you live alone huh? No boyfriend? No husband? I said no, thank goodness, but I thought he asked you live alone, not with other roommates, and here in Holland is it possible that students share a house or room together. Well I misunderstood him, so I said, no thank goodness. And he looked surprised and he blushed and looked quick to the computer not to me, and asking thank goodness? Why do u day that? I said, well I’m only 19 years old; I don’t wanna get married now. He said but do u wanna have a boyfriend? I didn’t expect that question at all!!! I didn’t know what to say, I was thinking when he asked does your mom allow you to have a boyfriend? My mom? Yes she does, she doesn’t have problems with that. But I have never had a relationship with someone. He said, that’s good, keep it that way. And I'm not that kind of girl that has another boyfriend every day you know. He said yea I understand, you’re right.
  Later my friend came in and said: do I interrupt? He smiled and said yes. Oh she said and she went. Why did she went he said. I didn’t mean that, I was just kidding. I don’t know I said, she probably had class or something. And later when he saw her, he said, why did u leave, you weren’t interrupting, we weren’t learning or something like that.
  Later that day we happened to see each other again. It was 4 pm, he wasn’t gone home yet cuz he had class at 5:30 so did we (same class we thought we had grammar lessons)
  He came towards us and asked what we were doing and we said we have to find a teacher to say that we take the same lessons as you, cuz our lessons are on Tuesday and we can’t on Tuesday anymore cuz we have an other class. We have to go to the other side of the building now. We walked together (my friend, he, I) to the elevator. I asked him, what are u going to do till 5: 30. He said, I think I’m gonna go for a walk outside. The elevator came and while we were stepping in my friend said in Persian go along with him! I said sssshhh, he can understand Persian, don’t say…. (We had found out that he could understand some Persian, cuz he told so him self, at least he said I can understand very very little bit. but when I told my mom that, she said, no he’s playing. He can understand Persian perfectly, maybe not all, but 80% of it. Cuz I told my mom that he had said that he listens to Persian music and his grandparents can talk Persian and he has been in Iran once, I told this all to my mom, and my mom said, well then of course he can understand Persian, if someone doesn’t understand a language they won’t listen to the music and they certainly won’t know the singers. Cuz he did know the singers, once we were talking he named all of them. And now looking back that day we were talking about singers he actually sang the chorus of a song.
  My mom said of course he didn’t say to you, yea I can understand Persian; he liked to act like he only understood couple of words. You 2 have been talking Persian about him huh, when he was around or next to you. Yes I said. My mom laughed and said, he liked that, you 2 talking about him and he could understand everything, if he would say, yeah I do understand, you 2 wouldn’t talk anymore!
  Oh my god… so embarrassing , many times we were near him where he could hear us and talking about him in Persian!!!And all that time he could understand everything and he acted like he didn’t know… ohhhh
  So, from that day we were careful about talking Persian when he was around, but that particular day my friend was forgotten about it.
  Well, anywayz I said, shhhh, don’t say, he can understand… like always he acted like he didn’t know what she had said. We stepped in and my friend said: hey do u understand Persian. Yes he said, a little. She said: did u understand what I just told her. He said: yea something like, go along with him. She nodded. I was looking at the ground…. I was sooo embarrassed…. We stepped out ,we started walking and my friend started saying: well, can we come?? He smiled. My friend said: if u don’t us wanna come, just say ok? So what is it?? And he didn’t say much, just laughing actually. But later he said, I am just going outside bla bla. and at a point I said smiling to my friend: let him, maybe he doesn’t want us to come. He laughed and said smiling: don’t interfere; I’m talking to her. Well, we were downstairs at the ground –floor. We stopped for a moment cuz at that moment we had to go upstairs at the other side of the building and like he said he wanted to go outside. He said: you 2 have to go upstairs? We nodded, he said, I first gonna buy some food maybe I see you when I come back. Ok we said, and said good-bye.
  We went upstairs and looked for the teacher and we now wanted to go downstairs. We were waiting for the elevator. As we stood there, my friend said, hey maybe we can see him from here, I said no, he’s probably gone already, if he wanted us to come he would have said. My friend looked and said, hey, look, he’s sitting there, waiting for us!! I couldn't believe what she was saying, but it was true, he was sitting there waiting with his hands in his pockets. I was so happy, oh I like him so much, I like him so much, I said to my friend, and I could see on her face that she hadn’t expect this either. We went to him, and he smiled, I didn’t actually, I was sooo nervous. We went outside. He asked where do you wanna go? I said, I don’t know, shall we go to the mall? And we went to the mall.
  Oh my god ,on the way, every time my friend walked next to him (in the middle) she stepped back and let me walk next to him and then she came walking next to me. She did this every time! It was so embarrassing for me. Cuz I didn’t want him to know that I liked him, maybe he didn’t like me I thought, you never know, and now he will think that I teach my friend to do things like this… and many times she pushed me with her hips to him.ooooohhh…but I know she did it just for me, she’s so nice. At that moment I was like, stop!! Please stop!! And he saw everything, I saw him looking, he saw her pushing me, he saw her moving places that I could walk next to him, but he acted like he didn’t know anything.
  Anywayz, we were at the mall, after walking some time, he asked to us: Are u thirsty? I said no, my friend said yes. So we went to drink something. He asked us what we would like to drink. I said coke, and he asked to my friend what does the little child want? (As a joke) cuz my friend sometimes acts like a child just for fun, not that she is still a child or something.
  When he came toward us with the coke he smiled at me and I smiled back.
  He bought us coke and said go and take a seat, he ordered and paid for it. We talked, actually they talked, I didn’t say much, about hobbies, school and stuff, he almost never looked at me or asking me something, well neither did I. He and my friend were talking and if she told something, he asked her about that and stuff. At one point, my friend said: enough about me, why don’t you two talk?? What do I have to say, I said? Well what are your hobbies? You know that I said. No I don’t ,tell us… I knew she wanted me to talk, but I was like, oh please stop, I’m embarrassed. And I said in Persian to her I am so embarrassed. And she translated it for him and said she’s a little embraced. He smiled.
  We went together to class and set next to each other. That day was the time being the last day we saw each other, cuz it was Christmas holidays.
  2 weeks I didn’t see him, I went crazy, I told my mom, and I was so excited about everything. And she was glad that I wasn’t as shy as first…. I thought well, maybe, something will happen, if he didn’t like me, he wouldn’t go with us to the mall, cuz then he would give the wrong impression and guys don’t want to give the wrong impression to girls they don’t like, do they?? Al these questions kept me busy and I couldn’t wait till I could go to college again and see him.
  I never had felt this way for any boy in my life. And like I said I never had an relationship. I think that an relationship is only useful if the girl and the boy have future plans and love each other and wanna marry. And since I knew I wouldn’t marry 1 of those guy I had met, I never gave any of them the impression that I liked them and I wasn’t in love with them. And never wanted a relationship with someone. But now I had for the first time the feeling that it might be him, the one I’m going to marry, the true love…I was in love with him. But I guess I was living in a fairytale.
  After the holidays I had the feeling that everything was different. He saw me couple of times but acted like I wasn’t there and that he didn’t see me. I was very disappointed… I just didn’t understand. Why is he like this?? My friend wanted to comfort me and said: well, maybe he was in a hurry, or maybe his was working about a project with his friends and he couldn’t just leave them.
  Many times I looked for a second his direction, sometimes in his eyes, to see if he was looking to me, but no, he wasn’t looking. It happened once that he kinda hided himself behind 1 of his friends so that I couldn’t see him and he couldn’t see me. It was very strange and I just couldn’t understand, even till now…
  Sometimes I tried to be alone, I thought maybe then he will have the courage to come to me and talk. But no, he didn’t, he didn’t even say hi…. And most of the time that he did say hi, he said it to my friend and if he wanted to ask something he asked it to her! Well, maybe he DID like her…. I mean that’s the only solution…. There were many times that he could walk with us to the train station, cuz all 3 of us have to go the same direction, but he didn’t. He had so many chances to do something, to say something. Yeah sometimes he did say something to me, but I don’t know, maybe he did that out of politeness. Like 1 day, I was sitting alone somewhere; my friend was going to check her mail. Before that I saw him downstairs and he saw us and smiled to me and I smiled back. He’s so strange, why is he like this, 1 moment smiling and talking the other moment avoiding me??? Anyways, I was sitting alone there, and suddenly I saw someone outside behind the window watching my direction, I looked closer and I recognised him. The distance was big, but I could still recognize him. Yes he was talking with his cell phone and he was walking up and down. And sometimes he looked my direction. I acted like I didn’t saw him. Suddenly I saw him coming my way, I looked the other way, like I don’t know your coming. And I didn’t want to give him the impression that I was happy that he was coming to me. And besides I was still kinda mad and hurt about the way he had treated me. Anyways he cam to me and asked: may I sit here? Sure. We started talking.
  Now I really didn’t understand, if he didn’t like me why should he come to me and talk??? I don’t know, probably out of politeness I guess.
  
  Now it’s 6 moths from the very first day me had eye contact… the last weeks he’s kinda normal. He says hello every time and acts normal. But after an event that happened I am trying to forget him. This is how it went:
  He had given me that CD-Rom once with the Persian music, my laptop had a technical problem and the hardware had to be deleted, so were the songs. So I told my friend would you please ask him if he wants to bring it with him once more? She said do you wanna come with me, I said, no, no, you go alone (I thought he doesn’t like me, why bother him,) I just wanted that CD-Rom and I don’t wanna give him the impression that I’m after him or something like that, or that this is an excuse for me to talk to him. So my friend went to his room and after couple of minutes she came back. He said he will come here in a second.
  Well he came, he was very nice and gentle. We agreed to see each other Tuesday at the break. And my friend said: where exactly are you then? Otherwise we have to search for you everywhere. He thought for a while and repeated twice: where am usually at the break, where am I usually at the break (looking back I think it was just an act!!), and then he said to my FRIEND: well, I can give you my number, so that you can call me and ask where I am at that moment. I was like, I wanna die, he’s flirting with my friend in front of me ……
  And then he says to her: only if you wanna have my number of course. I wanted to dieeeeee. Why, why did he say that??? So, he likes my friend, oh my god, al those girls and he chooses my friend, at that moment I felt so stupid, all that time, he didn’t like me, he liked my friend, while I was thinking, ooooh he was looking at me, ooooh he talked to me, ooh this, oh that.
  I was very upset that day. Later I told my friend that I was very upset about it and that there’s something on my mind what I wanna tell her, but I can’t, cuz I feel so sad and stupid.
  I said it’s about G. She said actually, I have to tell you something also, but I don’t know how to start. And then she said it. She said: I think that G likes me. I said yes, I think that too, I wanted to talk about you about the same thing. She said, actually I had this feeling for a while, but I didn’t have the courage to tell you. It would seem so arrogant, like, hey G doesn’t like you, he likes me, like I think that all the boys fall for me. And I wasn’t 100% sure of it, but after that day I was. Do you know why I did think that? Cuz every time ,he talked to me and joked with me, and he tried to walk next to me, every time I came walking next to you, he later on came walking on my side. And now my number….
  I said: yes I know. But why didn’t u tell me before, then I would stopped acting so stupid, thinking that he likes me, all that time I had my thoughts of course but I had had always the strong feeling that he might like me. Cuz I thought about everything that had happened and then thought, well, if he didn’t like me why did he do that, and why did he smile and I don’t know, everything. But after that day, I felt so blind and stupid…..
  I was glad that we could share our feelings with each other and that we were honest to each other. But I felt miserable. At night all the memories came back, all the things he had done, and now it seemed all so meaningless. After all ,I thought, he didn’t mean anything by all those things, all that time he liked my friend. I thought: Of course he didn’t look at me or talk to me when my friend was around and of course he talked to her and looked to her and asked her questions. Cuz he likes HER!!
  But I accepted it. I mean he has the choice to fall in love with every girl he likes. He’s not obligated to me or to anyone to like me if he doesn’t. Though it was very difficult and it still is.
  By the way that Tuesday my friend called him up to ask him where he was. It turned out to be a wrong number. She called me up and said: he has given me the wrong number! I said are you sure? Maybe you have written down the wrong number. Later she said to him, hey you have given me the wrong number and he said no, I didn’t. He showed his number and it turned out that my friend had written down the last figure wrong.
  He said to her: check it, call to me now and hang op. she did. And guess what? Her number was shown on his cell phone. She said: oh ,I didn’t want you to see my number. I was totally forgotten that my number would be shown. He smiled and asked to her: what’s your name, what’s your name. She said: hello, wake up, my name is Sara, remember, and he typed in Sara. So now he had her phone number. And I was like; I don’t want to be here, how could he do this. On purpose!!! I think he asked on purpose, check it, so, that she would call, and of course he would see her number, cuz she hadn’t turned of the number narrator of the cell phone. My friend thought he had done it on purpose also.
  But till to day he has never called her, or sent her any messages.
  He’s kinda normal now. He says hello when he sees me or us. But I have never understand the things he has done and I don’t think I ever will…. if I did it would be easier for me to forget everything and move on.
  But I have moved on now. Of course I thing about him sometimes and he’s in my dreams sometimes…
  But I don’t know I still have the feeling that maybe he does like me, if he did like my friend why didn’t he call her by now or say something to her? But then, if he does like me why didn’t he say something to me???
  I don’t know , but I have to say that when a guy likes me or likes my friend I immediately notice that by the things he says or does. And my friend knows that about me too. I have told her many times that guy likes you I think. And she says, come one, dream on, what makes you think that, well I say, the things he have said, the way he looks at you, the feeling that I have. Later it always turns out that I was right. And then she laughs and says: wow, yes you were right.
  But this time I really don’t know. Well maybe I do, but I’m hoping for a miracle or I’m just blind to see and admit it. But that’s not me. I’m the kind of person who will accept the reality like it is and will find a way to move on. I just wish that he liked me, but everybody has wishes, right?
  I still see him often, and I’m not shy anymore, cuz I’m like, he doesn’t like me, so why to be shy ,he doesn’t pay attention to me, but to my friend and I know him for like 6 months now, I’m not shy anymore. But in my heart I hope that I’m wrong…cuz I think if he didn’t like me then why did he………………………………
  
  Please give me your advice, was he just playing with me, with us??
  Or did he like me and maybe now he don’t?? Or never liked me?? Or does he still like me??
  Can you explain it to me? My email address is: somebody335@hotmail.com… I hope that you send me an email. I truly do.
  
  Maybe he’s different than the other boys and maybe it will work out someday???
  But if it does, shall I go on with this??? Is he a good guy, or does he do this with every girl
  
  Ps: I have to admit that he has been very polite always,
  I have talked to my friend and she is very honest and she said that she doesn’t like him and I believe her.
  I always see it in the eyes of a guy if he likes me or not. Cuz if they do like a girl the eyes are different when they talk to her and they change when they talk to someone else. Like they shine or smile at me. I had this feeling with this guy also, but then, maybe, I was in love and wanted to believe that and only thought that? But then,, I am a person who will accept things the way they are. But if he liked me why hasn’t he done anything by now??
  
  
  I thank you for your time and I hope that you can help me. I really hope you will…
  
  
  Yours sincerely,
  Sheila
  

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• heartbroken,one too many times -- Kim, 18:56:08 05/21/01 Mon
  hello,im just desperately seeking some kind of grip on something solid. Im 32yrs old with 3children. im in love with someone who i never thought i would be.Im thinking this is some kind of pay back for all the ones i've hurt in my lifetime.which i would call Puppylove. Well,this man claimed he loved me more than life itself. Until one day,he fooled around on me and claimed because we fought too much.well, i keep taking him back because i love him.but i dont trust him at all, and i dont believe a word he says.What do i do?I know it will never be the same again. But im still in love with him and there is stability in there for me. i want to let him go but my heart wont.He does not insure me that it wont happen again. i need to get on with my life,and i dont know how to? please help me with some advise....desperately awaiting an answer.....(by the way,i dont have children with him.)he has 2kids of his own also. the kids is all good.they are not involved at all.thank you.
  

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• Heart Broken -- Andrew Tegala, 02:56:19 08/16/02 Fri
  I have been in a relationship with a beautiful girl (Miss L) for 3 years. It was a week to go, before it would have been 3 years and 6 months.
  
  I went to see her on Tuesday (5th Aug) and she said she had fallen out of love with me. I don't know what to do. I am devastated and confused. I know that we hadn't seen much of each other recently but I was making an effort to change that. She is off on holiday tomorrow (Monday 12th) and I am hoping that the following happens.
  
  
  
  She will see other couples on holiday and miss me. More importantly she will miss what we had and want to get back with me when she gets back.
  
  Of course, the fool that I am, I have taken the rejection badly and last night, tried to meet up. I was told that I aws crowding her and that she needed space. I have apologised for my actions, and told her to forget all about it. I told her to enjoy her holiday, have a great time and that I would see her afterwards.
  
  What should I do? I now have around 20 days to build up my self-esteem. I am busy, so will not be sitting at home moping. I have friends that listen to me and cheer me up when I go and see them.
  
  Has anyone, been in a similar situation? How did it work out for you? Do I have a good chance of winning her back? How should I approach her when she gets back from holiday? Methods which will lead me to success?
  
  This is hurting me very badly, as I am quite lonely and isolated at the moment. Your advice would be much appreciated!
  
  You know when you have that feeling deep inside that this special someone, is the ONE. The one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Well this is how I feel for this young lady!
  
  Well we are both 20 years old and we got together at during our first year at college, back in 1999. We have been through a lot together. We go to different universities in the same city. While at University our relationship took a big leap, and we were practically living together. Although, of course we had our space when we needed it.
  
  It is really hard. For both of us, this is our first serious relationship and although I understand that you should have new experiences with new people. I believe deep down inside that even she knows that what we have (had) she will never be able to have with someone else. Of course, I wouldn't want a relationship with someone who didn't love me back, but I am sure she does.
  
  I am trying to keep myself busy, but most of my friends are either very far from my home town or on holiday. I am in the third year of my degree, which involves a sandwich placement.
  
  The other thing is, when I went to see her, on Tuesday last week. I sensed that this was really the end because she talked about giving all my stuff (clothes and little things) back to me and arranging this. Plus, also the diamond ring which I had bought for her on our first Christmas together (quite expensive). Well she has degraded it to a 'friendship' ring, but she is still going to wear it so that means that she still has me in her heart. Plus, she also said that she would keep a photograph of me. She says that she is to blame for the relationship going off the rails. She has fallen out of love with me. Now, come on, after 3 and half years, you can't simply fall out of love with someone. I know that she needs time to think, space, to relax and that hopefully she will come back.
  
  I thought the picture was perfect. I had just bought a new car, new job, money and my beautiful girlfriend. I was at a point in my life where I could say, "I've made it! I've achieved!"
  
  I am a true gentleman, and although I will meet girls no problem. I don't want to take it any further. Although L is on holiday, I know that she will too not 'pull' any blokes because that will confuse her further. Although she will meet new ladz, she is on holiday with her family, not her friends.
  
  Just to keep you updated on the situation and on my progress.
  Call one of my friends from Uni, who is quite close to Laura. We chatted for about 30 minutes, and I must say I felt a lot better after being on the phone and speaking.
  
  I woke up this morning, not feeling the great. But I switched on my phone and to my delight, L has sent me text at 23:57 just before she was about to board the plane. It read:
  
  "Have a good 2 weeks. See you when I get back :0)"
  
  So... what does this mean? She is obviously missing me, thinking about me! Any advice, whether to forget it or to persue would be greatly appreciated.
  
  How should I approach contacting her when she gets back? I don't want to be in her face straight away... and although I would like to send flowers and stuff, I think it would best not to.
  

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• Am I crazy -- Without, 20:57:32 08/14/02 Wed
  I have been with R for 5 years. He was two timing for the first 11/2 years and severly deceived me. After I found out he said he stopped sleeping with her although she said they didn't. He continued to go to her house until she moved out of town recently. He gets really angry with me and says that because I continue to bitch about it has lost desire for me. He is 50 yrs old. In the past 3 years we have hardly had any sex. He seems to still have an eye for women we see on the street but tells me he has no desire for anyone. I am jealous of every woman that he comes in contact with and believe he had more than just an affair with his so called ex. She feels as tho I took him from her and therefore believe she would do whatever she could to destroy our relationship. He says she is saying that to cause problems between us. I have gotten really upset for him going there but he says he isn't doing anything wrong. Just doing things to make his daughters life easier. The not knowing the truth is killing me but I have no proof. She has moved away now and there is a difference in him. He says because the pressure is off. I have asked what pressure but he says lets get over the past.
  How can I get to the truth? I know it appears as though he was guilty but he swears he stopped. She told a mutual friend it only takes 5 min of him being there for her to get him in bed. He shows no iterest in bed to me. I wish I knew what she did if it is true. How can I find out the truth? Is it me he is not intrested in or is it true that he has lost desire in general and it is nothing personal towards me. I am too jealous to live with my self. Help me please
  

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• lonely and confused -- Darren, 16:20:47 08/07/02 Wed
  i was going with this girl for nine months,we argued a lot but or relationship was happy and fun loving without the arguements.we broke up four weeks ago cause she said i was jealous.i amit i can be some times.im now going to counselling to deal with that.this girl has been to my house my sisters house at a party all with me since we broke up.we still phone each other and speak for hours.nearly every secound day.ive been to her house and we have been out for a drink together.i ask her does she still care for me and she says she does.when i ask if she still loves me she says she does but that dont mean anything.i ask does she miss me and the answer i get is i dont know i dont think so,she wants me there but when i ask about us going back out together she says no.i love and miss this girl very much and want her back,why does she phone me,invite me to her house but does not want a relationship with me.i,m so confused please help.
  

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• Masterbating -- Nothing, 20:59:05 08/13/02 Tue
  How does a man masturbate? I've tried a lot but it doesn't work! NEED HELP!!!
  

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• Stressed Life -- Sujatha, 07:36:52 08/13/02 Tue
  My date of birth is January 16th 1974.I have been undergoing bad and stressed life with my husband from past 7 years.When will I get rid of him...When will I get divorce?I am interested in my doctor?Is he interested in me or not..I don't know?i would like to know whether the doctor will get back to me and make longterm relationship with me or not?
  

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• I'm in love with my cousin -- Melissa, 20:12:10 08/12/02 Mon
  Hi,
  my name is Melissa and i have a problem.I do so good in school.I make alot of awards and hounor rolls.I always get straight A's.anyways, I'm only 12 years old and I have so much feelings about my cousin Nigel. I'm in love. But the real problem is that he is my cousin
  

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• Two stubborn, BUT willing people trying to make it work -- lesle, 23:05:01 08/03/02 Sat
  I'm 23 and engaged to a wonderful man who has given me a beautiful little boy. Things between us are great most of the time, until we feel threatened by something and then we 'clam' up and start arguing. We are both alike in every way... insecure and scared to commit fully for fear that we might get hurt (we know toooo much about each others pasts).
  
  We both get to a point (after an argument) were we agree that we'll stop doing what ever it is that is causing these stupid arguments. A couple days or weeks go by and everything is fine until... it happens all over again.
  
  I don't know what to do. It's ruining our relationship and we both know that we are soul mates.
  
  What can we do to break this everlasting cycle?
  

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• Can't figure it out -- Mac, 15:14:44 08/03/02 Sat
  I am 21 and from the way women treat me I seem to be above average in attractiveness. It is not uncommon for a woman to give me her phone number, but it has been a while since I have been in a relationship. Sometimes when I call then will say they are busy, but to call some other time. I'll call back and no one will pick up enough times for me to realize that they are avoiding me, so of course I stop calling. I suspect that this might be "playing hard to get," but I am not sure how to deal with this. Some of these women I never see again. This has happened with the last four women I have persued and is a major obstacle for me in my love life.
  

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• the case of the X -- maeve, 16:24:01 08/02/02 Fri
  hey elisha!
  sup girl well i got a problum that i need you to try to halp me out wit. k well my Ex and i have been broken up for about 4 moonths now.and we went out for about a year and a half.i kinda stole him from his girl friend but after we broke up he went back to her cuz she "changed" but she hasent to any one else but to him.and he like says stuff now that makes me think that he never really loved me but if he so anoyed and fed up with me why dousen he still call to hang out?jsut cuz he still wants sex form me thats why! well what shoudl i do i want him to realize what hes doin and that he needs to stop im nto his play toy he left me and it lsike he dousent want me but he dousent want any oe else to either and his gilfriend is so messed up she dousent care bout himat all.what shoudl i do ignore him or what? i really need tyour help what is he trying to say?k thanx alot girl
  

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• the case of the X -- maeve, 16:19:24 08/02/02 Fri
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• HELP PLEASE!!!!! -- allana, 23:55:41 07/31/02 Wed
  I'm Allana, and is a girl who needs desperate help...so please help me.....anyone!
  I liked this guy for 2 years....he's 3 years older than me. I don't like him anymore....because I liked the other "him". He used to be kind, friendly, and always there if I ever needed to talk to someone about anything.
  We're both involved in the "performing arts industry". He's had everything fallen into his lap...4 musicals (pro. ones), all the girls etc. Because of that, he's all of a sudden got a huge head.
  He used to be all over me....giving me hugs, holding my hand etc (stuff b/f and g/f would do....except we weren't going out....just good mates)
  In this time...he went out with other girls and ignored me while he was, so I knew he didn't like me.
  Now....he's got a huge head, has gone all horney and is totally ignoring me....it's like its "been there done that with allana.....next"
  I just feel really mixed up because I liked the other side of him before any of this happened.
  Please help me....I don't know what to do and am very confused.
  I don't love "the new him" but still like him, hoping he'll change.....I'm confused. I knew it was love......maybe I was wrong.
  PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  

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• HELP PLEASE!!!!! -- Tori, 23:55:06 07/31/02 Wed
  I'm a girl who needs desperate help...so please help me.....anyone!
  I liked this guy for 2 years....he's 3 years older than me. I don't like him anymore....because I liked the other "him". He used to be kind, friendly, and always there if I ever needed to talk to someone about anything.
  We're both involved in the "performing arts industry". He's had everything fallen into his lap...4 musicals (pro. ones), all the girls etc. Because of that, he's all of a sudden got a huge head.
  He used to be all over me....giving me hugs, holding my hand etc (stuff b/f and g/f would do....except we weren't going out....just good mates)
  In this time...he went out with other girls and ignored me while he was, so I knew he didn't like me.
  Now....he's got a huge head, has gone all horney and is totally ignoring me....it's like its "been there done that with her.....next"
  I just feel really mixed up because I liked the other side of him before any of this happened.
  Please help me....I don't know what to do and am very confused.
  I don't love "the new him" but still like him, hoping he'll change.....I'm confused. I knew it was love......maybe I was wrong.
  PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  

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• Tell what can i do -- Nery, 10:07:25 07/26/02 Fri
  I have a boyfriend and i love him a lot.I think that he loves me too. He lives in another country,but we study in the same University .Befor a month he went back home.THen i knew that he is trying to win another girl`s heart by chance . shall i face him or not ,but if i do i can`t leave him cause i love him so much .
  tell me what to do,please.
  Nery
  

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• I am deep lust with a married guy!!!!!!!!help -- Amy, 19:25:23 07/17/02 Wed
  There is this guy i work with and he and i have been seeing each other for a month now and i really like him alot even too much for my own good the problem is he is married and his wife works here too i really wanna keep things as is but i want more what do i do?
  

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• I Need to know what to do !! -- Kris, 15:36:15 07/17/02 Wed
  Ok this is this girl i love so very very much and we went out for about a year and thenwe broke up but now i relize that she is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with, but now there is a problem she is getting mariied in october and she still loves me!!! what should i do???????????????????????????
  

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• HELP -- Rich, 07:40:42 07/16/02 Tue
  I have been with my fiancee for 5 years and we have lived together for 3. I am 22 and she is 21. On two seperate occasions I have had these feelings where I have been feeling that I wanted it to finish you know not want them to touch you end not talking much. When my fiancee ask me is there anyhthing I say no well last friday she said that she knew what was wrong as I was like this before and that it was over because she didn't want to be with someone who isn't sure which I can understand. however i know that if i want to we can give this another go but I can't make up me mind. I love her so much and and she is so stunning and very little faults but I am feeling like I need to do my own thing so I wont ring and sort it out. I am so un happy though my eyes feel like there are going to pop out of my head with stress and I have even got the odd chest pain though anxisety. I know you cannot tell me the answer but I need help I am a complete mess in my head and if I can't sort my self out I will loose her forever. Whats wrong with me !!!!!!
  

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• decisions -- Marcy, 13:21:52 07/12/02 Fri
  I don't know which guy to choose, one of them does drugs and is lazy and the other doesn't have any of those characteristics. I want to leave the one i'm with who has these faults and go with the other where I can see more of a future but I'm afraid to hurt people and I'm scared to leave what I have with him.
  
  I want to know what to do and make the right decision...I'm just scared of what the future will bring!
  

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• distant boyfriend -- samiie, 06:52:40 07/04/02 Thu
  my boyfriend of 4 years who i love very much is starting to show signs that he is not interested in me anymore. its just little things but its impossible to talk to him because he turns everything i say around and says "im being stupid" or "im trying to start a fight" im just waiting 4 the day when he tells me he wants out :(
  

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• I dont kno what to do -- BaByGuR858, 19:12:48 06/28/02 Fri
  I'm 14,and i live in NJ anywayss..
  I went out with this guy named David and we liked each other o lot, but one day i started liking him because i meet his cousin his cousin looked really good to me he looked better than David, but even tho David was still cute.
  I live in this house with appartments so i live in the 2nd floor and David lives in the 1st floor. One day his cousin came over and he started bothering like throwing grass at me looking at me in other words flirting!!!
  that made me notice him even more that same day David asked me what was wrong with me and i was so tire of hiding my feelings for his cousin that i told him " I like your cousin" anyways he just looked at me and seem really mad then i just went to my house.
  After that his cousin knew i like him. me and his cousin started having stuff because supposly he liked me but he didnt wanted David to know about this. months later his cousin (Chris) started treating like shitt i told him it was over becuz i didnt wanted him to treat me like this nemore so he told me that he never liked me and that he only wanted to fuck me or do stuff like this ...." Of course we didnt fuck" but that wat he told me then after like anothe month my friend told Chris that i had a boyfriend so one night i imed him on AOL and started talking he was aCting until he asked me what i did that day and i said i went to the movies so he started saying " Oh yeah u and ur stupid gey ass boyfriend i kno he probably a white skinny boy" so i got so so piss of wat he said i just sign off.
  Anyways months later we started talking again and he told me he liked me and that he thought i'm really cute i got really cuz i really like him a lot i still do. but i'm not really sure if i should cuz like two days ago he tols me he has a gurl and he tells me he doesnt want to be with me becuz he want s to used me or anything is becuz he really likes me but i dont believe him
  Oh please help me what should i do about this? and something else do you think he was jalous when he told me " oh yeah ur gey ass boyfriend"??????? And did i do wrong to go out with my ex cousin?????? if u answear email me HOTANGEL998@hotmail.com or Imed me on AOL BaByGuR858 thanxxxx
  

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• What should I do? -- Anna, 17:19:08 06/26/02 Wed
  Hi! My name is Anna. I am 14 years old. Here's my problem... I went out with this guy for about 4 months and during that time I fell in love with him,and we broke up twice during the 4 months we were together and it broke me in two! We became best friends after we broke up for good and we have been closer than ever.He got another girlfriend and it broke me apart even thougth we were best friends.He was also in love with this girl. I got over him finally and it made me so happy that I wasn't in love with him anymore. After him and his girlfriend broke up a couple of times we admitted to each other that we still liked each other and he told me he had always liked me and that he never got over me. So we went out again and thought it would be the same and a couple of days later he broke up with me and said it wasn't the same but i knew it was for his former girlfriend because he was still in love with her.About a month and a half later I was talking to a good friend of mine and she said "you will always love your first love" and I thought about it a couple of days later and I kne he was my first love and I realized my love for him never went away that it was just hiding o deep inside of me and I am still in love with him. Him and his former girlfriend broke up with him and he wanted to break up with her.I wrote him a long letter telling him how I feel about him.Everyone thinks he is absolutely crazy about me but I can't see it. Am I doing the right thing by telling him? Do you think we will have another chance at love? I hope because I love this boy with all my heart!!! Please tell me what I should do! PLEASE!
  

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• probablems -- tawyne, 12:55:08 06/25/02 Tue
  I really like this guy named Billy, but he is seing this girl named Val. i like him soo much that i would do anything for him! he is soo sweet and hes perfect for me.I even think i might be in love with him! he's what I think bout every day and every minute of my days. Sometimes i dont even think he notices me but then again sometimes he stares at me like im the only thing in the world, and when he talks to me he dosent pay attentio to anyone else, even if there talking to him. i feel like i should be the only for him but then again i want him to be happy, and if he dosent want me then i guess he's ahppy with val. it makes my stomach hurt every time i see them together, sometimes i juss want her dead, and it scares me how much i despise her. so what should i do?i cant just sit here and do something i might regret!please help me!!!
  

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• I'm really shy around this guy, jon, how do i get him to notice me more? -- Heather Devery, 14:49:01 06/21/02 Fri
  Ok, I really like this guy, his name is Jon, but when ever im around him I freak out and get shy... I want to know how I get him to notice me. We talk on AOL a lot but that is about it. im going to a camp in a couple weeks, then is when I plan to get confidence, but how do I do that? This camp will be the last time I see him 4 the rest of the summer! from, shy and confused...
  

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• I'm really shy around this guy, jon, how do i get him to notice me more? -- Heather Devery, 14:46:46 06/21/02 Fri
  ok, i really like this guy, his name is jon, but when ever im around him i freak out and get really shy... iwunt to know how i get him to notice me. we talk on aol a lot but thats about it. im going to a camp in a couple weeks, then is when i plan to get confadince, but how do i do that? this camp will be the last time i see him 4 the rest of the summer!
  

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• Love -- Leonore, 11:48:46 06/16/02 Sun
  There's this guy that i fancy and i don't if he fancies me or anything and i'm to shy to ask him and i just think it's stupid to ask a friend to go and even to ask him myself is stupid i just need help!!!
  

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• Im going to tell him -- Alicia, 13:03:24 06/13/02 Thu
  Hello,just wanna say,before i drone on about myself,well done to you on the site! Good idea!
  So, i wont really bore you with all the details (well i'll try not to) but here goes...
  Theres this guy in my class Brendan, he's been in my class for the past 2 years. He's so friendly with everyone and he's really nice. He has a certain thing to him.I've noticed over the past few months that i've developed a 'thing' for him. But one night my friend was trying to persuade me to go out for the night and i wasnt up for it but then she said someone else said Brendan would be there (because it was his cousins birthday) so i said i would..{surprise,surprise}.
  So that night it turns out he wasnt there but his slightly older brother (John) was. I got talking to him.And he must have guessed from my questions that i really liked Brendan,but it didnt seem to matter to him cos after a while,and after only 3 drinks, he kissed me.That went on for a while,and so on. I only realised when i got home that night what a MASSIVE mistake that was. How could i have been so stupid!?
  So in school Brendan never mentioned anything about it to me,i kinda assumed he didnt know.But then all his friends started slaggin me off about it and then i knew he knew,but he still didnt say anything to me.It was probably because he didnt want to hear any details about it,it was his brother after all!
  A while before this i had asked Brendan to our Debs Ball,but he said he had just asked someone. I couldnt think of anyone else,so i asked John.He said he'd love to go.
  So bla bla bla,anyway the last day of school our class all went out for the night and that night i really thought i felt 'something'..you know???
  Its hard to know exactly what im talkin about but you kinda have to be me to know all the details.
  But see its gotten to a stage in my mind where i have to tell him how i feel.I cant have it all in my head anymore. I have to know if he feels the same way,at all.
  I know the idea of telling him all this just screams stupidity and heart-break,but trying not to sound pathetic, I cry everyday thinkin about how i'll be if i dont do it.
  This is the hardest thing i've ever had to do, and if he doesnt feel the same way i'll lose one of my best friends. Im gonna hate that so much,but i need to do this, seems ironic but its for my health,in the end. See..Im crying again!?
  I just need some reassurance that i have my heart in the right place.
  I know i'll hate never being able to speak to him again,which could happen. This is so hard.
  Do you have any advice for me.I'll be doing this next week.
  Thanx for your time,
  Alicia*
  

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• My guy is too busy for me -- Neglected, 03:09:03 06/04/02 Tue
  Dear Elisha,
  
  My guy and i have been together for almost 2 years now. i love him and i know he loves me to death, but there are times when i feel that he can get so busy and so caught up in his work that he tends to "forget" me. Dont get me wrong...im glad that he takes his studies seriously and that he works hard and everything, but there are times when i actually question our realtionship. i ask myself if i should stick around and be the supportive girlfriend, or if deserve sombody who will give me more of his time. Hope you can help me with my dilemma. --Neglected
  

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• He's driving me insane! -- Jaime, 18:27:41 06/01/02 Sat
  
  Hello. My name is Jaime, & I'm a 21 yr. old female, and I got a major problem that I need help with.
  About a year and a half ago, I met this guy through a mutual friend that also happens to be one of my best friends named Levi. I met Bryan, through Levi, who's 24. Well, in the beginning, he really liked me, I mean, really liked me. He was the sweetest thing, complementing me, etc. I was really obstinate towards him, but then I began to realize that he was san awesome guy. When I had finally told him that I liked him, from what I thought would have been a postive response, he clammed up, and began to push me away. Well, I found out that he had been in this relationship with this girl for 3 yrs., who did a lot of horrible things to him; very abusive, broke his nose a few times, beat him all the time, then had her sister hit her, call the cops on him, he'd go to jail for things he never even did, which cost his parents and stuff a lot of financial problems getting him out of the bind; she cheated on him, had a kid, told him it was his for 8 mths., then to find out it wasn't his, cheated on him numerous times, insulted him, you name it. He has very low self-esteem, he attempted suicide when he was 17, has anxiety real badly, & has an alcohol problem. But overall, he is an amazing indiviudual. Well, Bryan would always make it clear to me that he didn't want a relationship, & even though he loved hanging out with me, around my friends, he would insult me, & he would really hurt me sometimes. I ended up telling him that I loved him awhile back, & he acted like it was the craziest thing he ever heard, & insisted on why I loved him, & didn't believe anyone could. He always ran to me when he had problems, I was always there; more than anyone. I showed him that I cared; even though he repeatidly kept going back to Jean, I was always there for a shoulder to cry on.Now, after awhile, we began to get even more closer; & he had never told me in any way that he cared about me, drunk, or sober, till these two other times, when he had been drinking, he had told me how he felt, even telling me he loved me. He always got really jealous of me flirting with other guys, & insisted on us just being friends. He always wanted to hang out with me, & we were always together, & he shared all of his problems with me, & we were still sleeping with each other on top of it. But, there were times, it seemed, that he almost got off on hurting me; I don't know why. He has a great deal of problems related to the way in which Jean has treated him; she has total control of him, & he loves her daughter to death. He refuses to commit to me, & sometimes, when he's been away from Jean for awhile, he'll start to, then she'll call him, & it goes back to the beginning. He has hurt me a lot, & I have been there for him through everything, & I'm just so confused. He recently got back together with Jean, & she found out that we were freinds, & prohibits him from hanging out with me, & he's so scared of her, he does so. Jean also has made continuous threats towards me, & Bryan & I think it's best that we deny that we ever slept with him, 'cause she is a very dangerous individual, & I stay completely away for this reason. He's treated me really badly this last time, & I'm so hurt, I don't know what to do... He gets upset a lot; feeling unloved, & miserable. He's suicidal, & feels like no one loves him, even though I've tried with all my heart to show him & love him, but he insists on me telling him 'why?' Lately though, it's gotten rather strange. He appears to be letting me get closer to him; actually expressing his feelings on life, how he feels, etc., & as I said earier, never before, drunk or sober, had he verbally told me that he cared about me in any way, until recently a few months ago, he told me he loved me. Well, Jean calls, & I'm out of the picture once again. He loves her daughter so much, even though it's not his, & has trouble leaving her for this reason. He gets really upset about the little girl. He seems as though he tries to stay away from her, & he'll get so confident that he can do it, only to be thrown back into this pit. I've been there for him through everything, but he keeps going back to her, no matter how much she hurts him, & refuses to be with me, & even though when we are together, we're more of a couple than anyone could ever be, he just doesn't want to say the words that we're together. He insists that we're just 'friends', but that isn't so. Sometimes, he acts as though he cares so much, then he pushes me away; starts the cutdowns, that he claims are just jokes. I don't want to think that the whole time I was with him, he didn't care anything for me, but I don't know. There were times, he acted as though he cared so much, but other times, he would put me down, but tell me he was kidding, even though it would hurt me. Then, I'll cry sometimes in front of him, & he acts as though he doesn't known what to do; it's as if it scares him off somewhat. He has trouble reacting to the fact that I actually love the guy; we've shared everything together, & I've been there for him. I wouldn't like to think that he doesn't care about me. Could this be possible? Or could it possibly be that he loves me, but just doesn't know how to react, being he's been abused to much by Jean? I don't know if I should take it personally, the reason he doesn't want to be with me, or the fact that he has something wrong with him, & can't let him go. I'm through with him hurting me, I really am, I just want to know what is going on with him; how he could go from liking me so much in the beginning, to pushing me away in the end just cause I showed him I care. You'd think he'd like someone who showed they cared, in comparison to the way Jean treats him. I don't know whether to take his behavior personally; if it's just me, or what. I don't know. He throws out mixed signals... I am a real mess because of this situation, I can't seem to get over him no matter how hard I try. It's ruining my life. What am I to do, & does he care about me? Or am I just being used? What exactly is going on here? Should I take it personally? Why would he treat me this way, after the way I've treated him? Why does he keep doing this to me, & why won't be commit to me? Is it because he doesn't think I'm good enough? Why does he get off on insulting me, & hurting me? I'm a real mess, & I would really like some imput, so if you can email me your thoughts, I'd really appriciate it. I know that being with him is not good for me, but I cannot seem to get this through my head. It has really put a burden on my life, where it's all I think about, it's all I want. I get physically sick, & I cry a lot. I start counseling next week. I just don't know what to do. I don't know what's going on with him, don't know whether he cares about me, don't know why he won't commit to me... I'm hurting so badly inside, it's killing me. He has hurt my self worth, my self esteem has gone down, & made me feel bad about myself all for the sake of showing him love, & making him feel good about himself, but somehow, I can't let go. It's as if I'm addicted to him, & I want to be with him so badly, but yet, my mind's telling me I don't. I know that this isn't good for me, & I want to move away from him, but it's almost as if I'm addicted to him. I have depression on top of it; which doesn't help either. I don't know what's wrong with me; why I insist on being with someone that hurts me the way he does. I just want to move on with my life. Not to mention, I feel uncomfortable sleeping with other guys, or getting close to guys outside of Bryan... Please help!
  
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• I love this girl but she has a boyfriend -- Greb, 03:15:59 05/28/02 Tue
  I love this girl that I work with however she has a boyfriend of about two years. She and I once had an encounter however nothing came to fruition. She knows how I feel, and sometimes I think she still has some sort of connection with me. I know she doesn't want me to leave my job. I do things for her around work, I have even sent her flowers and love letters, her response to them was ok but not want I wanted. I want her to leave her boyfriend and experience life as it should be not just a comfort zone. What can I do? How should i react to her? Should I give her an ultimatem? I love her - Help me.
  

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• Need Relationship With Meaning -- James, 13:26:12 04/10/02 Wed
  Im 16, Im at the top of my class, Im smart, Im popular, Im attractive, I have a good sense of humor, and im easy to get along with. But, still, i only have friends and some one night flings. I am not very outgoing, but would get involved if such opportunity would arise. All of my friends are involved in relationships, but i am left to fend by myself. How can i find or attract someone that could make my loneliness pass? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
  

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• Searching For Someone to Love -- Ed, 14:10:04 05/09/02 Thu
  I am older 50+ and I am seeking aomeone to be with the rest of my life. Problem is I don't know where to find her. I am fun and I love to cook fish play Yahtzee have candlelite dinners walks I just need someone with these interests and willing to give 50/50 in a relationship. I don't think this exist. I don't want to spend money for a dating service that only gives names I want someone real do you have any sugestions
  

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• Lost In Love With Tears -- Anna, 12:21:40 04/24/02 Wed
  Ok, I met a guy in a dance last friday. He was perfect and I totally fell in love with him. He lives in Montague, PEI, Canada, if anyone knows him (Dan) plz e-mail me cause I just love him so much, I cry every night cause I dunno his address, e-mail or anything. I'm totally lost in love. Plz help me everybody who reads this. I need help really bad.
  
  Luv, snoop_chick17@hotmail.com
  

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• :~( -- Anna, 12:20:34 04/24/02 Wed
  Ok, I met a guy in a dance last friday. He was perfect and I totally fell in love with him. He lives in Montague, PEI, Canada, if anyone knows him (Dan) plz e-mail me cause I just love him so much, I cry every night cause I dunno his address, e-mail or anything. I'm totally lost in love. Plz help me everybody who reads this. I need help really bad.
  
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• Alone and Confused -- Jo K, 08:54:38 04/08/02 Mon
  Almost a year ago I started e-mailing with a guy in my area. We would e-mail each other for about a week then I would disappear on him for about 3 months. A few weeks ago we started texting each other every day on our mobile phones and he asked me out. We went out for a meal, he appeared with a gift, paid for the meal and we got on very well. He took me home, he came in for coffee and the evening was spent cuddled up together on the sofa. We again text messaged each other every day and the following week we went out for the day. He again turned up with a gift, we went for a meal which he paid for, then went for a country walk holding hands, and hugging and kissing and I told him he could stay over if he wanted to. We went back to my house, one thing led to another and I ended up partially undressed on the sofa although we didn't go all the way. He said was it ok with me if he didn't stay over as he was a little nervous about leaving his car outside my house all night (I live in a slightly rough area) and next time he came round he would come in his other car as he wouldn't worry about that being parked outside all night. He kissed me and left. And I haven't heard from him since. I've text messaged him, had receipts for my messages but no answer. What is going on?
  

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• Sharing Love With Another Woman -- Lena, 20:37:56 03/25/02 Mon
  I wif a married man for nine mths, we loved each other so much, although we do quarrels, but after some time we patched back again. I don't dare to ask him whether will he divorce or not?? So teach me how to prove that he is serious.
  

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• prove my love -- hairy1, 15:07:36 03/05/02 Tue
  i am in the process of getting a divorce. i am very in love with a women that i meant several months ago. we hav had our ups and downs. however now she thinks that i don't really love that i just need her because of the divorce i ma going through and that i will no want her after it is done. How do i convince her that i do love her and am not just looking for a shoulder or whatever during this rough time? Please please give me a clue or direction. thanks
  

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• sudden changed -- Angela, 14:50:15 01/22/02 Tue
  Hi Elisha, I met a young man from the game zone, he said hello and we talk after a few time we seems to fall inlove with each other, he is Canadian live in Quebec, and I live in Kit.Ont. he know about my age, and he said age is not important, then I went up to visit him, he sounds like a nice person, he told me he love dancing, he has no job, he had an car accident after high school gradulation, he lost part of the eye sight and smelling funtion etc. he loves computer, and his phone line was cut, because he didn't pay, he said his ex-girl friend call long distance call to cost him $600, and I help him to pay, and help him many times totally $6,000, and I bought him a nice watch cost $ 600, he asked me to co-sign the At&T cellular phone, find out it was in my name, he didn't tell me that, the last time, I deposit $1,200 to his account for his computer, he said he will tell me all the details, but absolutely didn't hear from him any more, and he said he was running a show at the restaurant, need $1,200 no body will help him, I paid him the money, and sent him a lot of gifts by ex-press post and Priority post etc, twice a week, any way, he has a very sweet talk and email and letter to me, but he wanted me to go up before Christmas, immediately, I said I have a party to go, he jus couldn't wait and he said I hate that, any way we talk about that I will go to Quebec on Monday, the train schedule change , I had to be there one day before, on Sunday, be fore I went I email and tried every way to contact him, he never answer me, finally I get there, he was not home, and I finally got him, he said I can not stay with him, he was busy, and tired , in 10 minutes, I had to leave, or he will call the Police, I was shock, and I said I have some thing for you, then I asked him to wait at the PC Center, and I carried the luggage and was rain, and I almost fell down twice, finally I got there, and gave him the gifts, he sat there seems angry and sad, he didn't say a word, I left, after I got back, I tried to email him, and I said I will buy him a cellular phone, he said will think about that, and give me a reply in a few days, but never contact me any more, I think he must angry with my letter to him, while I was at the Hotel that night, I wrote him a nasty letter, I said he has no family educated, tell him go to hell, and he doesn't desert me, i am a good Catholic etc. he always do not answer my phone, after all he has a cellular phone , he doesn't want me to call, he said he is not a liar, he is not a cheater, I thing he is every thaing. what do you think about the situation, please advice me what to do. thanks.
  
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• lost in love -- Sharon, 15:49:48 02/17/02 Sun
  Hey!
  Ok, im noy really sure how to tell you this but here it goes. My exboyfriend and i dated for 9 years and we broke up about 2 years ago. But we still talk on the phone alot and even hang out sometimes. When we first met we were really young and it was wierd b/c when we were introduced to each other we both kept starring at each other like we were in a trance or something. When we broke up he said we would still be friend and he just said he neede sometime b/c he didnt no if it was Gods Will for us to be together or not. I really need your help i dont want to lose his friendship, but i dont no how many more times i can hang up the phone without slipping an i love you. Please help me?
  

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• help me please -- rey, 23:03:00 02/14/02 Thu
  i really like this girl alot right but she dont belive that im in love with her why is that
  

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• sad & troubled -- Cathrine, 10:55:42 02/09/02 Sat
  hey Elisha was up?¿ im really depressed even though i sorta sound happy... but anyways it's cuz in december 2001 i really liked a guy and he didn't like me at all so i was REALY sad :( but then in january he started to like me, so we went out. i was sooooo happy!! :) but now that i finally have him... i started liking my ex-boyfriend (who never really liked me in the first place, he just went out with me for about a week because he felt sorry for me, which made it a pretty bad relationship) and i fear i like him more than my b/f. he's cuter and if i went with him again i'm POSITIVE i'd love him 4ever!! (even if he didn't love me). so my questions are.... should i break up with my b/f for all those reasons and tell the guy i like that i like him again and possibly go out with him if he wanted to?? because after all i think he might be the one for me even though he doesn't realise it!! and how can i deal with my b/f without hurting him??? because he's been a wonderful boyfriend and i feel very bad about all this. so can you PLEZZZZZZE help me!!!!!
  

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• Im inlove in aw rong time place and person -- kate, 23:56:36 02/06/02 Wed
  hi der im have a bf were 31/2 years already, i cannot say that this relataionship is perfect though it last long well so many problem arises, he cheated me at the start and i cheated him....thats a cycle..but were still in bond...we say sori and after a while we promised that we will never do such thing,,,i belive him im so loyal but it doesnt lasted for a while...we had this argument and he told me that he wanna be alone so i let him go...after a while again a few weeks he came back again...so then our relationship is smooth sailin again...but one night as a i attend tis symposioum(appearnce of Virgin Mary)i got appreciation with these man whom i know for about a year, he nothing to me...he is just an ordianry person...but u know on that night it seems the whole world change......he became the center of my mind....when i got home i called him and talk abot the symposium...after that hes my regular pal....she had a gf..but in the ned he fall inlove to me...and im too....were inlove in a wrong time because the the two person ........can u please help me
  

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• Still in love!!! -- Jennifer, 13:06:13 01/25/02 Fri
  Hi. um well to start off with I'm 17 and the first guy I ever dated I lost my virinity to his name is Andy, but we were going out for a little while I was in love with him and he was in love with me and one day I got really drunk and I cheated on him. But after that he was still willing to work things out and then I kinda messed around with another guy while we were in the process of talking and he said that he didnt want to talk to me anymore but we could still be friends, but now were still friends but I want him back as a boyfriend and I think he feels the same way, because him and his girlfriend broke up on our annaversy. but I know that things would never be the same. confused and still in love what should I do?
  

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• HELP! -- Sunshine, 13:25:19 01/08/02 Tue
  My ex - boyfriend of 3 months decided that we should be friends because he was going through problems that he didn't want to involve me in so he said that it's best that we be friends until he deal with his problems I helped him the best way that I can I am still in love with him he said that we are going to get back together after he deals with his problems we still talk on the phone and we still care about each other I offered to help him the best way that I can I told him that if that's what he got to do then do it I understand he said that he's not trying to hurt me in any kind of way he just didn't want to involve me in his personal problems. Do you think that he did the right thing? Do you think that we will ever get back together agian?
  

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• rebound??? -- Timothy baugh, 21:10:16 12/21/01 Fri
  Alright heres my situation i hope u can help me because no one else hasbeen able to not even my friends..... im 15/m/pa......theres this girl named noelle and i really like her and we went out in 8th grade and then i broke up wit ehr and then we stopped talkin for a while and then we started to talk again over last summer and we were bout to go out and one of her friends told me that she didnt want to go out with me which wasnt true she really did want to but i ended up touchin another girls butt at the 9th grade orientation and she saw me so we stopped talkin again and now were talkin again and i told her that i have never really stopped likin her ever since last year and she told her best friend who is my best friend too that she liked me again too but she thinks that im jsut usin her as a rebound and im not i know im not but i dont know what to say to her and ive tried everything so maybe if u would help me it would be really kewl thanx
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• libido booster -- dee mates, 10:02:00 12/18/01 Tue
  My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years now and in the beginning the sex was great but I seem to have lost interest in the last year. I'm crazy about him so that's not the problem. He wants me to try an all natural product called Natural Libido Booster. Apparently this product works for both men and women and is safe. Anybody know anything about this type of thing.
  

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• my bf filmed it down! -- sadd, 08:23:18 09/29/01 Sat
  while i was using my bf's computer one day, i found a recorded movie item in his folder. not knowing what it was, i open it to take a look.i was horrified to know that he actually recorded he and his ex having sex! it was the whole procedure, from foreplay to orgasm!(he told me that he has thrown away everything that is related to him and his ex and he claimed to me he was a virgin too.) i was pretty upset about it and demand an explaination from him. he told me that it is just a movie he made for himself and nothing much. and he just quickly shut down the computer.
  i was pretty angry that i storm out of his home and never ans his phone call
  it has been 2 wks since the incident and i really dont know what to do now. please advise.
  

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• Hurt -- Nikki, 13:03:02 12/06/01 Thu
  I have been hurt terribly...I am soo infatuated with a guy named Ryan. It used to be great, hugs everyday, talk to each other all the time on the internet and the phone, talked to each at school.he would say luv ya and xoxoxo whenever our "internet conversations" would end.(He led me on to think that he felt the same way about me that I felt about him, or at least thats what I think he did)Well I was afraid to ask him out because I wasnt completly sure that he liked me.So I went on friends screen name to talk to him over the internet and pretend to be someone else.(sounds immature I know but I was soooo curious)I asked him questions like if he had a girlfriend, and things like that, when he stated that he likes someone at school, REALLY liked her. I asked what she looked like and to my suprise he said she had beautiful green eyes and long brown hair...I have brown eyes and blonde hair. I was astonished because I was so sure that he liked me. It hurt me soo bad because I actually believed that he liked me. So I delved into is his personal life a little more and asked if he had a lot of admirers, he said yes but he doesnt like any of them. I asked if he thought they were "ugly" and to my dismay he said "to tell ya the truth, yeah". That hit me like a ton of bricks because I was sure he knew that I liked him. and now he thinks Im ugly. He didnt name any names because I "lived" in texas and "i wouldnt know who they are"(we actually live in Florida)I also asked if he thought there were any cute girls at school, he said yes, and asked if he would go out with any of them and he said no(because he is "in love" with the green eyed girl)I DONT GET GUYS THESE DAYS!!!! Why do they have to lead girls on to think things that arent true? Why do they play with girls emotions? I dont get it. I really like him and now I dont know how to act around him.What do I say to him? he didnt know i was me having the internet converstion with him but now I know his true thoughts.
  

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• i don't know his feeling -- girl in jb, 23:21:47 11/26/01 Mon
  hi elisha!!!whatz up...here i want to talk you about my love problem...i have a bf....but i still don't know about his feel at me...sometimes he said he love me...but sometimes he talk to me like his friend only...especially in telephone.....i don't know.....but..i love him so much...i meet him was six month ago....i don't know how must i do????please help me elisha...i will waiting for your answer...ok bye...
  

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• Communication problems- -- Emma, 12:54:38 11/11/01 Sun
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• Kevin-Wendy's Forever soulmate -- Wendy, 08:03:48 11/01/01 Thu
  Dear Elisha,
  Thank God I found your page. I really need your help-even though I don't know you, it's worth a shot. I am completely in love with this awesome man named Kevin who is ten years younger than me, but so what!! The trouble is that he has been hurt so much in the past and has major trust issues. How can I get him to believe in me and trust me that I would never hurt him. It has taken me four years to get as far as have with him. At times he starts to come out of his shell and I get thrilled- then the wall goes up and I'm back to square one. Please help me, Elisha-I love that man with every fiber of my being and it's killing me to see him this way.
  

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• LONG DISTANCE LOVE -- sofia, 12:03:21 10/03/01 Wed
  hey elisha!!
  watz up? well im kinda confused right now.. u see,im from spain but i live in englandd. i went to spain for the summer and i met this guy and i really liked him and luckily he liked me back(though he told me this the last day i was in spain) and weve been writing to each other every single day and try to chat or talk on the phone as much as we can.. the feelings towards each other still remain the same and there were even more hopes cuz i was gonna move back to spain for good.. now im not moving anymore.. and i feel really confused cuz i have the feeling this relationship is gonna b a waste of time if we wont b able to b together ; that its not leading anywhere.. and i dont wanna hurt him or hurt myself... but i love him soo much!!!! im gonna see him again iin december.. what should i do???? please help!!! should i just give up or fight for my feelings towards him???
  

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• confuse -- gal, 00:15:21 09/10/01 Mon
  i got to knoe this guy during a friends gathering.he always call me and i get very irritated and i avoid his call.after a year he call me he know i was aviding his call.he told me that he like me.he told me this "you should give yourself a chance and if you are my gf i will treasure you".after the call i recall back cause i dont expect he will like me.from my impression he always got gf after each break he was like a flirt.but after that i was thinking of it.when he call i start to panic alittle, and thinking of him. after afew months i found that he has a gf.but he always call me out.
  i dont koe what to do i start to avoid his call again.am i in love with him?
  

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• Confused -- confused girl, 20:25:26 08/31/01 Fri
  hi,
  I am studying in a all girls school and now i have a big crush on a girl!!!!I am so crazy about her .She is a tomboy.Am i normal What should i do?I canot forget her
  

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  • Re: Confused -- Dr. Leslie, 06:44:18 09/02/01 Sun
  
  
• Can't stand these doubts.... -- Janira, 15:53:06 05/11/01 Fri
  Hi Elisha! I really need some good advice.. I mean, it's really urgent. It's a bit of a long story, so I hope u don't mind..
  So, I've been going out with my bf for 8 months now and since day 1 I've absolutely adored him - I mean, he's everything I've ever wished for. But at the beginning of our relationship we had a problem. Some six months before we started dating, he had dated a friend of mine for a few weeks, but they didn't last long cause he had been very busy and couldn't possibly spare any of his time for her. So she left him, and now she's been going out with this really sweet guy for over a year now... However, a week after we started dating was the birthday of this ex-gf of his, and he sent her a letter. My bf only told me about this letter some 2 weeks after it was written, and he said that it only contained thankful messages. But later I got to know from a good friend of mine who'd seen the letter (cause his ex-gf had apparently been showing it to all our friends)that the letter was actually a love-letter, telling his ex-gf that he still loved her and that they were born to be together. But my bf insisted that all my friends, including his ex-gf had misinterpreted the letter, and that they were twisting facts to ruin our relationship. I wanted to believe my bf, and in fact I took his side instead of listening to my friends and read the letter. I told my bf that I wouldn't read the letter as a matter of principle cause I totally trusted him, but inside I was shattered and tormented by this doubt. This doubt that after all my friends were right kept haunting me, and some 4 months ago,I was in my bf's room alone, and found a copy of the letter he'd sent on his computer, and I read it...
  I cried when I realised the horrible truth. He'd asked his ex-gf to forgive him for not finding time for her when they were together, he told her that he still loved her, and that they were born to be together... After reading the letter, I had to control my emotions, cause my bf was due to return home soon. I never told him I read the letter, cause I didn't want to get into a closed case once again, I knew it would be painful. Whenever we remember of that incident, my bf tells me that the letter he'd written doesn't have any sense, cause with her actions, his ex-gf had made him get to hate her-according to him, by exposing the letter in public she wanted to revenge herself against him. Now the friends I had before don't trust me with their personal lives anymore, we don't share the intimate secrets and gossip we used to.. I feel as if I've hurt them by not wanting to believe their version but believed my bf instead. I can live without friends, cause my bf has turned out to be my best friend, to whom I can tell anything. The problem now is that I can't understand why he sent such a letter to his ex-gf once he was already going out with me, I can't understand what was the purpose of his lying to me about the content of the letter, and above all, I want to know whether I can trust him now when he says that I'm everything for him... I can tell by everything he does that he loves me, but I can't help fearing that he'll lie to me again someday... How can I stop these doubts from destroying me? How can I tell him that I've actually read the letter and that I've been hiding him my knowing the truth for all this time? Please help me, cause I don't wanna lose him!!!!!!
  

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  • Re: Can't stand these doubts.... -- Ezalia, 13:03:41 08/02/01 Thu
  
  
• Too harsh?? -- Azalia, 07:55:49 07/29/01 Sun
  Hey Elisha, i need ur view. My boyfriend and I have been together for a yr plus now, and we are getting better and better everyday. We used to fight every single day, and i tell u the hurt is still in us. But now, every single time we have we cherishh them and get all over each other like a newly-met couple. However when we fight, we get all violent and harsh. He slapped me once before, and i just walked off and broke off with him. Last week, we fought and we get physically abusive. I slapped him, and he returned a slap across my left cheek. 30 mins later he called my mobile phone and apologised, and everything's like never happpened. I still love him , and so does he. We are going on very fine, but do you think this is normal? We thought of going for proffesional counselling, but is the money worth it all? Thanks
  

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• Too harsh?? -- Azalia, 07:54:23 07/29/01 Sun
  Hey Elisha, i need ur view. My boyfriend and I have been together for a yr plus now, and we are getting better and better everyday. We used to fight every single day, and i tell u the hurt is still in us. But now, every single time we have we cherishh them and get all over each other like a newly-met couple. However when we fight, we get all violent and harsh. He slapped me once before, and i just walked off and broke off with him. Last week, we fought and we get physically abusive. I slapped him, and he returned a slap across my left cheek. 30 mins later he called my mobile phone and apologised, and everything's like never happpened. I still love him , and so does he. We are going on very fine, but do you think this is normal? We thought of going for proffesional counselling, but is the money worth it all? Thanks
  

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• Torn Between Two Beautiful Ladies -- Randy, 17:15:06 07/04/01 Wed
  I have been going out with a girl for six weeks and she is in love with me. She wants to become more serious but I don't want to. I met another girl who is just as hot, and I am torn between both. Help me, please!!!!
  

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  • Re: Torn Between Two Beautiful Ladies -- Fiona, 22:08:17 07/25/01 Wed
  
  
• Still alone -- vinod, 02:24:36 06/05/01 Tue
  Hi alisha,
  How you've been.'bout me So I'm still cold in my love life.I've been ditched three times.First I came to know what love is,second time I was thrown in a hell of hurt and pain,third I found myself hangin'.Forget 'bout the first two ,talk 'bout present.I've been love with a girl.I met her in my college and I proposed her after few days.But she was against to me.But Still I'm her friend and keep tryin' to change her my mind,'cause I love her a lot
  One of her friend told me that she also was dumped by a guy whom she loved a lot.The reason was that she ne'er said yes to her but used to loved her and the guy left her.And slapped her thru' his words.And now she has made up her mind
  to not to love anybody.she just follow the instruction
  of her mother,and tell me to be her friend only.We're extreme good friends of each other,I explain everything 'bout me and she too.But she's still walkin' on same old streets with keepin' same old feelins'on her mind.She's too
  sensetive and emotional.she share many things with me but not everything.I want her to be open to me and should know that same things ne'er happen again & again
  Help me if you can I "ll be thankful to you always.Mail me soon :vinod
  

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• what should we do??? -- jenny, 11:45:44 05/07/01 Mon
  hey elisha!!!
  watz up?? well, lets see... i really like this guy and i know for sure that he really likes me back too. the problem is that he works in our school, and he is 22 (i am 16) even though he really likes me he doesnt want to take the first step because he thinks it would be wrong (i guess becuz of the age diff and stuff) and now he wont even talk to me anymore, and he tries to avoid me all the time. what should i do???!! thanks for the help!!!
  

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  • Re: what should we do??? -- teensharka, 15:38:56 06/04/01 Mon
  
  
• trouble in my puppy love -- teensharka, 15:30:22 06/04/01 Mon
  As the name suggests, I'm a teenage male. I have asked a girl out and she responded eagerly that she would. That was two weeks ago. At first we were all huggy. She's really really huggy with all of her female friends too. Then some weird things came into play. She told some people that I was a little clingly and it came back to me. I heard this and talked to her, but I felt weird afterwards and tried to keep my respective distance. She felt bad that I heard and said that if It really bugged her that she would have told me. She also thought that I lied about something I said about one of my friends and was mad at me for *lieing* to her. I straitend things out almost a week ago, but she seems kind of reserved now with me. It seems like she avoids me. And I don't follow her around everywhere. The thing is. When I talk to her about it she tells me that she thinks that I'm acting strangly. She thinks what I am but about me. Any help is good help. Thanks.
  

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• a weekend of love -- Travis, 20:27:09 05/13/01 Sun
  I havnt seen my fiance in a while do to the Navy, and I get to see her for about 3 days, i was wondering if you could gives some ideas to do because I dont think we are going to leave the hotel, and I want to make it special but also erotic.
  
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  • Re: a weekend of love -- Paula-Marie, 10:35:21 05/15/01 Tue
  
  
• pic message -- melissa, 16:08:20 05/04/01 Fri
  hey elisha!!! ok, i hope u can help me with this... u see, the guy i like gave this picture to my little brother (dunno why...) i saw the pic. in the middle there was a pic of him and of me standing on each side of a heart and kissing it. in the middle of the heart there was a tree with a book that said: DO MA ME. in the background there were animals and mountains and a sun with glasses. at the bottom, in very big letters he wrote LIYKFMATMILY. his initials are ma and mine are mf. can u help me decipher this code??? and what does the pic mean???? well, congratulations for the cool site!!! bye!!
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• help -- carlos, 00:11:06 04/14/01 Sat
  Hello there Elisha.
  I'm 20 years old, i'm currently studying medicine in a mexican university. I have never had girfriend in my life, probably because i'm too ugly or too boring (i don't want to appear like a pathetic martyr to you, but that's what girls tell me) so i started to have angry vengeful feelings towards girls...I hated girls you might say. But there is one girl that changed my whole prespective. She is kind, beautiful, friendly, does not judge anyone by their appearence and she and I have the highest grades in the class. We have a lot in common, but she is seeing someone else (surprise, surprise !!)...I don't know waht to do...Can you help me? she is the one, i'm sure of it.
  

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  • Re: help -- Elisha, 10:38:07 05/02/01 Wed
  
  
• what does it mean??!!! -- rebecca, 12:27:53 04/20/01 Fri
  hey elisha!!! im a bit confused right now.... u see, i really like my biology tutor who is also my little sister's teacher (well, he's a student teacher and hes only 22 yrs old) at first, we would get along pretty well but now he is so different!! apart from geometry stuff, he never talks to me like we used to do. its getting really frustrating cuz hes always joking around my friends but he never speaks to me anymore. but my little sister just told me today that she is fed up with him because everyday during her recess time he always asks her about me and my personal stuff like the clothes i wear, my hairstyle, what im gonna do on the weekends, etc. etc. what does this mean?? is he too shy? does he hate me? or is he just plain weird?????
  

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• He's younger than me ! -- Dana, 06:27:20 04/03/01 Tue
  i am in love with a guy who's 16 year's old younger than me ! while i am 19 years old ! quite big different! he loved me so much and have proved to me how i meant to him , it's been more than one year and finally i just shared him this feeling this year! i couldn't loved him at all because of his age! and as my sisters always warned me and didn't like the relation to be serious .. but i just gave up this year as i didn't want to hurt him more and finally found a way to love him! i sometimes ask my self if i really love him or not! but anyway .. the real pro now is that because of his adolescence and his changing moods.. so lately i feel like he just want to make any problems everytime we chat or talk on the phone! he sometimes say weird things and asked me many times if i still loved him! i told him we can't go on like this! now i just wish if he only he was older than me so that he would be more understanding and would surely be more mature.. but what's the point of wishing! i just need some advice if i should keep and improve this wierd relationship or to fiind a good way to end it as we have some different thoughts and personalities!? but still don't wan't to hurt him at all as i have already hurt him before and rejected him! so what should i do ? please some advice ....
  

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• Troubled -- Jermaine, 07:39:08 03/06/01 Tue
  Hi Elisha!! =D
  
  I'm feeling kind of mix up now. I've a wonderful boyfriend for 3 months who treats me really nice and I know that he really loves me deeply. But the problem is I'm beginning to dislike him. Sometimes I don't even feel like holding his hands out in the public and in school because I don't want my friends or people to know that I'm dating him. To be frank, he isn't at least good-looking and I feel that he is not my type. He is rather boring and I like someone who is spontaneous and can make me laugh. But he can't! Nonetheless I couldn't make myself to leave him because though I may dislike him, I do have feelings for him deep down inside me. Another thing is I used to have a crush for this particular guy before I started going out with my boyfriend. Even when I started going out with my boyfriend, my heart still swell whenever I think of my crush. I really like him a lot but I don't have the guts to tell him. I don't know he likes me or not. There has been quite a number of times he took the initiative to talk to me and I sometimes caught him looking at me. But I wasn't sure if he was interested in me at all. Lately news has spread that I've a boyfriend and since then he had stop looking at me and talking to me. What should I do?? Sorry for this long message. Thanks a million~!!!
  

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• Communication problems -- Fairytale, 03:50:38 03/05/01 Mon
  Hi.. Nowdays i'm alway having arguments wif my bf over the smallest, minor thing you can imagine. It seems that we are having comunication problems. This type of quarrel had lead us to break up many times, and i'm quite tired of this already. Sometimes we dun feel like talking to each other coz we know it's going to lead to a heaty quarrel. Can you advise me on how to end this type of problem?
  
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  • Re: Communication problems -- Elisha, 04:03:29 03/05/01 Mon
  
  
• What should i do? -- Dianne, 03:54:28 03/05/01 Mon
  Hello there Elisha!... by d way I have a problem with one guy.... I like this guy in our school, but the thing is he's so shy and then I don't know if he gonna like me! Last time I called him but he said he was busy, then I gave him a card last Christmas Day.... but the thing is... don't you think I'm crazy coz I'm the one who's making the first move???!!! What if he doesn't like me... but I like him so much.... What should I do to get his attention.... and any way he could talk to me... hope u could help me...thanks!
  

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  • Re: What should i do? -- Elisha, 03:55:10 03/05/01 Mon