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Domestic Discipline Chat
DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE CHAT

Welcome to Domestic Discipline Chat! The purpose of this forum is to discuss domestic discipline (including CDD) used by loving couples. Please note the following:
1. The focus of discussion is discipline used by married couples or equivalent (domestic partners, long term relationships, etc.), whether M/F, F/M or F/F.
2. The discipline must be consensual. Consent is not required every time discipline is administered so long as both parties have consented (explicitly or implicitly) to the discipline regime. Abusive relationships are beyond the scope of this forum.
3. Ideally only real life experiences should be discussed, but no one should be surprised if some fantasies get posted. But come on folks, please at least keep your fantasies within reason!
4. The focus of this forum is discipline of ADULTS by ADULTS. However, incidental discussion of discipline involving children will be permitted so long as the focus remains on adult discipline. And while discussion of sexual aspects involving adults is fine, such matters involving children must be avoided.
5. PLEASE POST AN INTRODUCTION!!!
Subject: Implements


Author:
James
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Date Posted: 05:58:50 01/06/26 Tue
What implements do you use or have used on you?

Early in our relationship, I tested a few implements. Paddle, belt, hairbrush, and wooden spoon. I learned very quickly that Katie has a relatively low pain tolerance and she was not a fan of implements. Once we entered into our official domestic discipline agreement we agreed that I would use my hand only.

I do admit that I was a little disappointed by this, but it is not a huge deal for me. The ritual/tone of a spanking is more important to me than maximizing the pain of the spanking.

Our goals for 2026 include working to increase her pain tolerance and also to revisit our agreement and make edits to anything we think needs changing. Katie is currently nursing a broken arm, so that is on hold for now, but I am hopeful she will be agreeable to adding in a small paddle or hairbrush.

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Subject: A Deal Gone Terribly Wrong


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Julia
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Date Posted: 07:32:27 03/20/26 Fri
My sister is in town this week and weekend and ever since she found out Mom spanked me, and has spanked Bryan several times, she’s been talking about it nonstop when we’re alone. She thinks it’s hilarious. She’s hoped all week that one of would get in trouble and get spanked.

Yesterday, I made a deal with Bryan that if he would get himself spanked, I’d go to a concert he’s been wanting to go to. He was extremely hesitant as he hates getting spanked but my offer was too good to pass up. So he agreed to it.

Unfortunately for me, I chose not to tell my sister about our deal and when she realized why he was in trouble, she told Mom she’d saw me doing what he was in trouble for also. Which, to her credit, she didn’t realize yet how much trouble he was in. So she got to see me spanked too.

She hasn’t stopped talking about it yet!

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Subject: Mom's In Charge


Author:
Julia and Bryan
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Date Posted: 07:39:19 03/02/26 Mon
As I wrote yesterday, my hubs got his second spanking of the week from my Mom. Like she always does, she bared him, put him over her lap, and paddled his butt until he was sobbing like a boy. Normally I kind of enjoy watching but I couldn't this time because I knew I was just as guilty as he was.

My Mom was gone this weekend. This is her house and she doesn't make us pay rent. She only asks that we help out with chores and clean up after ourselves. One real rule she does have though is that she doesn't like us to have a lot of company over. She doesn't mind a couple but nothing major. Well, we decided that since she was gone all weekend, it was a great time to have more than usual over. Unfortunately for us, a glass of wine was dropped on the carpet and it left a stain.

What we didn't know was that her neighbor, who's also her best friend, caught her when she got home yesterday and asked about our party. Of course, she knew nothing about it. And to make matters worse, she immediately saw the stain on the carpet when she walked in. My hubs was the first to greet her and she started in on him about the party. He confessed and told her about the wine stain. I came downstairs just in time to see him begging her not to paddle him. But she was pissed.

As he went to get her paddle, she asked if I knew anything about it and I lied. I knew it was wrong but I panicked. He came back and handed her the paddle. I sat down on the couch to watch as she pulled her special chair out, pulled his sweats and boxerbriefs down, and pulled him over her knee. She really blistered his bottom good and he was sobbing by the time she finished. She sent him to the corner and put her paddle up. Watching him get spanked is usually pretty exciting but it wasn't this time because I knew I was just as much to blame as he was.

So I knew what I had to do.

I moved out when I was 18 to go to college when I was 18, I hadn't been spanked since. I really thought my spanking days were over. When we moved in with my Mom, one thing led to another and my husband started getting spanked by her. It was different for him because he wasn't spanked growing up. I'll admit it's been fun and a little hot to watch him get taken to task and humbled by her.

Well, all of that changed last night. After watching him get spanked for something I was just as responsible for, I knew I deserved exactly what he got. I tried to think of every way to get out of it. I tried to rationalize why I shouldn't say anything, convince myself Mom and I didn't have that type of relationship any more, or that I could just find a way to make it up to my husband. But I knew that wasn't right.

After being let out of the corner, my hubs always comes to our room to sulk for a bit. He quickly started in on me that I was guilty too. I confessed that he was right and that I was trying to figure out what to do. He suggested I go take my medicine, just like he had. I finally worked up my courage and decided to do it. Naturally, he followed along to watch like I do him.

Mom was sitting on the couch working on her computer and I sat down next to her. I asked if we could talk and she shut her laptop and said sure. I stuttered around a little and finally just admitted the whole truth. That I had as much to do with the party as Bryan and that I was actually the one who dropped the wine on the carpet. Which alone is bad enough because she doesn't like food or drink in the living room. I could tell she was getting worked up again and asked what I thought we should do about it. I kind of skirted the issue and she asked me what she had done to Bryan. I admitted she spanked him and she asked if I thought I deserved the same thing? I just shook my head yes. All she said was, "very well," and got up and walked out. I knew what she was doing.

She walked back in with the paddle and pulled her chair out. She sat down and said, "alright Julia Lynn, lets go." I got up and slowly walked over to her. I was already teary and she untied my pj bottoms and pulled them down. She then grabbed the waistband of my panties and pulled them down to my ankles. Then I went right over her knee. She gave me a short little lecture about how she hadn't spanked me in years but that she hadn't forgotten how to. She made me admit I knew the rule and which ones I had broken.

Then she started paddling me for the first time in years. It wasn't long before I was crying my eyes out. That paddle hurts so bad and she really let me have it. I swear I was screaming when she swatted my thighs. Somehow, I managed to kick off my pj's and stretch out my panties. When she finally finished, I actually had snot running down my face. She helped me up and over to the corner and I just stood there sobbing while my husband enjoyed the view. I honestly think that made it worse.

While I was standing in the corner, my sister called. I got to listen to Mom tell her all about how she had just spanked me and what I had done to deserve it. Ugh! After about 20 minutes, she let me redress and sat me down for a talk. She warned me about following the rules and that if I forgot who the boss was, I'd be back over her lap again. I certainly don't want that! I then got sent to my room for the night. The hubs and I had a good talk and I'll leave it at that. But there has definitely been another power shift here.

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Subject: Mom and Daughters spanked together


Author:
Cathy
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Date Posted: 08:28:19 03/07/26 Sat
The other evening my daughters went to the library. My husband told them to be home by 8pm. They actually got home at 8:30pm. They apologized for being late and my husband was asleep in his chair, so we thought. I told them not to worry that I would say you were both home on time. I did not realize that he woke up when the girls got home. He called the girls to the living room and asked them what time they got home. They both sad right before 8pm. I said honey they were home on time. He looked at me and said why are you covering for them. I know they were late and you stand there and go right along with them and lie. By this time, he was angry with all three of us. He reached over to the side table and took the paddle out of the drawer. He said I want all three of you to go to your room and report back here in just your bra and panties. I tried to talk him out of it, and I got a swat with the paddle. One by one we went over his knee with our panties removed and receive a sound paddling. All three of us were sobbing after our spanking. My daughters were sent to face the corners, and I was sent to our bedroom. My husband followed me and we had fun in the bed. The girls were sent to bed after their thirty minutes in the corner.

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Subject: To Diane


Author:
Ava to Diane
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Date Posted: 07:59:09 03/10/26 Tue
Hi Diane,
Sorry I posted on your forum before asking for permission to post. I would like to be able to post some of the spankings my children and I have received if that is alright with you.

Ava

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Subject: Drawing it out, and the value of longer spankings


Author:
Emily
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Date Posted: 13:29:09 01/11/26 Sun
Hi everyone,

Unlike myself, who truly HAS to spank full force for it to sting enough, Ruben ensures me that he never uses his full strength when he gives a spanking. Ruben prefers to deliver a higher number of lower strength swats rather than a lower number of higher strength ones. He believes that a longer period of "quality time" while bottoms up over his lap is generally going to make the lesson sink in better, and he definitely tries his best to draw out the spanking in order to get the initial what he calls "protest tears" out and replace them with true sorry bawling and crying.

When I am feeling especially defiant, rebellious, or moody... as much as I don't want to admit it, I have to say this approach to spanking works best for me, and for my girls. You almost feel like you can take it at first, want to "prove a point" somehow by taking the pain, which doesn't start off as bad... but as the thwack thwack thwack of the paddle begins, and keeps on, and on, and ON... you really do forget your silliness. When you've been facedown with your head and chest on the bed, tummy resting on his muscular thigh, your feet wriggling with your bottom burning up for what feels like an eternity... you start to understand how fruitless your defiance is and how childish you are acting. Nothing is more humbling than that.

I always try to deliver a good quality spanking to my Ella and Amelia as best as I can when they have earned it, but that true classic post-spanking sweetness really does come best when Ruben takes over. And that includes myself... ESPECIALLY myself.

It doesn't always feel like it in the moment, but I am quite a lucky woman!

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Subject: Spanking in the diaper position


Author:
Jeanette
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Date Posted: 08:41:46 01/15/26 Thu
I noticed, in a previous thread, that Belle and Diana both mention getting spanked, and also spanking, in the diaper position.
These posts truly resonate with me. My own mother frequently spanked us (my sister and I) in the diaper position.
Much as Diana relates about how much her daughters dislike this position, both my sister and I totally dreaded getting spanked like that, yet at the same time we both had to acknowledge that those spankings were always the most memorable , and therefore were also the most effective.
As an adult getting spanked by my husband in that same position never fails to unlock those same feelings of dread I had as a young girl… in many ways being transported back to seeing my mother take up the wooden ruler, that was usually used to spank us, and then seeing it held aloft in preparation for the coming spanking. This was invariably enough to reduce us to sobbing wrecks, even before the very first ‘smack’ had landed.
Also, as with Diana, knowing just how effective the diaper position can be, I have started using the diaper position when spanking my own daughters.

Jeanette

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Subject: Another One


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Julia
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Date Posted: 14:43:05 03/01/26 Sun
My husband is currently getting his second spanking in a week and I can tell he isn’t enjoying it at all. I feel guilty because I’m just as much at fault as he is. Mom is really letting him have it. Should I confess my part? The problem is that if I do, I’ll be at her mercy from now on like he is.

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Subject: The Tables Have Turned!


Author:
James
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Date Posted: 09:21:25 03/04/26 Wed
I have considered myself a dominant for most of my life. In all of previous relationships, I have been the spanker.

Around 4 or 5 years ago, I started fantasizing about receiving a spanking. There was no triggering event, it just sort of came on. At first, I kept this bottled up. That was pretty easy to do, for the most part I still liked being the one doing the spanking. When I did explore, I did it solo with self spanking.

I was very honest when I first started dating Katie with my desires. I explained that I wanted to be the one in control most of the time, but I also wanted to explore switching, which she was fine with. However, we went awhile without switching.

Roughly 6 months ago I asked Katie if she would be willing to spank me. She was VERY hesitant but didn’t give me an outright no. I respected her boundaries but left the space open for further discussion. Some time passed and she revealed to me that she was not saying no, but just didn’t want to explore that anytime soon.

Recently, we were both in a very good mood and I decided to open up a dialogue about it again. This time, I was successful! We had our first session that night. I wanted to ease her into it, so I had her spank me over the pants and just focus on finding a rhythm. The next session was a few days later-that one was bare and I had her focus on the actual technique, with warmup and focusing on the sit spots.

I am pleasantly surprised by Katie’s ability to give a spanking. Both sessions were long, 15 or 20 minutes, and she’s not afraid to smack hard.

My plan is to keep exploring with her. Eventually, I would like to do specific role play scenarios where I completely give over control to Katie. I want them to include scolding, obeying commands, possibly corner time. I have no interest in DD with me as the submissive, and want to keep it confined to role play with clear cut starting and end points. That said, I will definitely be easing her into the idea and don’t want to put too much on her all at once.

I am open to all comments, questions, and advice!

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Subject: Hi


Author:
Jen
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Date Posted: 19:12:02 01/02/26 Fri
Thanks Diana for starting this. I've been hoping for something like this.

I'm in a DD marriage too. We've been married for 18 years and he has disciplined me throughout. My parents and his parents both have DD marriages so maybe it was inevitable that we do too.

We have two teens. We've given up trying to hide it from them and I think they actually respect me more for the fact that I am disciplined the same way that I discipline them.

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    • Re: Hi -- Jen, 16:39:36 01/12/26 Mon
      • Re: Hi -- Jeffry to Jen, 11:23:46 01/13/26 Tue
        • Re: Hi -- Jen to Jeffry, 15:57:51 01/14/26 Wed
          • Re: Hi -- Jeffry to Jen, 16:48:55 01/14/26 Wed
            • Re: Hi -- Jen to Jeffry, 16:39:43 01/17/26 Sat
              • Re: Hi -- Jeffry to Jen, 07:58:42 01/18/26 Sun
                • Re: Hi -- Jen to Jeffry, 14:30:20 01/20/26 Tue
                  • Re: Hi -- Jeffry to Jen, 07:09:54 01/21/26 Wed
                    • Re: Hi -- Jen to Jeffry, 08:26:24 01/23/26 Fri
                      • Re: Hi -- Jeffry to Jen, 14:58:17 01/23/26 Fri
  • Re: Hi -- Lisa S, 18:05:39 01/20/26 Tue
    • Re: Hi -- Jen to Lisa S, 08:31:07 01/23/26 Fri
Subject: What is your DD/BDSM/spanking fluency?


Author:
Anna
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Date Posted: 06:09:23 01/08/26 Thu
I curious if you are fluent or read a lot about spanking practices in DD relationships, or if you and your partners identify more as BDSM.

My husband and I definitely identify mostly as a Male Lead Spanking relationship, and perhaps then also DD, but not BDSM but it is hard for me to list why. When I was first into spanking before I met my future husband, I relied on the "Taken in Hand" web site Bodack shared. Taken in Hand relationships seemed to be very trusting, and even encouraged the guy to be openly caring, polite, and spoil his woman. As long as her behavior was good she was his center of affection, but if not, Taken in Hand advocated for strong discipline, usually spankings! After that site went away (which was a few years after I was married) I discovered other places that helped give definitions to the ways unique to the lifestyle my husband and I have.

In particular, for the past ten years maybe, I see more use of the term "Consentual Non-Consent" or CNC that best describes how we approach spanking in our relationship. For us, there is no discipline contract or safe words that many couples have. If my behavior slips, which is more uncommon as our relationship matures, I simply trust him to spank me the way he determines best, though I understand other couples feel they need to build in more safety.

Finally maybe we could have a thread to share favorite DD/spanking websites, or podcasts?

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Subject: Good news


Author:
Kev
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Date Posted: 17:26:12 03/02/26 Mon
Good news: I guess you know that I mentor select women from time to time. I heard from a local woman this morning.
She tells me that she feels that she needs mentoring from me.
I haven't met her yet. She is 41. I dont know if she is a Mom. So I might be busy going forward. Let's keep our fingers crossed.

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Subject: Kev2Diana


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Kev
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Date Posted: 09:03:54 03/02/26 Mon
Hi Diana. I apologize, but you may of already shared this:
About how often are you getting spanked? I know that we are not supposed to mention the kids, but how often are you spanking them? I know that you two are wonderful disciplinarians. And that you have a beautiful family.
God bless.

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Subject: For Diana


Author:
Lisa S
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Date Posted: 18:22:33 02/28/26 Sat
Diana
We have chatted here and elsewhere on Voy.
Email if you like.
Thanks
Lisa aka HeightsMom

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Subject: How does everyone feel about maintenance spankings?


Author:
Kev
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Date Posted: 00:31:03 02/28/26 Sat
Greetings. How does everyone feel about maintenance spankings? I have had so many loving online spanking family friends over the years. I now believe in maintenance spankings. Even if they are just loving hand spankings.
My ex wanted these too. I will continue to use them.
They work for us.

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Subject: Hello everyone!


Author:
Emily
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Date Posted: 04:27:22 01/07/26 Wed
Hi everyone,

I'm Emily. I have been married to my wonderful hubby Ruben for almost 9 years now. We have two kids, Ella who is 7 and Amelia who 5.

We have what I suppose you could call a classic domestic discipline relationship where we are all taken in hand by Ruben when needed. I grew up in a household with my father disciplining my mother, my siblings and I, so I knew very early on when I met Ruben that was something I would experience too. Ruben uses his hand and a little wood paddle on me and Ella, but just his hand for now on Amelia. I am also sometimes responsible for disciplining my girls when I am the only one home with them, but I'll be honest... it is very clear that Ruben knows what he is doing better lol. Ruben is a loving husband and father and I am very blessed to be married to such a wonderful man!

Looking forward to getting to know more of you!

Emily

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Subject: DD Relationship with Me and our daughters/Intro


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Cathy
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Date Posted: 05:26:25 01/06/26 Tue
My husband and I have been married for 36 years. We have two daughters ages 18 and 16. All three of us are spanked on our bare bottoms and hand and paddle. When one of us are to be spanked, we are called to the living room where the one(s) to be spanked are stripped nude and stand facing my husband. We are over his knee getting a hand and paddle spanking. Our bare bottoms and a dark crimson with colored splotches.

My husband started spanking me about a year after we had been married. We were both spanked growing up into our teens. One night I forgot to iron a shirt he wanted to wear, and I totally forgot. He became angry and said I should be spanked. The way he said that made me want him to spank me and I said go ahead. He lifted my skirt up and lowered my panties and hand spanked me. Not too hard, but hard enough that I did cry a little. that was the beginning of our DD relationship, and my daughters were spanked my him since they were 5 years old. Now we are at times spanked together.

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Subject: Sis in Law


Author:
Cara
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Date Posted: 13:25:38 01/04/26 Sun
I’m 24 and was spanked by my father until I turned 13. I’m not married but my connection to DD is that my Sister-in-law, Becky, is spanked by my brother.
Becky is 21 (my brother Kyle is 30) and she was raised with spankings until she married Kyle and my brother took over her discipline.

Becky’s spankings were never a secret as Kyle and I both knew her father spanked her. So when Kyle started spanking her no one was surprised. Sometimes I feel sorry for Becky (not just me/others knowing but also being spanked in front of me and her parents) but she’s a wonderful person and loves Kyle deeply and she believes a good wife should be spanked when needed.

I’ve been living with them for the last year so I’ve heard/seen Becky spanked several times. It’s always mixed emotions for me (pure pain/shame for her!) as I feel sorry for her but also appreciate the drama, emotions and the whole kicking bawling bare bottom spanking.
Yes, always bare bottom, usually in just bra on top, and I’ve seen everything from a long childish hand spanking to a hard dose of the wicked wooden spoon to a severe belt lashing.

I do know Becky would prefer I didn’t watch her get spanked, not that she complains but it’s obvious from her red-faced frowning and quivering chin that me watching her panties pulled down etc is very embarrassing for her.

I don’t think I’d ever let my husband spank me - certainly not like Becky gets it - but I respect my brother and their marriage and admit watching my SIL get spanked can be enjoyable.

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Subject: Diana, you once said in the forum that...


Author:
Anna for Diana
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Date Posted: 04:39:21 02/20/26 Fri
Diana, you wrote below that you are not ashamed when you are undressed. You wrote that it is embarrassing WHY you are undressed. Can you describe what leads to these feelings and how you feel about it?

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